(Elle Mills) it's one of those things that you won't truly ever get unless you've gone
through it and it sucks some people might be able to empathize but I don't
think you'll truly ever understand for those of you who don't know who Elle Mills
is she is an amazing amazing creator and she's super young as well but not too
long ago I think it was maybe two or three months ago she had a very very
public freakout and she's been talking more about mental health she was in an
article for NPR they did a little interview too and recently she talked to
Bobby burns about mental health so in this video I'm gonna be explaining how L
Mills as well as many other youtubers suffer from being terminally unique what
is everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is
all about helping you improve your mental health so what I try to do I try
to take things that are going on in the YouTube community and teach you how you
can improve your mental health so if you're any that kind of stuff make sure
you subscribe and ring that notification bell but yeah this is a great example of
so many things of what Elle Mills is going through of what Bobby burns went through
and so many other youtubers so Bobby burns just released a video that yeah he
made with Elle Mills where they're talking about youtuber burnout and
youtuber mental health things like that in the intro of Bobby's video he talks
about Ethan and Hila from h3h3 productions I've done some videos on
them if you want to check them out now what we're gonna do we're gonna be
talking about this video Bobby and Elle made about three different things here
the big one that I want to focus on is what it means to be terminally unique
and you're really going to want to stay tuned until the end of this video
because this might be something that's really affecting you as well as your
mental health alright so the first thing I want to touch on is Elle Mills
freakout video and Bobby burns but because her channel blew up so big and
she was doing so much the anxiety and the depression really got to her
it's so stupid it is so stupid all right so I had to bleep out quite a
bit of stuff so Elle mils during this freakout she's asking herself why why
why am i so unhappy why am I not happy this is everything I ever wanted why am
I not happy this is what I'm trying to tell people right you were sold a lie
Elle Mills was sold a lie Bobby Burns was sold a lie you know what that is
it's a lie so many of us are sold that if you reach this
you will then be happy there is no promises in that so for most youtubers
it's like if you meet a certain amount of subscribers you will be happy for a
lot of us if you get this certain career or this certain job or this certain
boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife or children or if you make this
much money then you will be happy this is the lie that we are all sold
happiness must come from within I talked about this over and over and over and
over on my channel is younger than me this is what I try to teach all of you
that we need to declutter our brain and get away from that idea now once we get
this thing then we'll be happy I talked about it before people think that
success brings happiness but it's the exact opposite happiness will then bring
your success all right now the second thing we're gonna be talking about is
expectations and irrational fears so something that they talked about in this
video was the expectations they put on themselves and the fear of taking a
break from YouTube do you feel like people's expectations are a cause of a
lot of that kind of thing or the way you perceive those expectations
bless them it's more me coming up with what they're thinking almost I I'm like
oh my audience would not like this video but I don't know that I miss I I set
these expectations in my head I've set a bar I now think that every video has to
exceed that bar I don't know what I take long breaks I all I'm thinking about the
anxiety of like oh my god I haven't posted in a month
I need a post now or this is all over the channels done like
you're like it's gonna no one's ever gonna watch my videos again exactly this
is a very irrational fear about taking a break from YouTube
very very very irrational okay to prove my point let me ask you okay if you want
to feel free to leave a comment down below what causes you to unsubscribe
from a channel why is it because somebody took a break or is it because
they make bad contact which one is it have you ever like I recently went
through like a subscription purge and I unsubscribe from a lot of channels that
I just don't watch anymore so I went through and cleaned it out but very
rarely is it somebody who has very good content that is taking a break you know
what I mean so in all mods it's very important to look at rational and
irrational fears this is a huge part about managing anxiety by the way is to
separate these things a lot of youtubers who have taken breaks they don't lose
any of the views they don't lose many subscribers you know what I mean so it's
important that these youtubers who are getting big and need to take breaks like
normal people do they need to overcome that irrational fear but the other thing
that they talked about was their their expectations right and they were having
this kind of conversation this back and forth of you know is it the expectations
that the audience is putting on us or the expectations were putting on
ourselves this is something that you need to ask yourself as well when you
are living in fear right is this good enough is that good enough done enough
whose expectations are you trying to live up to yourself or others you know
what I mean like for me you know back when my mental health was really really
poor like I always thought that I had to be the best and that had to impress
people and the people in my life who loved me they were gonna support me no
matter what you know what I mean so a lot of those expectations I was putting
on myself so we need to start looking at realistic and unrealistic expectations
you see what I'm saying and this is especially true for any type of creative
out there like I talked to so many creators just now that I'm more into the
YouTube community and stuff and there are so many people who just
overthink and I am just the king of overthinking I get it I make stuff and I
put it out I make stuff and I put it out because if I overthink of it and I'm
gonna say oh is this too much is this not good enough could I have done better
and if I keep thinking about that I will never just put any content on to the
channel you know what I mean this is why we have to start building confidence we
need to overcome that impostor syndrome all right so the last thing the third
thing that we're gonna be talking about is being terminally unique all right so
I was watching this over on my twitch stream with some of my followers on
there so make sure you go follow me on Twitch but this part made me just go on
this huge rant YouTube is like a hotbed for creating mental health problems I
think I think it's created a whole new set of problems that people have never
even had before I think maybe it would be on a lower scale but if I hadn't done
YouTube I don't think I would have a lot of these mental health problems I really
truly believe that and it's it's sad all our people who are outside what like
watching in would be like then stop it it's ruining your mental health
it's my passionate yeah I know nothing else I would not want anything else is
all I've worked for the thing that makes me the most happy is also making you the
most okay so what's it mean to be terminally
unique okay let's break that down first terminally unique is something that
people told me about because my mental health was extremely poor those of you
who don't know me I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic and I always
thought you can't help me there's no saving me you don't know me right I'm
different okay this might have worked for you but I'm different so I was so
different than everybody else my brain told me that it was actually going to
kill me we have brains that look for the differences rather than the similarities
so when I saw Elle and Bobbie talking about this I'm like oh my god these kids
are terminally unique they're like YouTube has spread this whole new you
know type of problems no it hasn't it hasn't the problems that you're going
through the problems that they're going through doesn't matter if you're a
youtuber or you work at McDonald's it these are problems that people go
through okay it doesn't matter if you're on your YouTube or you're just a
workaholic you know what I mean yeah sure there's differences in like how
many eyeballs are on you but it all comes from that place but YouTube is not
the first platform where people have created people have been painting for
thousands and thousands of years you know what I'm saying like you know they
had to present something these are not problems specific to youtubers and
that's one of the reasons why a lot of them have poor mental health because
they have this brain that says nobody understands nobody gets it I'm the only
one who's going through this no and this is why people need to get in more
support groups and things like that even if your support group is just a group
text or a discord channel or a Facebook group whatever it is it helps to let you
know that you're not alone now what I did like is that you saw Bobbie and Elle Mills
connecting on that they realize like oh my god you get it you understand how I
feel and everything like that you guys let me tell you that is literally the
best thing that you can do for your mental health that's why I try to
encourage you all to leave comments because just reading through the
comments when you're seeing that you're not the only one going through something
it is just a breath of fresh air all right but but like I said like they need
to get out of this terminally unique mindset that they're the only ones who
are going through this you know and this is what you're like this is what creates
a lot of arguments in our society is people think there's so much different
like have you ever had somebody who works a quote-unquote harder job than
you like it's all relative right like oh you you would understand if you work the
job that I work or you know and all that stuff like it's important to say like no
matter what job people have there's gonna be their own stresses it's all
going to be you know their own specific things but you know I we all go through
the same emotions the same feelings sometimes the same misery sometimes the
same fears like this is why I try to get down to the root
the problem you know what I mean so for example when they're worried about what
kind of content that they're putting out they have this fear okay it's a fear of
not being liked right or fear of being negatively judged or any type of fear
these are fears that people have at any job you see what I'm saying so when we
get down to that baseline to the root of things we start to see that we have a
lot more in common than we thought I've mentioned this on my channel before but
this is one of the reasons why I absolutely hate social hierarchies you
know what I mean people believe that their status means that there's so much
different but something I learned a long time ago is that we're all going through
our own stresses and struggles and we can find common ground with anybody I
learned this years ago and it helps me relate to everybody like I developed
this ability thanks to people training me how to do this I've developed this
ability where I can sit down with just about anybody and I can relate I can
relate to what they're going through okay I'm a father but I can relate to
people who are mothers right you know what I mean like even though I could
look at and say well I'm a man and you're a woman so we don't have anything
in common no no no I have an ability now to see the similarities but anyways
that's all I got I am glad that Bobby Burns is talking more about mental
health and things like that let me know your comments down below what are your
thoughts on youtuber burnout and all that kind of stuff okay but that's all I
got for you today if you like this video please give it a thumbs up and if you
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quit being terminally unique and I'll see you next time
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