sexual harassment the me - hashtag sexual dominance the fight over sex once
again we see ourselves here in men men and women we need to have this
discussion more and this is a podcast for men and guys we need to talk about
this because if we don't talk about this we will keep having sex be a reaction to
our repression and we'll never normalize it the most important thing we can get
from this is that the tools of seduction something that we talk about endlessly
here at the TSL podcast something that I've built a company the sexual life on
is that the skills of seduction the skills of being social the skills of
sexual escalation are never to sexually sexually harass they're not there to to
rape or force yourself on a woman and they're there to empower you they're
there to give you the opportunity so that you don't have to do that in women
walk away with a great experience and so yeah I think we don't get that enough
and there's so much that goes into this whole topic that is fueled so much that
we don't talk about that we we get by or we speak with in an echo chamber of
what's going on and man it's a terrible terrible thing look guys it's October
the 17th this is the TSL podcast Steve Mayeda I was requested by the TSL guys
on their board to make a video about this because there's so much going on
about it there's a lot of guys talking about on the Austin men's development
board about just how fucked up this is and see this is the crazy thing we talk
about a lot of stuff like rape culture or or people jumping to hysteria or
exaggerated feminism you know the third wave feminism is they call it being too
much you know pressing us as men and it's in it's this horrible experience
and I want to get to that but what I want to talk about here is just because
there are problems in our society towards men and there are right and
there are for women too and this is the point of this is that just because there
are problems in our society like you go to court you get screwed over for child
support custody and all the sort of stuff you get support or you get screwed
over and alimony you you get taken advantage of in all these different ways
is a man does not negate the fact that this also could happen to women and in
many ways it can happen a lot worse and so in that because of
that feminism started in the late 60s and the 70s feminism came about
empowering women to speak up in all these different ways and I want to get
into a history lesson of that and I don't even want to get into the stats of
it because this is what I hate is when we stop when we stop seeing each other
as people when we stop seeing each other as sexual beings man this is what the
sexual life is about and we're gonna get to this more then we rely on labeling
people we at lately label people we rely on identifying them immediately we use
stats to to replace conversation sharing with somebody else and then we start
fearing what the other person thinks that if we side too much with women and
we're a man were in danger or if we're a woman and we side too much with men were
in danger know we need to be talking we are supposed to influence each other and
the fact that we haven't as a culture for decades been able to influence each
other freely and sexually we build up this repression man it's fucked up and
all of a sudden everything makes sense if you're a feminist feminism makes
sense if you're a men's rights activist that all makes sense the red pill stuff
makes sense make time makes sense and all of a sudden we're not using our
dicks and pussies we're not using our hearts and souls and instead we're
fighting a fight that never ends that's really an expression of ourselves with a
person a thousand miles away that can't be solved look I know that's that's a
that's a lot there guys that's a lot but let's get to this first number one if
somebody's been sexually harassed right they don't need to be judged this
doesn't mean it's weakness for men this doesn't mean that somehow your attack
this doesn't mean that your problems also aren't negated and one of the
things that also on the flip side of that is that I never liked about the
whole rape culture thing that I never liked about extreme feminism and this is
in all of it this also isn't negating your your claim if you're a woman and
you're claiming to me too and there's plenty of guys that have I mean my
cousin has you know being being sexually abused by a woman being sexually abused
by other men being women sexually abused also by women but the fact of the matter
is most of it is women being sexually abused or harassed or whatever by men
now here's the problem here's the problem and this is big time first
see for myself you know Steve sexual life have been doing this for 11 years
I've also will get into my story a little bit but not just about me the
problem is is that when people see me they see a label when my biggest problem
with extreme feminism my biggest problem for all the rape culture stuff man it's
terrible especially when they find out you know I'm Steve and I teach men about
sex I teach men about sex oh my god I teach men to rape women this is the
assumption or I teach this sleazy thing man
let me tell you seduction is that the the the core of humanity it is beautiful
it's one of the greatest experiences of your life I don't care who you are if
you're sexually active it has moved things in you that are amazing and
that's what we work with in that yes there's all sorts of stuff that we talk
about but before I get into any massive you know it's like tangent of that what
I want to talk about is that this is the big problem about when we get into these
social movements when extreme feminism that's what men hate about it is it
labels us immediately it changes things for us without getting to know us and
once again rather than socially connecting with each other rather than
seeing each other's face to face instead of having a conversation we've replaced
that with judgment we've replaced that with a label we've replaced that with
the black and the white you know the big trap that says if I'm on the black side
and I get a little bit of white I'm now in danger and I can't talk about it so
rather than getting to understand why women might be saying this understanding
why men might be saying what they're saying we now pick sides we put a big
wall into it we put a wall in between masculine and feminine the the
unification of all all living things the masculine and feminine let's not forget
that we've put a wall in front of it and we become more man and we become more
women and we don't understand each other and see I think this dynamic has been
happening you know more than decades it's been happening for centuries where
we put this divided and now more than ever and of course in the last three
decades last last decade even has become even more that we start seeing how to be
a man how to be a woman through this filter
shit okay and we start developing groups like that third wave feminism the start
seeing men is you know they could be predators or this is rape culture we
have to always be on watch and the sad truth is is that women have had to go
through that but you know what I hate is a man is when I'm seen as that
immediately when I'm seen as that immediately and I'm treated like that
immediately without any sort of action without any sort of expression from
myself or even just because I work in this or perhaps it's a very common thing
a guy sleeps with a girl at you know certain area and she gasps about him and
all this stuff happens and and then you've seen that way then fuck why don't
you act that way and here's the thing there's actually used the truth as most
men don't have the balls to act that way because they're not bad dudes down deep
they can't do that they can't be aggressive in those ways which are
harassing and evil and so on and and that they do partaken in rape culture at
a high level but the thing is is that men get treated that way that's terrible
but this also doesn't negate the fact that as men you know we learn the tools
of seduction we learn the tools of masculinity we become more of a man we
become shaped in understand our masculinity to harass women no that's
not it and here's the other the other part of it you know men should be able
to talk about what they want men should be able to say things which might be
derogatory but that happens in the barber shop that happens within men's
groups that happens with those areas and man it happens all the time man I can't
tell you just being in a relationship for the past five years that's
challenging there's a big thing right we get at each other's throats we have a
lot going on with kids there's tons going on with both of our businesses and
so on is that there's times when we're pissed off guess what I need to do guess
what I need to do when I'm pissed off I need to talk to my dudes and he can need
to decompress she needs to do her thing so that we come together and we don't
overreact on our exaggerations when we're emotionally overwhelmed and man
this is the terrible thing that's the terrible thing about this this
phenomenon of me too is such a beautiful event where men and women can talk now
about what they want they can talk about this rather than what
they don't want now this goes into the another part of it there's the social
phenomenon and there's the actual trauma and then there's the healing of trauma
these are all three different things there's probably more to it than that
so this social phenomenon what we need to be doing is a culture is we need to
be more pro-sex rather than say what doesn't make sex work women tell men and
this is hard because we don't communicate in the same way but this is
my life's mission with men this is my life's mission is that women tell men
how to seduce them right men tell women how to seduce them be able to lead in
those and maybe you might not be able to directly communicate but the life's goal
of TSL you know my work for the last decade has been men how can you be
sexual and allow the sexuality of a woman to come out when do you go strong
when do you go soft when do you do things that are aggressive when do you
do things that are passive these are all in the scope of sex there's not just one
or the other it's not black or white we can't listen to an extremist who's gone
through pain or is terrified of sex about how to have sex and much on the
other side of men we can't listen to men who are terrified of women who've been
screwed over for whatever reasons whether that's wrong or right and fuck
the statistics people seriously those things can get so man just convoluted
they can be so used for one's opinion it's it's terrible man it is not science
but we take men who are terrified of women and we're learning how to be
sexual learning how to be more of a man learning how to deal with women now we
got to stop that we have got to stop that socially we need to start listening
like women every single woman who's been sexually harassed don't ignore them
don't shut them out but also in that same or maybe in a different breath but
in that same woman there is a story about how to be seduced about how she
wants to be sexual with a man of how those things happen and we need to start
listening to that men who've been harmed you've been hurt
who've been destroyed their reputations ruined and so on man Jesus Christ like
rather than hear about how you want to overpower women how you want to gain
dominance how you never want to not lose again because it's really the same
argument on both sides we've been disempowered we have no voice
we need to gain power back by degrading the opposite sex and gaining power over
them and then finally we'll be complete no this isn't how it works this is not
how it works but rather than that the story of how you want to feel how you
want to feel soft with a woman how you want to feel comforted how you want to
not always have to fight in in that range there's a dynamic of both because
part of being a man and part of being a woman is to be strong at some times to
give in at others but to unify and connect in all these different ways and
then we talk about the trauma itself sexual harassment or degrading men or
existing in this culture where anybody gets fucked over and see this is what we
got to listen to men who've been fucked over are not lying women who have been
fucked over are not lying and I don't care if there's more of either than the
other because right now there's a lot of them and right now you've built up your
divide so big that you're both shouting at each other and nobody hears fucking
shit man have you been fucked over let's listen to this all right well in the
court system they get fucked in child support custody they get fucked in all
sorts of different ways guys get screwed over and it sucks man
it's a terrible thing you know when we walk into a room also and we're
prejudged for something just by being a man or a woman has to objectify our
sexuality or our wants in a way that's fucking terrible that should not be
diminished ever listen to the stories of those guys don't let them turn into a
bunch of red pill rage motherfuckers or some MIG tau guys that give up sex
forever and on the flip side of that this is the McTell version of the woman
McDow stands for four men go their own way by the way and and so women say well
I'm gonna give up mask it men forever I don't need men I can do this on my own
but these women who are in pain who are sexually harassed the worst thing we can
do is shut them out listen to what they're saying listen to
how they're saying it because right now we're having the first page of dialogue
of both which is basically this woman's saying men you need to do that you need
to stop doing this you need to no longer put me under threat we hear the men
saying women stop doing this you need to no longer put me under threats that's
not what either one wants that's not what either one wants both want a way to
work with each other and have their their urge connect and it's happened
throughout history this war against one another has gone up in history why more
stimuli and cultures a whole bunch of videos we have on that and so on but the
trauma how we deal with that is huge how we interpret that is huge and then we
move into the overall social solution guys girls look we need to come together
we need to see that is is a unification with one another women we got to listen
to you but this doesn't mean for all you m-ras out there but you need to be weak
this doesn't mean that this this somehow dis empowers you and and I get it
there's so much that's given out by attention I fucking hate that shit right
and there's so much that you can come up with statistics and women too I just
heard a statistic that false rape claims are only 2 percent of the actual rapes
well let's look at this and I don't know but in order to really get that
statistic because it sounds really good when you hear and just the men have
their own fucking bullshit statistics too of you know 70 percent or 90 percent
of women are mentally ill or whatever shit Jesus Christ man stop looking at
people through statistics because you you have to understand how that's being
classified whatever the percentages of women being mentally ill will what
degree what could be mental illness is depression once a month twice a month
three times a month mentally ill do you know the difference between borderline
and bipolar do you know the difference of you know having something like
insomnia or having something which is you know schizophrenia you know what's
being classified in that how are these being taken you know with it with the
the false rape claim man I know tons of guys including my
that multiple times being accused of false rape but was it reported to the
police is that what we're talking about was it a conviction is that what we're
talking about because this now makes it much different was it something that was
overturned from a conviction or was it just something that was gossiped about
on social media there are so many people that that have this happen these guys
aren't dumb these women aren't dumb we're saying things we have to stop
ignoring each other but we also have to start speaking to each other with the
right voice not seeing it is attack not seeing it is our masculinity or our
femininity being taken away from us and turned into something which disempowers
us again because the result and back to the beginning of this the result of
seduction the result of sex the result of skills and relationships and sharing
your emotions is never having to worry about this and being completely relaxed
and we are not a relaxed culture we are a culture that is terrified we are a
culture that at any given moment and the sad part about this this is the most
fucked up thing is we are a culture that's gonna forget about this we're
gonna forget that me too happened and then we're gonna only hear about it
through extremes extreme feminism or extreme you know men's rights guys
talking about the pluses and minuses about it how it's attacking us in this
way because we're gonna have another thing you know before this it was Harvey
then it was then it then it was Maria then it was you know the Vegas shooting
then it was the NFL you know taking a knee this is friggin horrible man we
live in a culture that is based on fear with nobody talking that has all these
symptoms of the black and the white that us versus them that I'm gonna blame you
that if I get too close to your side I'm gonna be put in danger and we don't
communicate we have no empathy we have no connection
we have no sex and when you don't have sex eater not using your emotion to your
heart your body your physical your dick your balls your pussies your breasts for
the purpose of what they are their expression their drive connecting and
communicating you have wars within yourself which will never be resolved
that are always fighting with people a thousand miles away
all for right or wrong go out say hello to somebody have a conversation with
somebody that might be different than you stop being so goddamn afraid I get
it there's a threat out there I get it we've all been harmed and I get it in
part of the the healing process of all of this is there's a high level of
protection but at some point our arms and our hearts need to open to see each
other and that's the lesson of seduction that's what we teach here and that's
what we do and in that sometimes there's things that are strong sometimes there's
things that are forceful and sometimes there are things that are weaker and we
have them be done for us and sometimes we hurt and sometimes we feel dominant
but man beware of the man or woman that exists on the plateau of one of those
and calls themselves human because that is a mask and it's a sad mask to wear in
any case TSL podcast guys if you like this sort of stuff subscribe to it be a
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we're in reality we're a group of men that we talk about this multiple times a
week and I hope you could join the discussion in any case be proud of who
you are open your hearts to other people there's not always a threat man life is
a beautiful thing don't let your black and white ideology
take you away from that
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