your relationship is in trouble you're exhausted from having that same fight
over and over and over again and I don't blame you you've reached your threshold
of begging and pleading for something to change something to give hi I'm Robyn
D'Angelo licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and The Happy Couple Expert
and if this sounds like you I'm super glad that you're here I'm gonna give you
a few things that you can do today to start getting your relationship back on
track it's time for outside supports time to either therapist it's time to
get a counselor yet your partner might not know or be on board here's how you
can go to them and bring up the topic say to them as you can tell probably
I've been pretty frustrated been feeling pretty disconnected I'm ready to get
some outside help from a therapist would you be willing to join me if I set up an
appointment for next week stop talking at that point
let them think about it you might even say something like think about it I
don't need an answer right now but I'm gonna circle back with you later on
tonight or maybe even tomorrow because I really want to get an appointment made
quickly it's that simple talk about what it is that you need talk about it in a
way that gives your partner options and time to think about it it shows that you
respect them number two if you're at the point where you're just ready to go in
and just explode and say everything that has pissed you off about your partner
over the last 10 years or if you're so angry that you have shut down and you
don't even know where to start really encourage you to reach out and set up an
individual session with a couples therapist that's right I offer something
called couples therapy for one sometimes we just need to get all the anger and
angst and resentment moving around a little bit to create some space to
really work on the relationship when your partner's sitting right next to you
on that couch you want them to feel like they matter last but not least make sure
whoever you're working with is a specialized couples therapist
ask them do you primarily work with couples ask them you know what kind
of therapy do you offer make sure you're with someone who has a passion for
relationships and get their information so that you can start working with them
right away I hope this has been helpful you guys if you're local to the Southern
California area I would be honored to work with you it is my passion to help
couples master the messiness of couplehood and if you're not in the area
make sure to subscribe to my channel you'll get tons of tips tools and
strategies on how to create your epic relationship talk to you guys next week
bye bye
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How do you know if you're enabling a loved one? - Duration: 7:44.
How do you know if
you're enabling a loved one?
How do you know if you're
enabling loved one?
It's understandable that you
want to help your loved one.
Their addiction has a grasp on
them and you want to set them
free.
But are you helping? Or are you
enabling? Addiction is a
progressive and often terminal
illness.
Most people can't stay sick by
themselves.
In other words, addiction
requires an enabling system to
continue to progress.
I talked to Addiction Campuses'
Erica Lathom for some examples.
So we're here today
to talk a little bit about
unconditional love versus
enabling behavior.
And while we all want to care
about and take care of our loved
ones, we want to be sure that we
don't cross the line into
behavior that actually enables
them or helps to facilitate
their addiction.
Maybe making a car payment or
paying their rent when you know
they've spent their money on
drugs or alcohol.
Maybe provide them with some
food or a hot meal or take them
groceries. Or perhaps you could
help to fund a treatment program
something where your financial
contribution would be much more
constructive.
We have to find ways
to help people THROUGH their
struggle not TO their struggle.
It's easy to confuse those
things when you're coming from a
place of worry or fear, but
enabling does far more damage
than most people realize.
What we see is people
who say they want to help
their loved one get better.
But in the later stages of
addiction, enabling becomes an
act of desperation.
Family members start blaming
each other for things that the
addict are doing.
They try to rationalize the
reasons why they're doing it but
with them justifying this.
They are simply trying to
give in addict excuses and
they're loving them to death.
Now I was a master
manipulator.
So my family and the doctors
were my biggest enablers.
I could
victimize them to think that I
needed money for anything and
they just kept feeding me more
money.
I would have every tragedy in
the world happened to me.
You know, electric bill was
short.
You know, paycheck didn't come in
on time.
Car broke down.
Whatever the circumstance was,
I would always call my
family and you know make them
feel sorry for me. And they would
you know, give me money to
support what they thought was
that tragedy.
And in fact, I was using it to
buy drugs.
Now that's a scary
thought.
Your loved one buying drugs with
the money that you had meant for
food, gasoline or to pay a bill.
And parents have reasons to be
scared.
According to a recent CNN report,
teen overdose death rates
climbed 19 percent last year.
So what's a parent to do?
There's nothing stronger than a
parent's love for their child.
And so when I'm suffering my
parents want fix it.
My life is not theirs to fix.
This is my responsibility.
You know parents don't see the
fact that they're enabling their
kids by giving them certain
things we're not holding true to
what they really need to value.
When I got to treatment, it was
first time my mother valued my
emotional stability.
And I'm upset I'm going through
depression all these things out
of treatment.
I convinced her to buy me a six
pack of beer because I had a
pill problem.
She's wanted the best for me but
she doesn't want to see me
suffer. Enabling tears down
relationships.
Suddenly you can't talk to your
loved one for fear that they
might blow up on you.
Constantly having to tiptoe
around them you put aside your
own needs which in turn cause
resentment and all the while
they're still living a self
destructive lifestyle and like
your relationship it's just not
getting better.
I was crafty.
I would I would get the money
in any way I had to: Beg, borrow
steal.
I ended up in jail several times
for my illegal activity. My
bottoms were pretty devastating.
I ended up losing everything.
I lost my career. I lost my home.
Ultimately, my husband died of an
overdose.
And I lost my children.
So the first couple of times I
was arrested,
my family was very supportive.
You know they would always try
to help me bond me out.
They didn't want to see me sitting
in jail.
I called my mom and asked her to
help me and she said, "Call your
drug dealer." And hung up the
phone.
That helped me hit the bottoms
hard enough to know that my
family was done after I was
arrested.
And my mom basically cut me off.
They stayed completely out of my
life until I made the decision
to go into a recovery program.
When they cut me off it forced
me into a situation that forced
me far enough down into the hole
to know that there was no other
choice.
I had to do something different
because my way wasn't working
anymore.
I'm now in recovery because
somebody finally told me no and
pointed me in the direction of
sobriety.
Sober living is the most
important thing people need is a
support system to keep them
connected to mind body and
spirit.
So in a sober living house when
I'm suffering they know the cure
is not just a quick fix they're
not going to say everything's
fine everything's okay.
They know that I need some
spiritual connection.
They know I need people to help.
So they'll pick me up to take me
to an AA meeting they'll take me
to do some volunteer work.
We see it all the time.
People will want the easier
softer way they want things to
be okay immediately because I'm
looking for instant
gratification I'm a drug addict
at heart.
I want things to be OK.
They need people who won't make
excuses for their behavior but
will give them the support and
encouragement that they need.
Many families feel guilty for
their loved ones addictions and
they enable out of that guilt.
With help you can learn to stop
this destructive behavior just
as the addict cannot get better
alone.
Neither can the co-dependent.
There's a difference between
helping and enabling knowing
that difference is crucial to
getting your loved one into
treatment and getting them the
help that they need.
If you are a loved
one is struggling with addiction,
we're here to help.
Give us a call at 888-216-4032.
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What Would Jeff Do? Dog Training Tip of the Day #57 - Duration: 1:51.
- Good evening everybody.
How are you?
It's Jeff Gellman of Solid K9 Training with my
What Would Jeff Do? Dog Training Tip of the Day,
Tip Number 57.
Coming to you live from LAX.
(person moaning)
Just because your dog is reactive on the leash
that doesn't mean your dog is aggressive.
A lot of times we get a lot of folks that contact us
to help us with an aggressive dog, that's our specialty.
But I'll ask them, I'm like,
"Well, how many dog fights has your dog gotten into?"
None.
"How many times has your dog bitten a person?"
None.
So you really don't know yet, you really don't know.
And a lot of people what they'll do is they'll say...
well, when its dog's on the walk,
it looks like the dog wants to harm another person.
It lunges are humans, it lunges at dogs.
So a lot of the times, though,
it looks like the dog is acting aggressive,
but it's acting reactive.
We don't know if the dog's actually aggressive.
We're actually not gonna know until we put the dog
in a situation where it can bite,
that's why we use muzzles,
and it most of the time doesn't bite.
So, I'm not gonna discount the fact
that there's aggressive dogs,
we work with them all the time.
Those can also be "fixed".
But don't think you've had an aggressive dog yet
until you truly know.
Talk to somebody that actually specializes in aggression.
We're seeing a lot of people with a lot of dogs
who are being told by a lot of trainers,
"Oh, your dog's aggressive,"
and they're actually just reactive.
So, reactive dogs, that can be relatively simple.
But say you couldn't fix that, at least you know.
There's a level of comfort there.
You're gonna wanna work on that.
So, remember:
Reactive doesn't always mean aggressive.
That's what I wanted to tell you today.
Jeff Gellman of Solid K9 Training with my
What Would Jeff Do? Dog Training Tip of the Day,
LAX Version, Tip Number 57.
Madly in love with you,
and I'll talk to you tomorrow.
See if I can get this uploaded now before my flight leaves.
Bye, bye.
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Hello I am Leroy Morishita, President of California State University East Bay.
At our university we believe that college is a real possibility for everyone.
I hope you're inspired by the stories you are about to see where our students share
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Work hard in your classes and I wish you the very best in your endeavors. Thank you and Go Pioneers!
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Is it possible to find beauty in death and enjoy peace in times of war?
It's like an implicit beauty. In the deepest abyss, but perceptible ...
Implicit Beauty
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