narcissism is so deeply entrenched
instilled in Western society that the
more people struggle and shift around
the more they sink into its quicksand
every time I see somebody criticizing
identity politics they entrench
themselves in a different sort of
identity politics
the problem is as i have mentioned
before that they have known historical
context for their critiques
so when the right-wingers are
conservatives attack the left-wing
identity politics what they do is they
call upon tradition they call upon
traditional notions about people's place
and people's identities and people's
roles and they basically reimpose the
original expectations regarding those
you will hear it with a bit of an
adjustment for instance people say well
men and women ah differently they are
different we can tell biologically they
are different but they don't look at
what that means
socially they don't look at what it
means politically they just say and it
will all come out in the wash well they
don't say that but then you know they
say just don't just accept nature except
what is natural but what is natural and
what is nature they beg the question
because they feel that it's already
installed within us to feel what is
natural and what is nature however i
have noticed that in America the sense
of gender is very very strong that that
sense that men and women are
fundamentally almost a different species
that they think differently that they
act differently that their motivations
are different that they mowed
differently this is common sense in
America come to Australia and will find
that common sense is not so present
it's not a strong feeling here and
consequently what you can deduce
and that is that its cultural these
expectations about gender can be very
very cultural indeed and if you come to
Australia you would find a lot that's
more unisex you would find a lot that is
less in terms of this categorization of
particular types of human nature and the
expectations that are associated with
men being men and women being women
there is a lot still however tradition
in Australia but the overall sense of
things is not the same as it is in
America it's actually different so when
people of the right criticized those of
the left
they just generally tend to beg the
question they tend to revert to an
appeal to common sense and this this
appeal is really an appeal to the run
cultural expectations their own
innocence I intellectual laziness and
let's just revert to that that makes it
all so easy doesn't it
except you're not an American it makes
it all so hard and not at all is the all
transparent but that's something that's
overlooked
yeah Americans her countless wisdom and
apparently regardless without them i
will say a single to about one
particular point which is the feeling or
sensation of whimsy I sometimes enjoy
that I sometimes find it very pleasant
but what does presuppose a great deal of
sophistication on the part of the
listener for them to also enjoy whimsy
tongue standard for marketers and in a
narcissistic society or too often if I
would be the ability to shift moves to
understand different attitudes and what
they convey this is disappearing in
Western culture do too
the entrenchment of narcissism and
there's there is very little that your I
can do about that except i guess let it
take its course
things seem to get very very very much
was in in the sense of people having any
nuance to their view result being able
to ascertain or take in and no one's
perspective able to shift levels to
understand and attitude that evokes a
certain range of emotions and a
different attitude that evokes another
range and then
goodness me what if the same person had
the capacity to have a model range of
attitudes and that gets all too
complicated analysis to society people
don't know what to make it anymore
you will like this on that day and you
like this on another day
what are you getting at you're not being
serious enough it's not serious and then
we'll go and vote in Donald Trump who is
really the red-nosed cloud and actually
not serious professing epitome of
seriousness apparently for it very
narcissistic society that's how people
view being serious i will pause it is
only here today it's 801 am only if all
new years and a very bright day is going
to warm up really very much today and I
guess all the plants are going to suffer
that I come to the rescue
so to recap what happens in a
contemporary Western society where
people try to fight identity politics
and they try to fight narcissism is that
they struggle and struggle and struggle
they kick around they beat against it
but they've got no solid sense of
history they've got another frame of
reference and members
entrenched themselves more deeply in
Gnosticism because there's nothing else
for them to grab onto its all quicksand
from here on I want to talk about the
notion that was attacked on a video like
I saw recently I didn't actually see the
Americas I couldn't
sometimes I get squeamish listening to
this superficial dialogue even if people
are trying to determine make a point I
can't listen to it because it seems to
miss the point it seems to lack
intellectual rigor in it lacks above all
sense of history to get the context to
give it the meaning that it needs and
then I get all screaming because they're
sticking into quicksand
I can't watch it anymore and all look
like they're dying but the technology
they'll find out when somebody goes
looking for their bleached bones then
they'll find out all I died I was dead
all too bad so they are the situation of
people attacking identity politics for a
position of advanced contemporary
modality is not a happy one to observe
but i do want to talk a little bit
anecdotally about an experience that I
had where I was able to make a lot of
sense and get a lot of mileage out of
the understanding that i heard that the
personal is political
now this term this expression as it
seems to me it really relies on one
having a lot of sophistication with
regard to one's capacity for awareness
so one must start up from a position
where one can do complex
analysis within one's head and counter
rather difficult or at least somewhat
complicated conclusions about how
reality works i saw i thought in the
beginning of the video that I couldn't
watch that the woman was pontificating
that you can't say the personal is
political because that's not Isis ism
but that's nice isn't if you are already
deeply entrenched in the quicksand of a
late classes modern culture which is
narcissistic and then everything
actually unfortunately becomes
narcissism because that's just how it
has to be without historical reference
you will sink into that single goodbye
see you at a later time so it's not what
it means I do not believe that's what it
originally meant either because i have
read books on feminism my I used to need
to read that kind of material to get
myself out of a dire situation and it
wasn't what I thought it meant at that
time maybe I just impose my own
sophistication onto things as I go
maybe but I don't think that's true i
mean it's it's true in the sense that I
i have an expectation of sophisticated
responses and analyses but i don't think
that the writers that i read were
lacking in sophistication quite to the
country so i read our in the past the
nineteen seventies family some and i
believe i understood it but it said is
that the personal is political and I was
very very naive at that time
I don't know how to get more deeply into
that and so I just began writing her
began writing my experiences i began
writing my memoirs and I was trying to
get to the bottom of something because I
felt to change the metaphor entire me
from quicksand to something else I felt
like a worm on the surface of a very hot
sandy desert and I felt that the Sun was
beating down on me and I needed to get
beneath the surface of reality or i
would surely die i felt i would shrivel
up because that Sun beating on me was
intense and i had no resources i was a
migrant I had no knowledge had no
intellectual routes once around the
world has roots that's getting a bit
shocking here but I i had the tree had
no roots and one tree had no roots are
and that's a terrible thing with a 13 is
lacking in its roots it's going to tend
to shrivel up and die and i was such a
one tray and I had to I had to do
something to save myself
oh why why was I a 13 in this instance
well there was a reason it's called
patriarchy that was my reason that was
my experience but i didn't understand it
not really are and when i began to delve
more deeply into the possible being the
political that's so when in gradual
improvements all fits and starts i began
to make more sense of my situation and
white was dire but I don't understand
until much much later the extent and
degree to which it was a dire situation
for me because
I had come out of an extreme right-wing
culture extreme militaristic culture and
I was really bearing the brunt of my
father's aggression against women and
his anger at the historical situation he
had been roughly pulled out of I mean I
don't mean roughly isn't Jim generally i
mean really harshly really violently
pulled from his own circumstances his
own roots and he was angry at the world
and he was angry at the little so-called
you know feminine world so like it in
letter consciousness we have a funny
thing going on where the right wing is
considered to be masculine symbolically
and the left wing is considered to be
feminine so you can see that rhodesia
being masculine was defeated by the
liberal global consensus which was
feminine and any case my father was very
very sporting angry indeed about that
whole state of affairs and then there
were some generational issues to do with
gender that had also got under his skin
and made him want to turn his skin off
the fight the world and particularly
find me because to him I represented all
that was wrong with the world was easy
if you're boiling with emotion if you
are heated up if you're fit to spit it's
easy to get rid of that if you can find
a suitable scapegoat of projected onto
them
it goes away into the desert dies and
you say what a relief I feel better now
I was that's good good so that was the
historical context for my situation took
me a long time to work it out but one of
the principles that I applied is that
the personal what I'm experiencing
personally
is the political it makes sense if I
brought my own perspective
look beyond myself look at the political
and then come back and from that broader
perspective that macro perspective look
at myself and say yes I see that in
context now it makes sense now once
before
not so much why would I be as good good
what's it about me if i look at it
purely possible terms right there is no
answer
I haven't done anything I haven't even
been allowed to do anything in the world
so that i could have invited punishment
for any any act that i may have
committed so it wasn't to do with maybe
it wasn't to do with my personal life it
was to do or is something much broader
and more physical once you understand
that its political you can bring that
back to yourself and said it's a family
tradition and I didn't know that before
but now i do how do i know it was a
feminist issue
well eventually I understood that my
father was very angry at his mother in
an infantile way because as any infant
he had lost his father to rod wartune
and he thought my grandmother and his
mother had simply lost like misplaced
the father that was his infantile
reckoning i have deduced that this was
the source of his infantile rage at his
mother you're not giving me attention
not give me love moreover you've lost
the important thing my father how could
you have been so careless and then women
are bad women are evil we can do not do
the right thing and then his mother had
to get married married another guy was
very abusive emotionally and sometimes I
guess physically toward my father
because in a very patriarchal society
it's the bloodline that matters in my
father was not the bloodline of this
particular man and he let my father know
that in different ways economic
me emotionally and otherwise pretty much
let him that I'm taking you under my
wing but I don't want to it's an
obligation to your mother and I don't
necessarily feel lat obliged to you and
maybe I don't like you that much so
patriarchy that's what patriarchy is
it's the reference to the bloodline of
the male and the woman is not so
important she is just the in a way
property or the carrier of the mail
bloodline and my father taking the path
of least resistance was mad at his
mother and not at patriarchy not at the
system but at the victim of the system
his mother because she had no power
really had to have to do what you did
had to swallow her emotions had to get
married to somebody new and he was angry
at her because she had let him down by
not having more power by not being more
capable by not having what she could not
have because the system did not allow
her to have well money that came from a
social welfare puts or something like
that so that that's how the possible was
the political for my thousand because he
was a victim of extreme patriarchy but
he couldn't recognize it and then the
only recourse atif LT had when I was
growing up and when I became a burden to
hit the economically when we had to
change country and my greatness to kick
me all I represented women i represent
all the head God bad and rather his life
and that's the way he was able to
embrace the ideology of patriarchy
despite it having laid down and continue
to embrace it and got rid of the
cognitive dissonance through kicking me
down all the time
was one of his favorite things to do so
the personal was the political so when I
hear people in contemporary Western
culture saying all you know you're just
being artistic if you think the person
was political I think they are being
narcissistic because they can't stretch
the imagination to take in historical
context they can't study historical
context they can't see how there was a
structure which led to these particular
outcomes where women were turned into
escape goods for the sake of maintaining
and justifying an unequal political
system a system where men had power and
women did not
well that's just how it goes these days
people cannot understand know once they
can't understand history they can't
understand that they're giving himself
deeper and deeper into the quicksand
even as they believe themselves to be
critiquing it so now that we've had
enough for refreshment break i want to
violent briefly talk about how nurses
can spring the trap has been set for
them if and when they themselves do not
understand how the personal is political
because what analysis will do is they
will look around for a posture or oppose
that they presume to be powerful and
then they will adopt it they'll put it
on as a mantle and they will become that
powerful posture what makes them feel
very strong indeed i encountered a
narcissist who was inclined to something
do it
I don't know he had this information
within him but then I noticed it and the
situation was such that i had stated
that my father would use a very
aggressive
diminutive I terms we know very
condescending put down attitude toward
me on the basis of his need to impose
unequal power relations and as you're
not enough background to that was he had
to cope with his cognitive dissonance
about having been brought up in an
extreme patriarchal society having
committed himself to war for the sake of
an extreme patriarchal society his
brother had died for that cause and he
could not afford to look at things
realistically and say well when am I not
to blame if a liberal society is not
that much to blame and jelly
jennifer is not to blame if you looked
at things in a realistic way his life
doesn't make sense in in the way he
needed it too and that's why i was going
to change the metaphor again a song in
his side
that's why I was a problem so i had to
silence me deny my experience and in a
way
get me out of the picture so I I didn't
cause him any more distressed but I took
away its distress i took away his sense
of diminishment and i refuse that role I
couldn't play anymore because my house
had been very badly damaged and
emotionally I was also pretty badly
damaged
uh-huh so I I ceased to do that as much
as possible but the nurses to waffle
intellectual was somebody I had
respected until then he adopted the lack
of my father began talking to me in this
manner which was very condescending very
much trying to boost my father's
psychological force
and reinforce his his dominance the
political control over me and I found
that that was a very opening for anybody
to do because I'm like somebody who was
brought up in a narcissistic society
within the point of reference of
narcissism I had begun already to
understand a lot of the historical
context for my father's behavior and I
also knew that my father had been very
very damaged indeed so what was intended
by the nicest as a matter of power to
behave as my father had done told me was
viewed by me as oh you're putting on a
mantle somebody very damaged somebody
shot by an actual war that you haven't
actually been in and your documents
extreme patriarchy although you don't
have to historical context so you don't
know why and how you look funny look
like a red nose cloud you don't look
serious to me what are you doing and I
really had to shake my head and monday
because that's not a mantle of power you
just put on you really are very very
much mistaken about that you've made
probably the grossest error in your life
and now you're looking like a an extreme
right winger
moreover and christian fundamentalist
christians what my father was ah you
don't overlook liberal anymore what have
you done so that was that was a pretty
funny thing don't you think
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