hey guys Meleda Jackson here and today I want to talk to you about the
one thing that everyone cannot live without I'll let you take a second to
think about that
hi i'm melina jackson here again did you have time to think about what the number
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Tell a story or personal anecdote - Duration: 4:36.
Examiner: OK, Kelvin, so I'd like you to tell us a short personal story.
Here are the topics.
Please take one.
Kelvin: Tell me about a great surprise you had.
OK.
Examiner: OK?
So, you've got about 30 seconds to prepare what you're going to say.
Examiner: OK, Kelvin, you can start when you're ready.
Kelvin: OK.
So, this is a story about my birthday.
Yeah, half a year ago.
That day was the inter-class football competition as well as my birthday and I was selected
to play in the match.
So, our class needed to encounter another very strong opponent.
Everyone felt very excited about this and almost seemed to forget about my birthday,
so I was not very happy about this.
I tried my best in the match but we still lost, so I was very disappointed because of
two reasons.
One is because we lost the match, and another because everyone seemed to forget about my
birthday.
So, but suddenly, my friends took out many creams after the match and they sprayed all
the cream on me so my face and my hair were full of cream.
And they said 'Happy birthday!' and I was very surprised and glad at that time,
so, yes.
Examiner: Yeah, what a great surprise!
OK, did you have any idea that your friends were planning a surprise like that for you?
Kelvin: Actually, no, because they hadn't mentioned anything about my birthday before
the match, so I hadn't expected they would do this.
Examiner: OK.
Great story, Kelvin.
Thanks.
……
Examiner: OK, Melissa, so now I'd like you to tell us a short personal story or anecdote
and here are the topics.
Can you take one?
Melissa: OK.
Examiner: What have you got?
Melissa: Tell me about a time when you surprised someone.
Examiner: OK, great.
So, you've got 30 seconds now to prepare what you're going to say.
Examiner: OK?
Melissa: OK.
Examiner: OK, so you can start when you're ready.
Melissa: It was my best friend's birthday and I decided to give her a surprise since
we have been good friends since Form 3.
And I made a really huge birthday card, about this size, and I put it outside a shop in
Central and I hid somewhere she couldn't find me.
She felt very nervous about that and she called me and we chatted on the phone.
Afterwards she found the card, and I appeared in front of her and I brought her to a restaurant
and I didn't tell her because actually I was holding a party for her with about thirteen
of my friends, and I covered her eyes and walked into the open area of the restaurant,
and I put down my hands.
She saw my friends
and my friends said 'Happy birthday!' and she was very surprised and shocked and
she was touched.
So, after this experience I think it's very happy myself, for myself, it's very happy
too because making someone happy can make everything go well and I think if everyone
can put down their selfishness and be kind to everyone, the world will be peaceful and
wonderful.
Examiner: All right, what a great story!
And it was a good experience for you too, right?
Melissa: Yeah.
Examiner: OK.
Why did you want to give such a special surprise to this friend?
Melissa: Because when we were still in the same class she helped me a lot and it's
a kind of thank you for her.
Examiner: OK.
Great story, Melissa.
Thanks.
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CTMU - Christopher Michael Langan - Is God Personal Or Impersonal ? - Duration: 3:40.
Hey ! I got a question for you Chris,
Do you believe in a personal or in an impersonal God, and can you give a reason as to why you told to that position ?
Well, I believe that there's a mapping between God and secondary images
of God in this universe and it is a one to many mapping.
On the many end of the mapping, that is in the co-domain of the mapping, God is personal.
On the other end of the mapping, God is impersonal in the sense that he has a personal
relationship with all of his images, right ? So in a way you can characterize
his state as being an intersect of all of those images.
So, you hold on to similar view that the Hindus do, that there's the Brahman, the impersonal source
and perhaps like a lord like a Yahweh or a Shiva that it is, kind of
like a personality ?
What I'm saying is that God is essentially personal
because God is projecting himself into each person, do you understand ?
God is being realized as each individual person and to this extent,
God is very very definitely personal.
In other words, what I'm trying to say is that we each have an aspect of God inside of us.
It doesn't mean that we are God
because of course we're only localized here, we're only a partial aspect of God,
but to the extent that we are, up to isomorphism, equivalent to God
in the sense of this mapping, then yes, God is absolutely personal,
and your soul is a connection to the unary identity of the universe, so you can be
retracted up to the Godhead itself, which would seem to
indicate that it's not all that impersonal, I mean if a personal human being,
if the codomain of the mapping can be retracted into the domain, then the
personalities of which it consists can also be retracted into the domain and
that means that God is personal.
Okay, let me word it this way,
Do you believe that there's a god that hears prayers, that can communicate with people
in the language that they know, that cares about what we do in our life,
that has a purpose for us, do you believe in this type of God ?
You better believe I do. Absolutely I do, yes.
But I also believe in Einstein's God,
there is this idea of a God of nature and I believe in
that God too, I believe in both of them and the fact that God has both of these
aspects is how he is defined in the CTMU. There turns out to be no logical contradiction,
It's all perfectly consistent.
Can we have a personal relationship with this God apart from the blood of Jesus Christ ?
Absolutely ! There is no doubt about that, you can interpret the entirety of Christian scripture in the CTMU.
You can also do that for other religions, interestingly enough.
That's what makes the CTMU theologically special.
Thank you !
You're very welcome.
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Globe Drive: Urus is the Lamborghini that likes to get dirty, or tear up the track - Duration: 2:09.
Finally a Lamborghini you can drive in the dirt. It's called the Urus, and it's
their second ever SUV after the LM002 in the 80s. A Lambo SUV seems like the
answer to a question nobody asked but, believe it or not, the super-SUV category
is A) a thing and B) about take off. Bentley and Maserati already make SUVs
while Rolls-Royce, Aston Martin, and Ferrari will soon. The potential for
profit is too huge for any car company to resist. There are a lot of very rich
SUV fans out there apparently. The Urus costs two hundred and thirty-two
thousand dollars, but most owners will spend at least 30 grand in options.
This year's production run has already sold out. What's it like to drive?
Off-road it takes a surprising amount of abuse in its stride on a track it
cannonball-fast with 650 horsepower from a twin-turbo V8. It handles very well
with the obvious caveat; For an SUV. On the road it's spacious and comfortable,
surprisingly civilized given its angry origami looks. It's the most practical
but least exciting car in Lambos range, but they already make scary supercars.
This is meant to be something new for new customers, and it's very existence is
a victory for the company. The Urus will change Lamborghini forever, doubling the
size of its factory in Italy, and doubling its annual sales to around
8,000 cars per year.
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¿What Public Relations or PR are? - Duration: 2:24.
Hi entrepreneurs! I'm sure that a lot of you may remember that a few weeks ago
I've talked about the Communication Mix. And if you didn't watch it, you can check it on my youtube channel.
There I've mentioned that in the Com Mix there are a few
marketing and communications disciplines. So today I'm going to
talk you about one of them, the Public Relations.
I'm sure that when you hear about PR, you think about something like this:
Hi, hi hi! If you're looking for the best fun, the best liquors,
the hottest women, the cutests men, the best current dj's,
"Santan's Dick" it's your club! Well... more than less.. Right?! You couldn't be more wrong!
The PR manages the communication between the brand or the company,
and the society. In fact, the PR character was born in the ancient times
when they've tried to promote respect to the tribal chief's leadership.
The PR are a planned discipline developed strategically
and that appeals tho the bidirectional communication. Among the
main tasks of a PR we find the management of external and internal
communications; the humanistic relations, which are the ones devoted to
gain public trust. And it manages the analysis and comprehension of t
he public opinion. Summarizing, is the one who watches over the public image of the company
and for that, uses disciplines like sociology, psychology and marketing.
And besides the importance of a good PR inside a company
it's usually put under the marketing department.
That's because the PR functions use to be planned from the
commercial perspective of the company. In conclusion, a good PR is
the one who takes care of, protects and promotes your brand or organization to
seduce society. And that's all for today folks! If you have any doubts, questions
or suggestions you can email me at the address on screen
Mi name is Adrià Muñoz
and this is the Entrepreneur's Vlog.
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Publishing House or Home? My Favourite Publishers: Arsenal Pulp Press - Duration: 9:49.
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How Treating Eye Bags with Filler or Surgery is Determined - Duration: 11:49.
Under eye fillers have become a popular and convenient way to help improve the appearance
of under eye bags.
Filler placement under the eyes require no surgery, and can be performed in minutes to
help camouflage under eye bags..
This procedure can be performed with minimal to no bruising.
It's important to understand that under eye filler cannot be used in all cases of
under eye bags, and that surgery is often the better option.
I'm Dr Amiya Prasad.
I'm a Board Certified Cosmetic Surgeon and Fellowship Trained Oculoplastic Surgeon.
I've been in practice in Manhattan and Long Island for over 20 years.
As a cosmetic eyelid surgery specialist, I perform a wide range eyelid procedures every
day such as eye bag removal, treatment of upper eyelid hooding, Asian double eyelid
surgery, and oculoplastic specialty procedures such as eyelid ptosis correction, orbital
and lacrimal system surgery..
I am also well known for my work with injectable fillers for the face, particularly in the
the eye area, cheeks, chin, jawline, and forehead.
Essentially, unlike physicians who cannot perform surgery, I am not limited or biased
in treating the under eye area with any modality.
Many people with under eye bags are relatively young and often hesitant to consider surgery
preferring to have the under eye area treated with filler.
While eye bags can occur and become more prominent due to age, they are mostly caused by genetics,
and can occur as early as during the teen years, and in some cases even younger.
So, what are eye bags ? Eye bags are caused by fat.
Fat normally surrounds the eyes can push forward, like a hernia.
This is why the fat that causes eye bags is referred to as herniated fat.
Fat herniation under the eyes is called lower eyelid fat prolapse.
During consultation, I look at the prominence of the fat and relationship of the herniated
fat to the surrounding bone structure.
For example, there is an area below the under eye bag referred to as the tear trough.
I look to see if the puffiness can be blended with filler in the tear trough.
Generally, I use soft tissue fillers such as Restylane or Juvederm in this area as long
as the under eye bags aren't too prominent.
It's important to understand that fillers improve the appearance of eye bags, not by
reducing projection, but by adding projection to the adjacent area.
In some situations where the bags are too prominent for optimal blending, I perform
this procedure as a short term solution for people who want to look better and will undergo
surgery later on.
If the under eye bag projection is past a certain limit, as in the case of more prominent
or severe eye bags, then adding additional volume may not blend the contour of the eye
bags, and actually add more puffiness to the area, making the eye bags look even more prominent.
When selecting a doctor, keep this in mind that many doctors who are not surgeons will
choose filler to treat all eye bags cases, which means in many situations, the filler
placement can result in bigger eye bags.
When eye bags are past a certain level of projection, fillers are not appropriate and
surgery is the treatment of choice.
This surgery is referred to as lower eyelid blepharoplasty.
There are two techniques, one is called the transcutaneous approach where an incision
is made below the eyelashes, to address the fat bags.
The other approach is referred to as the transconjunctival approach where the fat pockets are addressed
from the inside of the eyelids.
In practice, it is common for many doctors to perform the transcutaneous approach to
also remove eyelid skin in an attempt to reduce wrinkling.
In almost all cases, I strongly advise that lower eyelid skin not be removed as it can
lead to complications such as rounding of the eyes, or eye exposure from skin shortage
known as lower eyelid retraction.
Oftentimes, the inside of eyelid is exposed and irritated is due to skin removal.
This condition is referred to as ectropion.
My preferred method is a more specialized technique called transconjunctival blepharoplasty,
where no external incision is made.
I approach the fat pockets from the inside of the eyelid to sculpt the fat.
Since no external incision is made, the results look natural, as if you never had eye bags.
This method preserves the lower eyelid support structures since no skin is removed, and the
anatomy of the eyelid is not compromised by disruption of the muscular support..
When performing eyelid surgery, I most often sculpt the fat to remove the bulge, but leave
some fat behind to create a smooth contour in the lower eyelids, and prevent the lower
eyelids from looking hollow.
Lower eyelid surgery is an art, so not all surgeries are performed the same way.
Having this procedure done with no external incision allow the results to appear natural,
and preservation of fat to prevent hollowed appearance provides for optimal outcomes when
performed by experienced surgeons.
Injectable fillers placed under the eyes is routinely performed with topical anesthetic
for patient comfort.
In addition, fillers like Restylane are also contain some anesthetic.
I usually prefer instruments such as blunt-tipped cannulas instead of needles to reduce the
risk of bruising after the procedure and minimize swelling caused by repeated needle entry.
Generally there is minimal downtime and I see the patient again two weeks after the
procedure to see how the filler has settled, and if additional enhancement is needed.
In my practice, eye bag surgery through the transconjunctival method is performed with
local anesthesia, with LITE sedation for comfort.
I prefer local anesthesia with sedation for almost all my surgeries as my patients are
more comfortable and able to avoid the recovery from the side effects of general anesthesia.
Consequently, my approach results in easier recovery and fast healing from the surgery.
Surgery in my practice is performed in our own in-office surgical suite, certified by
the Joint-Commission for standards of safety and sterility.
Patients routinely go home after surgery without any difficulty..
As far as downtime, patients can return to work pretty much immediately after under eye
filler.
In fact, many patients do it over their lunch hour, and return to work afterwards.
There is the possibility of of some bruising after the procedure which typically fades
in a few days.
When performed with local anesthesia, lower eyelid surgery patients return to work in
about a week.
Interestingly, we have found that the limited bruising from lower eyelid surgery can be
comparable to the bruising seen with the use of fillers.
Oftentimes, patients have much less bruising after my performing lower eyelid surgery than
patients who've had filler procedures done elsewhere.
The techniques I've developed over my career combined with the systems for care and recovery
allow my patients to recovery from lower eyelid surgery much faster than traditional surgery.
I discuss with my patients how to look at their options from a perspective of procedure
longevity.
Softer hyaluronic acid fillers like Restylane can last 6 months to 1 year before they are
eventually and safely broken down by the body.
The benefits of lower eyelid surgery can last many years.
Once fat pockets are removed, those fat pockets don't come back.
While there is a chance that other fat around the eyes can prolapse forward the eyelid appearance
can be stable for many years.
Neither fillers or lower eyelid surgery address skin quality such as crepiness.
Supplementary procedures for eyelid skin rejuvenation treatments like laser resurfacing, wrinkle
treatment, and platelet-rich plasma may be considered to address crepey skin, pigmentation
and wrinkles.
When can you look good for an event: If you want to look good for an event, both filler
and surgery can be performed on relatively short notice.
I look at each individual situation and make recommendations based on my experience.
Filler placement is a convenient option for limited eye bags, with minimal to no recovery.
Lower eyelid surgery is a more definitive procedure that can be performed for any degree
of fat prolapse, with results as if you've never had eye bags or surgery.
Patients often choose to have filler placement under the assumption that they don't have
time for surgery recovery.
In our practice, applying modern, faster healing methods, recovery from eye bag surgery can
comparable to the time it takes for filler results to settle.
Lower eyelid blepharoplasty really brightens up the whole face with minimal surgery.
In fact, many patients who I've operated on, comment on the ease of their experience
with their procedure and state that if they had been previously aware of how easy it was,
they would have done it sooner.
I hope you found this information helpful...thank you for your question
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How To Get Cinematic Footage With Your Phone – Film With Your iPhone OR Android - Duration: 5:15.
What's up guys welcome to Echo Productions, I'm Silas Willoughby and you guys have asked
for this one a lot, so today we are taking a look at how to get cinematic footage out
of your phone.
Anyway, without me saying anything else let's take a look at a little sequence I put together,
filmed completely on my phone.
Alright, so I hope you guys enjoyed that little edit, I shot that entirely on the Samsung
Galaxy S9, and yes, that's the camera ill be using today.
But, everything we are going over works for literally any phone.
The first and most important by far is to learn the basics of composition, a lot of
your probably already know these so I'm going to try and squeeze an average 15-minute
YouTube video into the next 30 seconds, ready go.
One: The rule of thirds, the rule of thirds is basically putting a grid over your image
and framing the main aspect of your shot on the either the vertical or horizontal lines.
The magic spot is at the intersection between the two lines.
This is called the golden ratio.
Two: Leading lines, Leading lines are line that lead into the subject of your shot, directing
the viewers' attention to what you want them to focus on.
Three: frames within a frame.
A frame within a frame is another way to draw your viewers' attention to exactly what
you want them to be looking at.
It also adds visual depth to your shot.
Now that that's out of the way, lets slow down and get into some details.
When shooting on a phone something that might be obvious to most of you but that I still
see way to often is people shooting in portrait mode.
You should never do that.
always film in landscape.
This helps avoid those horrible black bars, and generally gives you way more resolution.
Anyway, let's move into settings.
First up would be the resolution.
On a phone it's important to keep it as high as possible since lower resolutions aren't
using the full capabilities of the already tiny sensors.
And they tend to look soft and pixelated.
I'm shooting in 4K on my Samsung Galaxy S9.
Next let's choose a frame rate, I like to shoot slow motion since it tends to look more
cinematic for the types of video I would ever film on a Phone, which are travel films or
B roll sequences.
I'm shooting at 60fps on my s9.
To control these settings, you are going to need to switch to pro mode.
If your phone does t have this option you can always download a app that allows you
to control them, my favorite is filmic pro, but its not free, if you need a free one open
camera is a great option.
If you don't want to shoot in slow motion I would suggest switching to 24 fps instead
of the 30fps it will automatically be.
Next you want to leave your ISO as low as possible since phones have tiny sensors and
can generate a lot of noise at higher ISOs, I'm leaving mine at 100.
For White balance you just want to match your scene, generally 5500k is a good starting
point.
Shutter speed you can ideally have at double your frame rate, for realistic motion blur.
But I almost always leave mine a little higher since I hate excess motion blur.
But, on a phone its almost impossible to get any semblance of lower shutter speed, so I
just leave it alone a lot of the time.
I'll go over how to add this back in post later in this video.
Anyway, let's move onto actually shooting.
The biggest thing you can do to improve your videos you film on your phone is to move around.
Stop shooting these same angles.
Way to often every shot I see that was filmed with a phone is just held near your face at
eye level and that's it.
But if you move around and you grab different types of shots, different angles, you can
really spice up your videos.
Treat your phone like you would any other camera and get all of those cinematic angles.
Add some movement to your shoots, by pushing the camera forward, pulling it back, sliding
it to the sides, ect.
Ect.
And yeah you might get some choppy movement this way, and not every shot will work out,
but ill get into to how to fix any annoying jitter in a second.
Anyway, let's move onto how to edit your smartphone footage to make it look as cinematic
as possible.
So, as you guys can see I'm using Adobe Premiere, but everything I'm going to be
covering today can be done in Davinchi resole as well, and resolve is free, so…
I've already imported my footage, and the first thing to do is modify all of the footage
to 24 fps or 23.976 fps.
So, to do this highlight them all, right click, modify, interpret footage, assume this frame
rate, then, match our settings of 23.976 fps.
This slows down everything to a proper 24 frames without getting any jitter.
Next with them still all selected I'm going to drag them onto my timeline, and from here
ill edit like any other edit, I'll add music, transitions, sound effects, stabilize my shaky
hand-held clips, add a color grade.
I'm not going super in depth into any of these rights now since I've already made
tutorials on most of them anyway.
Finally, I'm going to add letter box.
For this particular project I'm using an overlay since I want my final project to by
16:9 instead of 21:9.
I've put a link for a free overlay package in the notes down below.
But, that's all I've got for you guys today, if you enjoyed this video make sure
to subscribe and hit the bell so you're notified every time I upload a video.
Anyway, this has been Echo Productions I'm Silas Willoughby and I'll see you next week.
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Which Is Better - Real Estate Investing or Bitcoin Miners? - Duration: 3:08.
Hey gang, Kris Krohn here with Limitless Wealth TV and today, I'm going to be
answering the question of if i had to choose between real estate investing or
Bitcoin miners what should I do?
Hey Kris this is Bronwyn and I want to know, you've been talking a lot about
real estate, I've learned a lot about real estate from you. Now you're talking
about blockchain technology and Bitcoin stuff. I've got a lot of people that are
skeptical about that. It seems like a video game kind of economy and I want
you to tell me why it's not? Hey, what's up Kris? I have known you for coming up
on four years now and the real estate stuff is awesome. I've actually been
following your strategy. My wife and I just a year ago purchased a home with
the basement apartment and I got to tell you, cash flow is amazing. But I've heard
you talking about this Bitcoin stuff and I'm just curious. So there's actually a
really fantastic question because a lot of people are like, "dude, Kris Krohn, oh
my gosh! you've been making all your money in real estate your entire life,
now you're also getting into Bitcoin. Like is there a conflict? Should you pick
left? Should you pick right? Should you do both? Like what do you really think?" And
the reality is this. I actually believe that a person should own real estate. I
also believe that a person should own a lot of other things. In fact I believe
like Ray Dalio, who is also one of the most successful billionaires. He's one of
the most successful hedge funds. Top five of all time. He's actually returned
billions and billions and billions of dollars back to his investors over all
of these last 27 years and here's what he says, "he says that the most successful
who manage their money will eliminate 80% of the risk that we should be
investing in a minimum of a 15 different asset classes that don't correlate with
each other." Real estate is one of those asset classes. And the reason why is this.
In your lifetime, in my lifetime, every asset class is going to lose a lot of
value potentially all of its value. And so if you put all your eggs in one
basket, guess what happens? Then people are like, "Kris I have a lot of
different homes. So that's not all my eggs in one basket." No, that's all your
eggs in real estate. Now by the way, I have had, for most of my life, all my eggs
in real estate and I love that but I've also always had it in business. And now
I'm also diversifying in cryptocurrency? Absolutely. Blockchain? hands-down
everyone needs to be there. It's the technology that's taking over the world.
I also think that we should be investing in artificial intelligence right now
that is growing really big. In some of the bio hacks that are happening right
now in some of the health arena that's
happening, there's so many different industries right now that are worthy of
investment to get to those 15 different non classifieds.
But in the end, real estate on the one hand, bitcoin on the other, which one
should you invest in? It's simple - both. Listen, whether you're interested
investing in real estate or crypto, I can help you on both of those. Head over to
my website and I'll share with you some of the options and what they look like.
Otherwise, please subscribe. Ring that bell, so I can keep notifying you when
more comes your way and thank you for watching.
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Tyrant or Superstar? | The Life & Times of Nero - Duration: 6:02.
You've probably heard about Nero, the Roman Emperor who went so mad with power he thought
he could pull off a neckbeard in public.
And yes, we're going to talk about all the bat ship insanity surrounding this boy, because
boy oh boy has he got it in spades.
But the most bizarre thing about him... is that he had a lot going for him.
[INTRO]
So, Emperor Claudius wants to lock down his royal bloodline and puts a ring on a pretty
girl with relation to the big man Augustus himself.
Her name is Agrippina and she's also his niece.
Claudius already has an heir, but Agrippina's got her own son from another marriage and
he marries Claudius' daughter, i.e. his….
second cousin, basically he's next in line because Claudius says so.
And then Claudius dies under suspicious circumstances before he gets the chance to change his mind.
So now little Nero is in charge of the biggest most powerful empire on the planet, fight
me Han dynasty.
But he wasn't really in charge because mother dearest was pulling the strings, and she brought help
She recruited a wise man named Seneca, who had been banished for being too close to Caligula's
sisters (Agrippina, by the way, was Caligula's sister) to be Nero's tutor and a man named
Burrus to be captain of the royal guard.
Basically these three were the chains holding Nero back from all the craziness he got up
to later.
For right now, though, Nero's looking pretty good, he's promising to respect the Senate
and to keep his personal life out of politics.
His mom, however, rather wanted his personal life to be all up in politics, seeing as Nero
was effectively her crown.
She likely anticipated that her teenage son would have a rebellious phase, so she had
a plan.
She'd killed off most of Nero's competition, but Claudius' son was still around and she'd
threaten to put him in charge if she needed to keep Nero in line
That is until one fateful dinner party where young Britannicus says to his cousin, "Wow,
thanks for the party, this sure is some great wi…."
(gagging and choking).
Cross me again, mother.
See what happens!
And his rebellious streak only grows.
This may or may not have had to do with wanting to get out of one marriage and into another, but in
any case, little Nero resorts to matricide.
He orders a boat with a lead ceiling that will drop down, crushing the passengers and
sinking the ship. The perfect crime
Well it fails to crush his mother when it drops onto a couch, and it failed to sink
the ship so the guards had to do it themselves.
And then Agrippina sees one of her friends approach the guards like "Hey, I'm the
emperor's mom, get me out of here!"
"You sure about that?"
"Yes!"
"Okeydokey"
And she decides to swim to shore instead.
Nero gets words that his mother has survived a terrible and completely unforeseen accident,
and summons Burrus and Senaca.
They're like "I don't want to do this, do you want to do this?"
"No way man, I don't want to do this" "I think it's best the ship builder do
this."
Back at the beach, Agrippina's in a house now… but also surrounded by a crowd of onlookers?
That is until Nero's thugs show up with the ship builder and what's done in done.
Other than that, though, Nero's been doing pretty well as an emperor.
Seneca's been a pretty rad tutor, Nero forbid a law allowing for the re-enslavement of freedmen,
he worked with the Senate to reform adoption laws, and his war against Parthia is going
swimmingly!
And then, of course, there's the fire.
Chances are you're familiar with the image of Nero fiddling while Rome burns, and yeah
he scapegoated Christians while making sure to use that newly cleared land to build his
party palace, but he also opened said party palace to citizens who had lost their homes
in the fire, and worked extensively to prevent a disaster of the same caliber happening again
- he paid to rebuild the city, offered insurance, increased the city's water supply, passed
new construction codes, he may have played while Rome burned, but man alive did he work
to rebuild it.
Unfortunately chain number two snapped not too long ago.
Burrus was lucky enough to die of natural causes, and it's around this time that Nero's
most peculiar behaviour starts to show itself, but really it wasn't all so bad.
Yes, he delayed the Olympics by a year and added artistic events so he could win them,
perhaps it was silly and undignified, but it offered him direct contact with the common
people of Rome and boosted his popular image quite a bit.
Being a bride at his wedding probably helped his image less, but hey, it's the perks of being an emperor.
And it's not like he was making his horse a senator or upending the religious order of the entire empire
Talking about Elagabalus, here, not Constantine.
And sure he decorated his home with a nude statue of himself the size of Lady Liberty,
which… (sexy sax)
Okay he wasn't exactly thrifty.
Seneca sees this giant statue and everything else going on and politely asks to retire.
Nero refuses, maybe he doesn't want any bad press, so Seneca retires without "retiring".
You'd think that would keep him out of trouble, but not so! Piso, a descendant of Caesar's
super best friends Pompey and Crassus, organizes a conspiracy to take Nero down.
Seneca is implicated mostly through paranoia and ordered to commit suicide, which he handles
like a champ.
His wife sees what's going on and he's all "Don't worry dear, no need to be alarmed.
Little Nero sent these men, he'd like me to slit my wrists, care to join me?
Oh dear, not bleeding enough,good thing I carry hemlock with me.
Oh, drat, I don't think I have quite enough - tell you what, gimme a hot bath,
the steam'll probably do me in."
Unfortunately for Nero, the next conspiracy against him makes a much bigger splash, and
this time all his friends are dead
He gets news that even the Senate wants to kill him, and he can't run to the East
because his poncy officer started quoting Virgil at him instead of taking orders, so
he's stuck in a villa four miles outside Rome with a handful of freedmen, ordering
them to dig his grave.
while the sound of horses draws nearer.
So he orders his secretary to kill him, shouting "Alas!
What an artist the world loses today!"
And then the horsemen arrive.
"Hey, the Senate wants to talk things out before - Jesus!
What the hell happened here?"
So yeah.
He was a monster.
To Christian church turned
he was a downright antichrist, but for many people in Rome he was the opposite
Because for centuries after his death, people throughout the empire believed that one day
Nero would return to save the world
So the next time someone says Nero was just a heartless fire-starter, hopefully now you'll
know better.
Hey, I'm pretty sure that's my line!
Uh oh - gotta run!
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DECIEM CEO Leaving The Company or Expanding Lines or BOTH? Becca Hidden Glow Tickets | Makeup Minute - Duration: 1:09.
Hello!
I'm Jen and this is your Daily Makeup Minute for April 30, 2018.
It's been a really interesting weekend for Deciem.
And apparently it started with some Instagram posts, where the company claims to be leaving
Sephora due to payment issues and moving directly to Ulta, (do not pass go!).
This is a capture from Makeypcrayz.
And here is a Google alert about it.
The rest requires a little Scooby-Doing.
Apparently Racked has emails from CEO Brandon Truaxe, one of which states "I'm done with
DECIEM and EVERYTHING."
From there, the trail seems to lead back to Instagram, where Brandon has announced additional
stores opening globally, new products for The Ordinary, and two upcoming lines named
Hippooh and Loopha.
Not sure what will happen from here, but we will keep you posted.
Sydney Grace is launching all the blues and greens today at around noon pacific...and
they are having a 20% off Spring Sale until May 6
Becca has hidden 100 "Glow Tickets" inside their Dreamsicle highlighters, now at Sephora,
which will not only get you a special gift from the brand, Two ticket holders will go
on a special mystery trip!
Details on their Insta.
That's it for now.
We'll see you here same time tomorrow!
Look for Makeup Minute Extras on my Instagram, and don't forget our full-length weekly newscast,
What's Up in Makeup, every Sunday morning on YouTube!
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How to use and customize Control Center on your iPhone or iPad — Apple Support - Duration: 1:58.
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To open Control Center,
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Or, if you're using an iPhone X,
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Then tap a control to turn it on or off.
Press deeply or touch and hold
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Tap outside the control to return to Control Center.
Now let's press deeply on the Network Settings card.
Here, you can turn even more features on or off
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and also select who is able to send you photos,
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Go back to your home screen.
Tap settings, then tap Control Center.
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GTA 5 ON MOBILE TENCENT ! FAKE or REAL - Duration: 2:29.
Hello, what's up today? I came to discuss something our rule not that we're never going to be happen which ETF
I one more way you guys have been seen a
Lot of videos like instant is developing gta5 on movement because they has released a puppy on mobile
Well definitely it is false
Here is the reason why number one GTA 5 is a massive game that cannot be compressed or poured into mobile
if it are rebuilt or redeveloped for mobile tones of casting and
Tracks will take up to feet 10 to 15 GB soft mobile space that is used for
Removal even the 1gb space is used for us
number two
It's a 5 to 4 GTA 4 on mobile. I know
- extra nice before iPhone 9, but it cannot be possible
2018 is 10th anniversary for GTA 5 4 so GTA 4 is getting patched on PC and our city pets
so
maybe
our
2019 GTR before we available to move my
number 3 telson games cannot be partnered with
Rockstar Games because Austral games don't get water with other
Developer and or shared their code to attend teleport, so it is cannot be possible
That consent is making GTA 5
ok
number 4
GTA is banned on China
So how how can China develop?
China game developer can develop GTA games in China may be the only key a clone
So let's find it out on number 5 number 5
attention better taste of form shows there is no game like
Gt500 that will offend instead of some Chinese built of pubsey while are being tested on their website, so it is
Definitely going to do false it is totally confirmed that
GTA 5 is not coming to Mumbai maybe 5 or 6 year later it will come to Mumbai
Maybe I'm wrong a comment down below, and if you know something about this GTA 5 is coming tomorrow
Please comment down below, and if you agree with me hit the like button and subscribe to my channel
excellent
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(turn CC on to english or Welsh for Narration) Myztro Dooi - Why you keep snapping thru walls? - Duration: 6:06.
Watch here as Dooi without vision of Clutch snaps his crosshair twice. First moving away to his forward right.
LOOKDERE!!!5
Realizing he is following thru the wall, he moved to his forward right. toggling off.
but then... his Back Left movement perfectly follows (clutch)'s movement through the floor.
Damnit Beavis! We looked up to you!
LESWATCHITAFEWMORETIMES
Snap thru wall. SNAPTRHRUWALL. SNAPSNAPSNAP
HOLYSNAPBATMAN
WUTDIS
Follows thru the pillar. Uses it for cover. Unloads his Load.
The respawn is close... so he hits to follow the closest target - it is in between WinD and Revenant. Rev Dies. It snaps to wind.
Now enjoy the rest and cry because even our best players are fooling us. #Sad #MakeAmericanESPORTSBullShitAgain #DooiWearsRedMagaHat
"7.0000-10.000 Aim Snap to look more natural - Toggle begins to go towards WinD, lets go of key and goes towards Rev.
it quick locks onto WinD. he Let's go of the button.
"EYESEEWIND!"
oh wait he in da otha roomz. lolz!
he wuz up dere! DERE! lol I thought he was at the quad. ROFL SKATES.
43MEMBARR g0h+ bustards ? DOENT CoRSS TEH STREEM!!! "RU A GOD???" "No. I Hax" "Den Diez!!" lolz!
You can insert your own subtitles from here on out. Then cry. and cry some more. Then a bit more. then a lot. Then lay in bed listening to The Beach Boys "Pet Sounds" Album.
WAITIMBACK
DA FUCK ISDIS
o i gets it. telepathy lololoololol I still here nao. NAO. watch this beautiful unhuman turn to target Clutch falling. its very very funny. Like. Funny. Y'Know? Humor? No? No.
THATWASMY BOOMST!CK!!!!!!! 8
HERRO REDMAN ISEE ur BOX
O M G TIMETRAVEL
nao we herez againz lol! HERRO AGAINZ (THAT is JEFFK Speech for HERROAGAINZ!)
tyme tr4v3L - I saw BILL & TED! BEETHOVEN!!!!
"Hello Missy... I mean MOM"
lol bob Gh3nG1Z KHAAAAAAAAN!
mouse accel set to 9000.003 capped at infinity and beyond
HELLO DID I SEE u DERE. MAYBE, MAYBENOT. its called GAMESENSE!!!!itivity of my hax.
He knows none of us can teleport up to the mega health - this called pretending to cover an area when you know you are safe. Note he does not do this during the match when hearing danger near.
Wait WTF was that thru the wall snap and unsnap? OHSNAP!!
IR NEO from the MARTIX!!! HERRO AGENTSMITH Imean ELROND LOTR-OL!!!! stay puff marshmellow mang.
id software makes wonderful Floor Textures! Let's admire them during a professional game!
O wAiT nao I know why he liked dem floor text00rs. lol me so silly not noticing OMGWTF
lolwtf
wtf 3.1 alpha build
no danger no problem! look good for the caster!
wait for the reset. he knows players will KNOW that he will go up the jump pad so instead... he engages with people she sees thru the wall exactly at the moment they spawn. OMGPRO!
o rly?
if anyone else moved like this during a 2v2 or duel they would be called a fucking idiot - Signed. General George Washington
et cetera
gh0+b00sters
HELLO RED BOX of WALLZ
lol that was a good pre-fire fake for the audience eh? lower the accuracy a bit.
some BS happens then we goto sleep. Goodnight Moon. Goodnight Stars. as read by Christopher WALLHAX
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How to install an M2 or Mini01-4g on a NAPCO 816, NAPCO 1632, NAPCO 1664 - Duration: 6:00.
This is how to install an M2 on a NAPCO 816, 1632, 1664
First we are going to power down by taking down one of the leads
And disconnecting one of the leads on the battery
Now what we are going to do is disconnect our phone line that is originally there so we are going to take LUG 26 which is over here
And we are going to connect that to LUG 28 , so we are going to skip one and we are going to tie those two together
So next we are going to take LUG 27 and connect that to LUG 29
Next we are going to take the antenna from the M2 and we are going to unwrap it from the bread tie.
we are going to find an empty hole and put it in there could be this side any side its magnetic you can put it wherever it allows
now take the device itself and take the green lead and we are going to connect that to LUG 26.
just give that a good tug make sure its there securely
Now take the YELLOW LEAD and put it in LUG 27, Give it a good tug,
Now take the POWER LEAD, the RED WIRE and put it on LUG 5 on the side
If you need to you can remove the battery, the other LEAD and flip that over to give yourself some more room
Now take the negative (BLACK) and put it under LUG 6, which is labeled auxiliary and it'll be a minus sign or negative
there may be other wires there with it, thats no problem, just tighten that down
now take the red lead, and put it right above it, directly above it on LUG #5
tight that down nice and secure, give it a little tug make sure its on there good.
now we have to power it back up, so take the lead you originally took off in the beginning we are going to put that right back
reconnect your battery
now you are going to take your antenna and just spin it right on there
should fit nice and secure, we can take our bread tie twist back, fold up excess antenna
put it back on the panel, when its powered up, it'll start blinking red and when you have full signal strenght this will turn solid red
and what you want to do is test the signal and make sure that central station is receiving your signal
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Breast Augmentation: Above or Below the Muscle - Duration: 4:57.
So the nice thing about having an
implant go above or below--it really takes into consideration a couple of things. The first thing
I really think about is: how much breast tissue you have, and certainly if you're very thin, and you have almost no breast tissue
you can put in an implant on top of the muscle...
it may be *pretty visible* and so you don't want to have a look that looks like, "Hey
I just stuck this implant on the outside of my skin" because my natural tissue is so thin it can't camouflage it. And so certainly,
going underneath the muscle
softens those contours. However, if you do have a fuller breast,
then it may make more sense to go on top. You're disturbing that muscle much less, you're getting all the shape that you need and
you have plenty of tissue to camouflage that implant. Because the most important thing:
we don't want to look fake!
And we don't want everyone to know that we've had breast augmentation, and so we want to have a soft look.
The other thing that can be an issue when going underneath the muscle is what we call pectoral
animation and that means the muscle moving over the implant and that's going to be more visible with a smooth implant because it's slippery, so
the the muscle can move over top of that. With the textured implant
it's going to grip. You're still going to have a little bit of motion, but certainly not as severe.
But if you're on top of the muscle, then you don't really see that because the muscle is actually behind the implant and so you're not
going to get that motion. So there's many things that go into that and so really you want to have a
thorough conversation about what are you trying to achieve?
What are the things that are going to bother you? What are things that are not going to bother you so that you pick that?
The implant that's going to give you the outcome you're looking for
One of the things we want to be thoughtful about is going on top of the muscle and capsular contracture
and that's the tightening up of the tissue around the implant and
capillary contracture can happen below the muscle or on top of the muscle
The thing that we do know is that if we are going on top of them
also, we really do prefer to have a textured implant because
The research really has shown that a textured implant has a much less likelihood of capsular contracture especially in
the plane above the muscle as opposed to
the plane below
So there's many variations to this and so it's a conversation that we really want to have
To determine how much tissue you have and what's going to give you the best look
So when we're looking at implant placement the two
People that I really am thinking about going on top of the muscle
That most people have a choice about
but the two people that I really am concerned and prefer to stay on top of the muscle are Fitness competitors and
Women who may have a tuberous or constricted breast and so each presents its own issues
In Fitness competitors
They're very very lean and so you have to balance how much natural tissue that they have but because they are working out
So heavily and their muscles are large
and they're very very well defined and
Especially when they compete they are posing and they are flexing so having a muscle that is moving around is very
Distracting and it really detracts from their overall outcome of what they're trying to present when they're in show and so
For those women I really strongly recommend going on top of the muscle
The other group of women are women who have a tuberous breasts or a constricted breast and
really
These are fibrous breasts that
Perhaps may not open up all the way and may not be as round as the average breast
They tend to be we call it torpedo-shaped in more more tubular shape and so that tissue is very thick
And dense and so going on top of the muscle it will help release and open that tissue up
so that it can drape around the implant to actually give them more of a
rounder shape
compared to what they had prior to surgery and so in
Those patients in many cases I do recommend going on top of the muscle as well
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ER or Urgent Care? (Seabrook ER) - Duration: 0:35.
It's important to know the difference between when to visit an Urgent Care facility, and
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#9: Whether You Think You Can, Or You Think You Can't - You're Right with Dr. Rob Fazio - Duration: 50:29.
Voice-over: Congratulations, you are in the right place at the right time.
This is the Summon Courage, Change Everything podcast with Matthew Levy.
An inspiring interview with a guest who has achieved big goals in life and work and who
will divulge their secrets to success.
Today, now, the man behind the microphone, Matt Levy.
Matthew Levy: Hello, Summon Courage, Change Everything community.
I'm Matthew Levy, the host of the Summon Courage, Change Everything podcast.
If you like what you hear, please help spread the word in your networks with a five-star
review or the equivalent.
I'm so pleased to have Dr. Rob Fazio joining us for this episode.
Let me tell you a little bit about Rob.
He is the managing partner at OnPoint advising, specializing in global leadership and organizational
success.
Rob partners with leaders and top teams and organizations to empower them to grow while
achieving results.
Based on his experiences in sports psychology and executive development, he teaches clients
how to remove barriers to organizational effectiveness and to function at optimal levels.
Rob has worked with executive teams and coached executives throughout organizations including
the c-suite, surgeons, and emerging leaders.
Rob is also that author of Simple Is the New Smart, and he's developed the Motivational
Currency Calculator which is a self-assessment that reveals what drives people, how well
someone can read another person's motivators, and how effective someone is at using the
best approach to tap into someone's motivators.
Rob, welcome to the show.
I've been looking forward to our conversation.
Dr. Robert Fazio: I am too, Matt.
It's great to be with you.
Matt: Let's start, get the audience a little bit familiar with your background.
Tell us a little bit about your upbringing and how, ultimately, that may have impacted
your career decision and lead us up to what you are doing these days?
Rob: Sure.
Upbringing-wise, I think what's most relevant is I grew up in Northern New Jersey, about
20 minutes from New York City, so I had the benefit of being in the suburbs with access
to New York City.
It was almost a little bit a combination of grit and grace.
You had trees and then you got exposure to diversity of New York City which I really
enjoyed.
We were a typical northern New Jersey family where you played sports and academics were
also important.
You got exposed to different things.
I think that the coolest thing was the block I grew up on was a double dead end, so we
got to play all the sports we wanted without the rush.
At the same time, I had cousins and family in Queens, New York, so every other weekend
we'd go to New York, and we'd be playing football on the middle of 93rd Street across Bay Boulevard
which is completely different than having to catch on a lawn.
Matt: Great.
Tell us a little bit more.
How did you wind up in the career path that you ultimately selected?
Rob: It was pretty intentional believe it or not.
I always enjoyed learning about people, and it actually is partially because I used to
get in trouble as a kid for not saying hello to my parent's friends when we go to family
visits or friends visits because I was just socially awkward or worried about things.
Most people got intrigued by this whole aspect of how do people act and behave, and what's
that all about.
One day, my babysitter had a book.
It said psychology on it.
This was maybe grammar school or somewhere around high school, and I said, "That sounds
really interesting."
Then I went down the path of psychology and sports psychology and learning about athletes
and top performance and then further went on to doing that in the business world.
Matt: Ultimately, also, to get a Ph.D. now, a lot of people have aspirations to do that,
Rob, and they hit a derailer along the way someway or another.
Was this as significant of an achievement as it sounds like to most people?
Rob: It was for me in many ways.
I've realized along the way I was my biggest derailer.
I would continually hold myself back because I'd be worried about something or concerned
about something, and even the messages I got from professors-- I started at a small school
in New York and then transferred to Penn State.
I didn't have that traditional cognitive IQ academic prestige if you will.
A lot of people were straight with me, and they said, "Look, Rob, I don't think that
getting a doctorate is going to be in your real house and that fueled my fire, and I
knew why I wanted to find a way to do it and made a decision in undergrad that I was going
to find a way to do it, and I did.
Matt: That's interesting.
In some ways, you were being dissuaded from following that path?
Rob: Yes, no one was doing it intentionally, but the messages that I got along the way
was, "You're really not cut from the same cloth as a Ph.D." or "You're not going to
be able to get the GPA or the GREs, and there's a cut off of 1200."
The messages that I got was that I wasn't of that caliber which just made my fire burn
a little hotter.
Matt: Was there a time when you started to doubt yourself?
Rob: Yes, absolutely.
I doubted myself a lot, and the biggest buffer to doubt is your friends that believe more
in you than you believe in yourself.
I have one friend when I was going to my first master's program in athletic counseling in
Springfield College who said, "You're definitely going to get in."
I said, "No I'm not."
At the time, I was focusing on being healthy, and he goes, "I'll bet you a plate of cheese
fries, you're going to get in this program."
I had to eat a plate of cheese fries, but, yes, absolutely.
Matt: Interesting, interesting.
Along the way, I guess, at some point, you did have what you might call a w2 job, is
that right?
A steady paycheck from an established firm?
Rob: Yes, yes.
I worked for the Hay Group in Center City, Philly in their corporate headquarters.
I was deciding between New York Metro office and Philadelphia, and once I got through grad
school I really wanted to go there because they had a lot of research and focus on emotional
intelligence.
That was what I had done my dissertation on, and that was my target firm which I went after.
Matt: That leads us right into the conversation that you ultimately decide to leave that comfort
zone, that safety nest of a regular paycheck and break out into roles, one way or another,
that required you to hunt and kill in order to be paid.
Rob: Yes, absolutely.
After Hay Group, I went to a smaller firm which is called LRI which was a firm that
years ago Marshall Goldsmith had started, and it grew into something else.
I was there for eight years and had a great experience.
I always knew that I enjoyed working with senior executives and, let's say, strong personalities
at the top of the house.
That's something I was always been passionate about.
I got to a place where I love autonomy, I love thought leadership, and I really enjoy
being able to create your own path.
That's when I decided to take the leap of faith.
Though there's the element of you've got to be willing to give some things up when you
start your own firm or business, it's about also a combination of your support systems,
people that believe on you as well as you have to have that business network.
You're never going to be 100% and there's no safety net, but my biggest inspiration
was my wife and she's like, "What are you waiting for?
Go do this."
That was the deciding factor.
Matt: Yes, sure.
You need that support system, but even with that, Rob, isn't there concerns like, "How
am I going to pay my mortgage?
What if my phone doesn't ring?"
How did you wrestle with those "normal fears" I would call them?
Rob: Yes, absolutely.
I started my own firm, as I was getting engaged and selling a house in Philadelphia, finding
a house, there was a time for eight months where I shared my office with my infant daughter,
Reese.
You have all those fears and all those times where you're not sure.
All you can do is increase your probability of success.
I think that I'm always a little bit anxious around adding value, and I think that's been
a helpful differentiator around making sure that when I do something with the client,
that it's going to be helpful and add value to their business.
[music] Matt: It's interesting, Rob.
Being lucky enough to be with you when you made this decision to create your own firm,
I remember saying, "Come on.
It's a no-brainer.
You got this.
This is perfect."
Isn't it interesting that sometimes in life everyone else has this supreme confidence,
but in our own heart of hearts, we lack that confidence?
Why do you think that is?
Rob: You were absolutely there with me as I was going through transition.
I think it's when you have a responsibility that you want to other people, so a mortgage
or to a spouse, it's more difficult to take those leaps of faith.
As well as the insecurity always comes in to play.
Those things that I talked about before, sometimes fears like, "Am I smart enough?
Am I good enough?"
Those type of thoughts that enter into what you do, and I think it takes some work on
ourselves to say, "Okay, if I have those insecurities or potential challenges, let me be smart about
it and try to build enough money up and enough relationships up so I could do this in the
right way."
It takes time and being intentional and strategic.
I know those are buzz words, but [unintelligible 00:11:45] a lot of work on the front end,
and being sure you have the confidence, and the competence to match that confidence is
really what got me there.
Matt: Interesting, Rob.
We all have these limiting beliefs, these self-doubts, but isn't step one to acknowledge
that those are what they are in the first place?
Rob: Acknowledging to yourself and other people.
I have conversations about limitations I put on myself all of the times.
One of my biggest pet peeves is people who get advice from people that shouldn't be giving
advice.
I vet people that give me advice.
My wife's one, other friends, other colleagues, but I just think that acknowledging it and
then also making sure that you're pushing through that, or as one of my colleagues said,
"Leaning into that discomfort."
It's never a slam dunk, but if you can get out of the way of yourself, good things can
happen.
[chuckles] Matt: Good and we're going to explore some
of that some more for sure, Rob.
One of the things I talk about in the podcast is what I call the D.R.E.A.M. action plan
where each of those letters stands for something really important to help people achieve big
goals in life and work.
The first one is D, devotion.
This concept that, really, to overcome adversity, to live a full life, one really should think
about what is their destiny, what is their purpose.
Do you subscribe to this notion that that's an important concept?
If so, how do you apply it to your own life and your own work?
Rob: I think it is an important concept.
The only slight pivot I'd make to that is I'm a big believer in "we create our own path"
and so, I try to be very disciplined about my destiny and make it that it's somewhere
I want to be as opposed to somewhere I just end up.
That aspect of being disciplined and really having clearly focused priorities that we
go after.
In my business life I'm very intentional, and then there are things that just happen
in the world and in your life that are great connections and things that add value to your
business life as well as your home life.
Matt: It was Nietzsche, I guess, that said, "He who has a 'why' in life can bear anyhow,"
right?
This is one of those concepts, so just say a little bit more, if you would, about the
importance of people finding out their purpose or doing some work in that area at least.
Rob: I think that finding a purpose is really important.
Sometimes I think we overemphasize the whole idea of "why" and we get caught up in that.
There's some great research that was done at UCLA around looking at different groups
of people where they talked about, "Okay.
Think about what it feels like to be successful as opposed to think about how you're going
to be successful."
I'm personally more of a how person than a why person, and I'm always connected to the
work that I do, but I'm very big on like, "How am I going to get to where I want to
go?"
I also get purpose in areas outside of my work, but inside of my work, I think a lot
of my purpose comes from growing up and seeing my dad working in New York City in long hours
and working, at times, for really bad bosses.
One of my little secrets around this executive advising thing is I know if I help a senior
executive be a better influencer and more effective, the people below that person are
going to have better lives, and when those people go home, they have a better family
life.
Matt: Absolutely.
Seeing as that you brought up your dad, and seeing as that we've talked a little bit about
adversity, would you be open to sharing a little bit about that?
Rob: Absolutely.
As you know, my dad was a great man.
He was in the Twin Towers on 9/11, and he was on the 99th floor.
He was one of the original people to happen to see the first plane going into Tower One,
and while he was watching that-- He was a very quiet person, but somehow became a leader
at that moment and told people- he was in Tower Two - to leave the towers and go home.
He was adamant about people that were trying to come back up.
One of the things that people told us about him in those last moments of life was that
he was holding a door to help people.
That's been a huge inspiration and way for us to feel connected to his story.
Unfortunately, he didn't make it home safe, but we know that he did a lot to help other
family members get home safe.
That's an element of pride we have in our dad that he was there for other people and
just a simple act of holding a door and helping those people in those moments has lived on
with me in my whole life as well as work.
Matt: What is one of the legacies that you've been able to continue?
Rob: I think that the biggest thing is this whole idea of holding the door and putting
others first and helping people.
In parallel to my work life, we have a nonprofit called Hold The Door For Others, and that's
really where we help people grow through trauma and crisis and use that as the catalyst for
growth because we know that people can grow into rightfully so understandably dark places
when they lose a loved one, whether it's related to 9/11 or it's related to a sickness, or
a car accident.
A big legacy from my dad is this nonprofit that we've developed.
Believe it or not, a lot of what I learned for the last 16 years or so in the non-profit
world and doing this is a lot of what I do is with the executives I work with; I just
use different language.
[music] Matt: We're going to put it in the show notes
but just verbally for those that are listening how can people find out more about the nonprofit?
Rob: Our website is holdthedoor.com.
All of our resources, so we have resources on sudden loss and adversity, we have a resource
at the self-awareness tool, everything is free and downloadable on holdthedoor.com,
or we could send hard copies to people.
That's really part of our passionate purpose for that.
The Fazio family as well as a lot of our friends keeping that alive.
What really is fascinating is, I mentioned before, how quiet and gentle a person my dad
was, his legacy is really loud which makes us proud.
Matt: That's terrific.
Wow.
You helped me greatly, Rob, when I had that near-death experience that listeners are familiar
with.
Part of the reason why I wanted you a part of that story, that situation, was just knowing
how you had handled your own adversity and just felt that you could really be a strength
to me, and I really appreciate that.
I guess that's a segue into, what advice do you have for others that are dealing with
their own type of adversity whether it's the type that you went through or the type that
I went through?
Rob: Whether it's business or life, there's always going to be speed bumps and roadblocks
and really difficult things.
I've always been a believer of if you think through things almost like worst case scenarios
and it sounds terrible, but let's take an executive thinking through if they got fired
or laid off and to bring it back to my Dad after 26 years of being a senior executive,
he got laid off out of the blue.
What I learned from him was to be really smart about the relationships that you keep and
not letting your ego take you over and making sure that you're smart about your entrance
as well as your exits.
Now, he never said that to me, but I learned that through his behaviors, and that's the
reason why he was able to land another job even though it took a year later.
Seeing him go through that was a big factor, and I think that when I talk with executives,
and I work with them, it's all about being transparent and laying things on the table.
I guess the best piece of advice I give to people that go through adversity is "go in
and deal with it."
Go into the eye of the storm and think about all the things that are upsetting to you because
that adversity is going to manifest in some way, and you might as well have some control
over that as opposed to it manifesting in a way you don't want such as health or getting
blindsided by something else.
Matt: I want to get right back to that point in a second, but before we leave the topic
of your Dad, what was the best piece of advice that he ever gave you?
Rob: He wasn't a give advice type of guy.
It was more of just what he did.
I would say the best piece of advice gave me through his actions was "be there."
Although he was an executive in New York, he was always there for friends.
Whether they were moving or something was going on or a friend that was dealing with
some kind of adversity, he was just present.
He wasn't the person that was giving advice or leading the way, but he was always present
and supportive, and that has really lived on in me as a constant reminder of, it sounds
so simplistic, and it is, but not spreading yourself so thin that you can be there for
people that count and be helpful because nothing replaces being present and being there.
Matt: Yes, well, I can assure our listeners that you do live and breathe that every day.
Rob: Thanks, Matt.
Thank you.
Matt: Absolutely.
I want to double click a little bit on the book, Simple Is the New Smart.
I have my trusty copy right here.
It's dog-eared and highlighted.
Tell us a little bit more about how this project came to be, and then I do want to ask you
a specific question about one of the frameworks that you share in the book.
Rob: Sure.
Much like when you asked how did you get into psychology and business, it was one of those
hurdles where I wasn't sure I could do it, but I knew I would be able to do it.
It was a dream of mine and something I always wanted to do.
There's a big barrier to getting a publisher, and so I had gotten a lot of no's.
It was something I always wanted to do, and my family and wife was very supportive and
helpful in the process.
I wanted to have a book that simplified a lot of the academic stuff that was out there.
Yes, I went to a Ph.D. program, but I'm not your traditional Ph.D. [chuckles] You can
ask any of my classmates or friends.
I appreciate the research, however, I'm not a researcher; I'm more of a connector, influencer.
I'm all about the practical aspect of research, and that's where I really get inspired.
Simple Is the New Smart is about taking things that have some theory or practice to them
or based on experiences working with executives, and my whole rule is that something that can
be applied right now.
That's what I really got excited about in writing the book.
Matt: You mentioned that it was a dream of yours, it's a dream of mine, and I just totally
admire people that have a dream and make it happen.
How did you go from "I'd never have the time to do it.
I don't know what to say.
Nobody's going to publish it.
Blah, blah, blah."?
How did you go from that to this?
Rob: Well, part of it was the decision point.
I had this belief in that, it's critical to have one primary area of focus.
There's a difference between priorities and preferences, and I have a lot of preferences
and things I want to accomplish, and I made the decision that "Okay, this book's going
to get done."
So every day until I got the book publisher to say yes, I was doing things, I'd make a
long list, and I was doing things that would help me move towards that.
I also have to say a woman named Grace Killelea that wrote the book, The Confidence Effect,
she guided me in the process and was a big support system and helped with that as well.
It was a combination of people support and that constant focus of this is my number one
priority.
Matt: Awesome.
Well, it's a gift that a lot of people are taking advantage of including myself.
Rob: Thank you.
Thank you.
Matt: One of the frameworks that you discussed in the book is the pathway to ownership.
I talk about that all the time in my own practice, in my keynote speeches because I think it's
so important.
Would you be willing to give a quick overview on what that is, and why it's important?
Rob: Yes, the whole idea of the pathway to ownership comes down to while there are so
many things going on in the world and at work and in your family, my belief is that it comes
down to you and what you're willing to do and what you're committed to doing, so this
idea, mindset of we can-- Pardon the example here, if you fold a piece of paper in half
and then you open it up and then you look at it, it's going to likely fold back to the
way it was originally.
The whole idea of pathway to ownership is not falling into that trap of the way you've
always thought and taking ownership of things.
I like ownership better than accountability especially in the states because accountability
tends to be about blame, and ownership, for me, is more about doing something and taking
action.
It's all about "What can I do differently as opposed to pointing fingers?"
I'll tell you this, Matt, it's not that easy to do.
I find myself, a lot of times, falling back into that victim mindset of "What's happening
to me?" about even just simple things like the weather, and having those reminders is
really, really important.
Matt: What I love about it is that there's a decision point when the shit hits the fan,
and it seems that a lot of people don't realize that there's even a decision to be made.
Could you just expound on that key point a little bit more?
Rob: Yes, a lot of it goes back to acknowledging that we have a choice to make between stimulants
and reactions, so some of your basic years-old psychology.
I think the key is reminding ourselves of that, so whatever you need to do to hit the
pause button, that is the key.
Thinking before you act and acting on what you think is critical.
I do simple things.
Sometimes, I just have a post-it on my computer with a little reminder.
Rob: For years, I had the letters VCU on my computer because I never thought I'd be able
to get into their doctoral program.
That moving more towards of "Gosh, I'm never going to be able to do this," that's the victim
because I don't have this type of intelligence to "What am I going to do to get into the
school?"
Little triggers or reminders of that are big because we know about our minds is that has
that snowball effect of once we go down a certain path, it'll pick up momentum, and
to be quite frank I have to catch myself or a lot of times other people can catch me if
I go down that path and remind me of like, "Hey, if you're going to talk about this stuff,
you got to live it."
Matt: Right.
Otherwise, the paper folds right back on itself, right?
Rob: Precisely.
Matt: Our resolve, to me it's a lot about goal setting and obviously, you know how to
do that, Rob.
You coach your clients to do that.
That's how you've accomplished all these things that we've been discussing.
What are your thoughts in general about the importance of goal setting, and how do you
stick to them?
Rob: What I found interesting about goal setting is I often don't use the terms goal setting
because clients are fatigued about the idea of goal setting.
I try to take an approach of where "Okay, what do you want to accomplish?
What success look like for you?" and talk that way.
I do the goal setting oftentimes more in the background where I know what leads successful
goals, but I'm not always playing out a worksheet or something saying "Okay, is it specific?
Is it measurable?"
It's more of I do that only and integrate it, and I'll let them know that I'm vetting
what they talk through and creating those steps.
Two things for me is, one is it has to be something that they're invested in as well
as that adds value to the company that they're working with, and the second thing is it has
to be something where they're willing to give something up in order to accomplish it.
I think that that has has been a helpful recipe.
Matt: For example, in writing a book you'll hear a lot of authors speak about how they
had the goal of writing a certain number of words per day or week.
Is that type of goal setting to get you to an endpoint? is that something that you would
subscribe to?
Rob: Yes, I think that type of thing is important but also realizing that in order to do that
you need to think through what you're going to give up in order to do that.
In goal setting, we often put more on people's plates, but I also want to make sure that
people are taking something off their plate in order to fit that priority there.
In the writing of my book, I would walk as many days a week to the Penn Bookstore, and
that's where I wrote.
I knew and my wife knew that I had this a lot of time and that was me dedicated to my
book writing.
Now when you're writing a book, your revenue can go down.
You have to plan for that as well, and so that discipline in saying, "Okay, I'm going
to be okay with this month making X amount of money or not."
I'm talking in a small business like I am as opposed to a big Fortune 500 company.
If you're the CEO, there's different parameters but for me, it was about "Will I give up revenue
to get more revenue later on and have that discipline up go to the Penn Bookstore and
writing?"
[music] Matt: Perfect segue into the E which is about
energy and this concept that when you say yes to something, you're automatically saying
no to something else.
You started to touch on it a little bit already, but what are some techniques then that one
could employ to not just have themselves so busy that they're not working on the right
things and not accomplishing their goals?
Rob: Yes.
It's very interesting how people think that task completion equals value.
It's absolutely the opposite.
I, on a daily basis, will prioritize what I [inaudible 00:35:25].
I'm an index card ninja, so I use index cards all the time.
I have some color code, really simple, like green is my top priority.
If something goes on a green index card on the day, it's getting done that day probably
within and out.
That's the way I go through it.
The second thing for me, Matt, is I don't check email first every day.
I really believe in doing something that is associated with your priority or thing you
really want to accomplish before you get pulled into the email drain and the reactive mindset.
I totally get that people have bosses and priorities, but then I say wake up 15 minutes
earlier or do something so you can do something that energizes you towards what you want to
accomplish before you get in that have-to mode.
Matt: That's terrific.
In terms of morning routines, a lot of the gurus and the pundits would say journal, meditate,
gratitude, exercises.
I may be saying it in such a way that I'm disputing it, in fact, I deploy some of those
myself.
Did you have any thoughts about that morning routine?
Rob: I believe in mindfulness, and I think it's important.
I come from a sports psychology background where I use and have used imagery.
The ones built differently, I'm a get it a done guy.
I'm a wake-up, get it done for it, and that's just me.
I think that what works for you is the most important.
Matt: Excellent.
Attitude, the A in D.R.E.A.M. is for attitude.
The power of a positive mindset.
What are your thoughts about the importance of that to have the courage, to live successfully?
Rob: What we know is that we can create new pathways by controlling our thinking, and
it's tough.
You look at the literature on emotional intelligence and how our emotional brains are built first,
in the moment, it's so tough to not get caught up in that.
I still go back to the simplifying.
I use a lot of sports psychology techniques such as having a keyword or a trigger word
that makes you reset your mindset to think more positively because what we know is if
you try to just fight your thoughts or ignore them, that doesn't work.
I believe in moving in rather than moving on.
Let your thought come in, feel it, and let it pass and then get back to neutral however
that is.
If it's deep breathing, imagery, a cue word, watching a Youtube video, or something to
reset yourself and then refocus, I think is key.
Matt: Love it.
The M is about mastery.
The concept of continuous learning and continuous self-improvement.
What are some of the things that you do, Rob, to continue to sharpen your own saw?
Rob: I talk to a lot of people that do things that I don't do.
I have a person in Philadelphia that's the head of a large growth-oriented, private equity
firm, and I've developed a relationship over the years, and he's been phenomenal just having
lunch with me once a quarter to learn about the private equity world because it's not
something that I grew up in.
I learn a lot through conversations, talking to people, asking questions.
I use searches on Youtube a lot.
The whole blockchain phenomenon and everything when I want to learn about that.
What's key for me is multiple sources because everyone's got a point of view who can find
research on what their agenda is and it's about you making your own decisions based
on multiple sources.
Matt: While we're talking about mastery, a lot of people, if they believe in coaching,
will hire a coach.
You're one; I'm doing the work as well.
What's your thought overall on the importance of coaching, and from there, what are some
things that a potential coachee, someone who's willing to hire a coach, should be thinking
about?
Rob: I lean more on the side of advising as opposed to pure coaching.
Part of my work with people, I'm coaching, and I'm using some skills from psychology,
and understanding, and influencing, I probably lean more towards a side of giving a point
of view and advising.
I think that the value that I've heard from clients is "I'm not afraid to do the straight
talk."
I work with a lot of strong personalities, such as surgeons, or CEOs, or people that
people are afraid to give truth to, and the combination of being able to sit in the room
and tell how it is as well as listen and understand their perspective and story and being versatile,
working within that person's business context or what's important to them is important.
I'm sorry, Matt, what was the second part of the question?
Matt: Right, Rob, it was just about if people are looking for an advisor or a coach, what
are some things that they should be thinking about?
Rob: One thing that I think often gets overemphasized in the wrong way is fit.
I don't think you should necessarily always work with the person that you click with or
connect with the best because the likeability factor, while important, it should be more
about the value they can add.
What I try to talk with clients, when I'm advising them on selecting a coach or advisor,
is "Yes, the connection and the likeability is important," also think about, "Are they
confident enough to give you a different point of view than your own and stand up to you?"
I think that's probably the biggest factor.
Matt: Right.
If all they do is tell you what you want to hear, you don't need a coach for that or an
advisor for that.
Rob: Then it's just a comfortable conversation [inaudible 00:42:55] more than that.
Matt: Excellent.
As we wind down, I got a couple of quick hitting questions for you, if you don't mind.
Rob, how about this.
What three things would you take along with you to a desert island, and family is disqualified?
Rob: Family and you are disqualified, so I'll go from there?
[chuckles] I would say if there was a way to take the Internet because you're able to
be connected to other people.
Two is some form of entertainment, so you're keeping your mind engaged and enjoyable.
The third thing would be a mystery.
My daughter is big into Mickey and Minnie Mouse now, and they have that thing "Toodles"
I see every day, that big question mark "Toodles in life, what would that third thing be?"
I don't know, it's a question mark.
Matt: [laughs] Okay.
How about a hat that provides some shade?
Rob: I'm actually an expert at the exfoliating after I go out at the golf course and get
burned, so I'm good.
I'm used to that by now.
Matt: On a more serious note, what advice would you give to your 21-year-old self?
Rob: I would say, "Do what you did," and the only caveat I have that is, "Do it earlier.
Build relationships sooner, find your confidence sooner, appreciate others sooner, and realize
that it's not just about what's going on in your own head, it's also about what's going
on in other people, and realize that you can be a bridge and help other people unleash
excellence for themselves and get to a different level."
Matt: Excellent.
Thank you for that.
I'm big into motivational quotes.
I know that some people might think that they're clich�s, but they're good reminders for
me, a little bit like what you put on your computer as reminders for yourself.
With that as a backdrop, is there one particular quote that you might want to put on a billboard,
so you could get that message out to as many people as possible?
Rob: Yes.
Henry Ford's quote is my favorite which is, "If you think you can or you think you can't,
you're right."
That to me just really sums up a lot of all this, the things that we're talking about.
Matt: That's great.
Henry Ford was the one that said, "The key to a successful life is to figure out what
your destiny is, and then do it."
You're taking issue with that one but-- Rob: Listen, I don't have a Ford, so it's
okay.
[laughs] Matt: Right, that's good.
It's the power of your mindset once again.
Rob: Absolutely.
You raised a good point though, Matt.
It's diversity of thinking as well.
We don't have to agree with everything that someone says, it's the pieces of what they
say.
We get too caught up in this binary of like/dislike, but I think, even people that we don't like,
there's probably value that they can add in our lives, but we block that because we disagree
or don't like them.
Matt: Interesting.
Is there any other thought, idea, or any other comment that you might want to share with
the audience?
Rob: Something I've been doing a lot of work on is, we talk a lot about motivation, and
I've studied it for years, and I wanted to have something that's practical yet has some
theoretical underpinning to it.
You and I have talked about this idea of motivational currency before which puts people into boxes
or colors or things like that, so this idea of motivational currency, where people are
driven by different things like performance, people, power, and purpose.
All I'm saying here is that realizing that people are diversified and have more complexity
to them rather than just being one way, I think that that's an important message for
us to realize and to leverage.
Matt: Thanks, Rob.
Let's be clear about it.
You developed an assessment that you call "Motivational Currency Calculator," is it?
Rob: Yes, absolutely.
Developed that, and it's where there's three aspects to it which is recognizing, reading,
and leading.
The first part is a general self-assessment, looks at what motivates you and drives you.
Then, what I like about it is there's a skill base to it, so there's a place where you have
to determine what other people's motivators are, what drives them.
The third part is how to lead according to people's primary motivators.
The whole theory is that if you start with what people's primary motivators are, or motivates
them, they'll be more open to your message, and you might be able to influence them more
effectively.
Matt: Excellent.
This leads us into how can people learn more about the Motivational Currency Calculator,
how can they get in touch with you if they'd like to follow up?
Rob: Yes.
Onpointadvising.com is our website.
You can go there, there are a number of free resources as well, under insights there's
articles and different blogs there, and there're also examples of different situations of working
with people, and I think some good resources that might be helpful.
Matt: That's great, Rob.
Thanks so much for joining us today.
I really appreciate you sharing your stories, your frameworks, your background with the
audience.
I know I learned a lot, and I'm sure those listening did as well.
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