Hey gang, welcome back. Kris Krohn here.
And I am joined by expert and positive
psychologist Paul Jenkins. So, Paul, thank
you for being here today. Thank you Kris.
Thrilled to be here thank you. So, I
brought Paul on because today we're
going to be talking about the power of
psychology and mindset and the role that
it plays in all the wealth that were
working on helping you build together. So,
I've brought Paul Jenkins here to drop a
bomb on you.
In fact, years ago when I had a chance to
hear him speak. He started talking about
metacognition. I'm like it was such a
mind-blowing moment for me that I
thought I got to find the right time and
space to eventually get Paul on the show
here, so we can share with you probably
one of the most important golden nuggets
about how to get to your next
psychological breakthrough. Because we're
all here trying to figure out how to
grow from less wealthy to wealthy. We're
all trying to grow from you know, maybe
less happy relationships to more happy
relationships. And I think today is going to
be a really really huge and very
significant hack. So, to get there, that's
why you want to hang tight. But before we
get there and drop that on you, I just
want to just opportunity, Paul for you to
introduce yourself to, you know, to the
people here on our Limitless Wealth TV
channel. First of it's got to start
with, "What's a positive psychologist?" I
know, right? Is that a contradiction of
terms? Kind of. It might be. And I get a
little flak for this sometimes because I
kind of left the tribe. You think about
it, psychotherapy sounds a little like
therapy for psychos. Yeah. And I had a
traditional psychology practice. I was
there for probably 12, 13 years. And there
came a point where I realized that we
have this spectrum, this continuum. If you
put your mental health and in your
relationships and your psychology on
this continuum, clear over here on the
left end is the sick end. Yeah. So, that's
where we have diagnosis pathology
treatment all that fun stuff. That's
depression and anxiety and I-hate-my-life
and
can-I-get-my-insurance company-to-pay-for-some-treatment. Right. Okay?
I'm really more interested in this other
end over here to understand that if we
go to the middle first, that's health.
Yeah. Health meaning not sick. Yeah. You'd
think maybe health is the opposite of
sick.
I just mean not sick. So, you could be
sick in bed with a fever throwing up
there comes a time you can get out of
bed and you're not sick. Right. But that
doesn't mean you're truly fit, thriving,
prospering. Yeah. That's this end.
Alright.
And there's some overlap in the
middle. Which has a lot to do with your
brand, "Living on Purpose." Which is you
talk about on your YouTube channel. Right.
What's it really all about? So,
thinking of that spectrum, that continuum.
There are principles that allow us to
get out of bed where we're not sick.
Right. And in my previous practice, I had
this experience where, that's when the
insurance companies would pull the plug.
And they'd say, "Thanks doc." You know?
"We're done", right? Because there's no
longer diagnosis. But there's all of this
aspect to our life that I call living on
purpose. Yeah. And you call it some other
things. But it's the same principle. Right.
Where we go from that meager or
average kind of an existence to
something that is much higher, much more
enlightened. Much more prosperous, much
more wealthy. All of those things having
to do with this end of the spectrum. Well,
and that's a lot of what we talk about
here on this channel. Because people are
watching these videos and subscribing.
Because they want to know how do I
create wealth. And so often, that's going to
come back to the psychology. I was called
the real estate between our two ears.
Yeah. And so, becoming wealthy, it's really
almost a journey of the mind first and a
journey of oneself learning, you know, who
we are. And friends it's one of the
reasons why I wanted to bring Paul on
here because listen, I can give you
tactics and strategies all day long for
making money. But in the end, the
operating system is who you are, how you
feel, how you think. And if there's
problems there, you know, this idea of
going from sick to just being at a space
of healthy, we're trying to get you into
the land of abundance and prosperity. And
there's a quantum leap from just being
not, you know, I'm not sick to actually
being in a great abundance of the health
that someone wants in their life. Yes. And you talk
about the real estate between the ears.
That's also the checkup from the neck up.
Where we get to tune
into this concept that you already
introduced. It's called metacognition. Now,
what does that mean? It's a made-up word,
Kris. We make up words in
psychology. It makes us feel smart. Alright.
And this is one of them. If you
break it down, cognition just means
thinking. So, if we put that right here at
this level, metacognition is a higher
level. It's thinking about thinking.
Yeah. Yeah! Which by the way, that
introspection, I've learned years ago, I
was in a bubble where I was a
steamroller. I wasn't that great of a
boss. It's not someone you usually you want to
hang out with. And I didn't know that I
was that way. I just was that way. And it,
frankly, it inhibited my business, it
kept me from growing the way I wanted
and there's a lot of body bags. A lot of
unhappy people in my life. I couldn't
figure out why they were unhappy. I
didn't realize that was the common
denominator. And you know, this awareness
process and becoming aware of my
thinking of my thoughts, it's really what
led to some huge transformation. But I
had to go through some rigorous programs
to get there. And how can you teach us
something here today that can help drop
that on us? Because that's, frankly guys,
that's why I've got Paul here. Well,
and there are some shortcuts. But I say
that with an acknowledgement that you
got to put in the work, too. Because you guys
know that Chris has put in the work. I
hope that they know that. Well, either
that I got lucky. I'm the luckiest. Yeah,
maybe it's luck, right? I'm not. It's not
luck. It's not magic. There are principles
that determine all of life's outcomes.
All of them. I know that's a bold
statement. Principles determine all of
life's outcomes. There are principles
about how your mind works. That
are obvious. But completely unnoticed.
So, let's get into some of the hacks
right now. I want them to get this
benefit. Alright. So, turn on the
metacognition. Yeah. And there's 2 that
I'll share with you today. Two, well. And
there's a hack that goes with both of
them but we'll tie it into a principle.
Around how your mind works. I just want
you to notice it. I'm not here to tell
you how to think. I don't have that kind
of authority.
But I want you to see that you are.
Because you become aware of your own
thinking, you go to that metacognitive
level, it becomes a choice. And that's
huge because until you see it as a
choice, it's not. So, seeing that and being
aware of it is the first thing. So, here's
the first process.
It's called evaluation. Okay. Evaluation
just means judgment. And you can't turn
this off. Any more than you can turn off
gravity. It's going to happen. Just notice
that you're constantly judging yourself,
your family, your spouse, your co-workers,
your job, your finances. You're constantly
judging. Yeah.
Just notice that you are. So, the word
evaluation itself implies comparison
with some standard. So, Kris are you
doing well? Yes. Well it depends on. Right,
I'm judging myself. Right! Yeah. It depends
on what you compare yourself to, right? Well,
like for me, you know, my judgment was
until I get to $10,000 a month residually.
I then all... Then I won't have bet met my
goal. I want to be where I want to be. And
so, in the 4 years leading up to
getting to $10,000 a month,
I always came short. Constantly following
short. I was nothing... I was always
falling short and I was questioning
myself and I was doubting myself. Then
once i exceeded it, then until I moved my
needle to a different plane, I was better
than my goal and I felt very
accomplished and achieved. I got to share
an Uber with Mark Eaton. Yeah. You know who
mark is. If you don't know who Mark Eaton
is, go to 7ft4.com. Yeah. The dude is 7
foot 4. Yeah. I'm 6' 2. Tall guy.
And I'm looking up to him. Breaking your neck
muscles. Am I a tall man? Generally, yes.
That's an evaluation question. Yeah. I
thought I was tall until I met Mark
Eaton. Right! Right. So, it just depends on
who or what you compare yourself to. Just
notice that you're doing it. Yeah. And you
know, I think often when we do that
judgment, we can get into positive
judgments or negative judgments. Absolutely.
And I think those negative judgments are
often the things that we leverage
against ourselves. That close the doors
of possibility.
That's from actually getting the life
that we want. Because we've evaluated and
we've judged our self and said I'm not
measuring up, I'm not good enough, it's
not happening fast enough. Maybe it will
never happen. And notice how that feels.
Yeah, feels horrible. It's actually. If
you if you represent positive psychology
then this is the negative psychology.
Well, and that's one reason I left the
tribe, Kris. Because traditional
psychology seems to be more interested
in the question, "What's wrong with you?"
Yeah. And can we label that? Yeah, broken.
Not interested. I want to know
what skills do you have? What
resources can you apply? Because we've
got another process that we get to talk
about. Okay. So, the first one is just
becoming aware of your own thinking and
aware of your own judgments. And see that
you're doing it. Yeah. Now, by the way, if
someone like is there a hack there for
someone that says, "Okay. Paul, I'm doing it.
I'm putting in the work. I'm actually
starting to evaluate and become aware,
you know, of my judgments and I'm finding
that I can put them in a positive bucket, the
negative bucket." Right. What
advice would you give for someone, as a
positive psychologist? As you notice. And that's
important. As you notice that you are
judging your life. Your finances, for
example. You're watching Kris's channel
because you want to improve that, right?
Most of you are already in the top 10%
of the world's wealthy. Just don't
know it.
Well, you got a screen it. You're
viewing this on, what? Alright. That is
so cool. Yeah. So, amazing. So, you're only
doing poorly if you compare yourself to
some higher standard. Yeah. And you're
only doing well if you compare yourself
to some lower standards. So, just notice
that you're doing it. And here's the hack.
I call it the gratitude triple play. Ooh!
I like the name. I like I like the sound
of this. Sounds, it sounds aggressive. And
I'll explain all the psychology behind
this. But trust me, gratitude is the
fastest way to get to a positive
evaluation about your life the way it is
right now without changing anything. Okay.
Gratitude triple play. Come up with 3
things each day. Do this for 5 days.
Okay. 3 things each day for which you
are sincerely grateful. Now, that's not
too hard, right?
No. It's reasonable. But here's what powers
it up. You get one freebie.
And by that, I mean it's easy to be
grateful for stuff that's already
awesome. Right, yeah. You've got some
things that are going on great in your
life and you'll be grateful for those
things that you got. You'll think, my health, my home, my family, puppies and
rainbows and indoor plumbing. Right. Okay,
yeah. Freebie it's not hard to be
grateful for stuff that's already
awesome. You get one of those everyday.
The other two have to be from your hard
list. Oh, wow.
Okay, that actually took an unexpected
turn there. So, you actually have my
gratitude in things that challenge you?
Something that is challenging, hard,
difficult, frustrating, kicking your butt.
Yeah. Here's an example. And I use this
one because it was so compelling to me.
Cancer. Okay, now a third of the people
who are watching this video right now
are dealing with this somewhere in their
life. Wow. It hit our family about a year
and a half ago my sister-in-law. Two
months from diagnosis to funeral. Wow.
Okay? So, cancer. If you know, whatever your
cancer is. That's what I'm talking about.
Now, am I saying be grateful for the
cancer? No. What I'm saying is open it up.
Okay? Peel it back, look around inside of
there and see what you can find that you
are truly grateful for. Wow. And in that
cancer, I found a relationship with my
niece. She's 20 years old, special need,
she got to live with us while her mother
passed. Now, am i grateful for that
relationship? Yeah, probably. Yeah. Am I
grateful for the cancer? That's harder.
But that's where I found it. So, that's
interesting. So, I can actually see how
this would really impact someone's, you
know, feelings if we could take our most
challenging or difficult judgments. And
find any aspect of it that we can find
gratitude in, there's going to be a shift
instead of the whining, complaining,
victimhood, my life is so and this thing
happened and it's not good enough and I
don't measure up. Instead it's like, wow
if you can actually go to a dark place
and find a little candle, it's going to
light the room up. And it changes what
you just asked your mind to do
you. See, you're used to saying
things like cancer are bad. Difficult,
bad. Right? Now painful and bad aren't the
same thing.
If you can find the gratitude in there,
you just asked your mind to do something
different with this. And that's
huge because we're not done yet. The
other process is creation. So, first of
all we got the gratitude triple play.
Which is the hack. That's the hack. So, if
you're evaluating and you're seeing that
you got positive and negative judgments,
understand that there's a weight to the
negativity and that's going to close
doors of opportunity. And the way that
you can hack through that is with the
gratitude triple play which is, "Hey, every
single day what I hear you saying is
find 3 things that you're grateful
for." One of them can be the freebie which
is the easy stuff that you're... That
come so natural. But two out of the 3,
you've got to look into a hard spot of
your life. A challenging thing . In fact,
find something that you're miserable
over. Find something that you've had a
lot of pain and frustration and misery
over. Yeah. And actually find something in
it that you can find gratitude for that
you could have otherwise. And this is
a process of becoming aware of your
thoughts and then actually doing
something positive about it. And that
sets you up. Yeah. For what's next. In fact,
think about it this way. Whatever emotion
and energy you create in this evaluation
mode, when you're judging your life
becomes the currency that you take to
the creation game. Okay, so the creation
game is the second area? That's the
second process and you can't turn this
off either. Okay, any more than you turn
off evaluation or gravity. It's going to
happen. You have to create something. The
question is what are you going to create? So,
we're always in creation?
Of something.
Have you noticed Kris that you can make
a mess? Yes. That's good news. Yes, yes.
Because it means you can create
something. Yes, okay. Alright. So, even if
I'm creating something I don't like, I
still created it. It's like where do you
think that came from? People come to me
all the time they're like, "I've got all
these messes in my life." I'm like, "That is
sweet. You are a powerful creator." But
until you see that you're creating the
mess, you're not in position to choose
anything else. And that bite. It stings
a little sometimes. Yeah, the truth can be
hard if you have to take account... It's
one thing to take accountability for all
of my accomplishments and achievements.
Yeah. But if I take accountability for
the crap rather than pointing fingers at
everybody else. What if we just give
everybody an assignment? You guys can
pause the video for 20 minutes. What if
we did 20 minutes. You just go out there
and somehow make your life worse. Some of
us know how to do that really well. No,
please don't pause the video go do that.
Yeah, maybe we should do the disclaimer first.
That's a horrible assignment. But look
how quickly your mind can come up with
half a dozen ways to pull that off. Yep.
You know, it's not going to take 20 minutes.
You know, there's some words that I
could say to my wife that would create
automatic incendiary. I could put
myself in the doghouse really fast.
Notice the you can make a mess. This is
good news because if you can create a
mess what else might you be able to
create? Try some solutions or good things
or results that we want? Messes or
masterpieces. Alright. Let's pick one of
those. Okay. When you start with gratitude,
now, that's in the evaluation mode, okay? You
see that your life is already awesome.
And there's all kinds of arguments for
that. Gratitude put you into that energy
and mindset. You then take that energy to
the creation mode because it could
always be better. Okay. So, what's the hack
on creation? How do we leverage creation
positively? Okay. Here's the hack.
I call it BB-8. BB-8? The BB-8. This is
not like a Star Wars... Okay, this is a Star Wars
thing. Well, that's an image that might
help you to remember it. But here's where
I'm going with this. How sure are you
that 8 o'clock is coming? Oh, 8
o'clock. 100%? 100%, Yeah. I've
no doubt. Okay, I have no... I don't need to
be... And there's 2 every day for those of
you don't get up early. Right. It's coming.
Yeah. Kris how sure are you that you're
going to be around for 8 o'clock? I feel
completely positive that I'm, no matter
what, going to be here at 8 o'clock. You got a
pretty good track record so far? Yeah.
Okay. Awesome.
If eight o'clock is coming and you're
going to be around for 8 o'clock,
there's only two options.
Okay. I used to think there were 3.
Okay. I've eliminated the third one
because I don't think it's possible. Okay.
For things to be exactly the same at 8
o'clock as they are right now.
You're going to be at least a few hours older.
So, something will be different? Something's
going to be different. And if it's going
to be different then by definition, it
has to be, by your own evaluation, either
better or worse. Okay. So, you're saying
that no matter what, when 8 o'clock comes
around, (It's gonna be different) based on the
choices that I make or the way that I'm
feeling, I'm going create something that
is going to enhance my life in a
positive way (Or make a mess.) or it's
going to make a mess? So, you're saying that
no matter what come at 8 o'clock, I'm either
going to make a mess or a masterpiece? Or
something on the spectrum? Yes! And
we already know you could make a mess.
Yes. we already know. That's the 20 minute exercise that we aborted.
Yes. But notice
that you've got the ability to come up
with ideas of how to create that. Guess
what? What if you were to put that toward...
What can I do? Just pick some aspect of
your life. It might be your health, it
might be your finance, it might be your
relationship. What can I do to make
things better by 8? You know this is... BB-8.
This is... Its BB-8. Do that for the same 5
days... And B-B stands for? Better by 8. Better by 8.
Better by 8. Okay, this kind of
interesting. So, you guys don't maybe know
this about me. My wife knows this about
me. But come every 8 p.m. like every
evening, you know, at some point earlier
in the day, I'm like, "What are we going to do
tonight?" And she knows what I mean. I'm
looking for something exciting, thrilling.
I'm looking for something that would be
perceived as fun or positive. Something
to look forward to. Yeah. And everyday, I
have a similar process that I start my
day with, which is what do I do today to
be wealthier, healthier, happier? And I
feel like, you know, it's it's these tiny
little incremental daily things that
after months or years add up into
something huge. Yeah. And so, you know, I
don't need to do anything great today, I
just need to have something that will
contribute to greatness down the road.
And what can that be? So, this is actually
(Beautiful) It's actually kind of cool. I
didn't expect today when we shot this
because it's kind of a little bit of a
longer video going.
But I'm loving what we're hitting today.
This idea positive psychology ultimately.
If I were like sum this up, it's this
idea of number 1, step into positivity
and you can do that why three... And it's
called the what? It's called the positive
like the gratitude triple play. That's
the hack. That's the hack. So, your trouble
play is your way of shifting from the
fact that there's negativity inside of
all of us towards the positivity and
then what it's doing is fueling and
setting you up in the creation for bb8.
At 8 o'clock what are you going to
have created? Are you going to create more
messs or you're gonna create more
masterpiece. Which is it going to be? both options.
Yep, both options exist and and we can be
aware of that and then act out
intentionally on what one we want to
creaye. Like, literally for my health I
could get down right now I could do 30
push-ups. And would you like that could
actually strengthen my body. And it's
something I do between now and 8:00.
That's just an example. Check it out if,
you do this better buy a thing daily. And
you feel it with the gratitude because
you're not even going to do it if you're
feeling like, "oh my life sucks." Right. I
mean if you're feeling depressed,
defeated, inadequate. How likely are you
going to do something productive? Paul, I
just shot a video. I got a video from a
guy by the name of Dex down south in
Florida who said Chris you got to hook
me up, you got to help me, you know I
don't have any money worth poop. I don't
have this, I've got no worth. You know,
hook me up and you know I don't know
what to interpret. I watch the video and
what he really might be asking me for is,
"Kris, teach me how to make a lot of
money because a lot of money is what I'm
looking for."
That'll solve all my problems .That's the
idea right? But the end of that really
the whole video ended up being about
mindset. Because ultimately, you've got
you know, if you've got a business that
isn't growing. You got to fix the
business before you can grow the
business. Right now there's your business.
So, fix the business and then you can
grow. If you want bigger results outside
of you? Then fix the psychology inside of
you. Because if you got too much
negativity then one that's why we have a
Paul. And two, that's actually going to
keep you from ever getting to the good
stuff. You might say making a million
dollars is the good stuff. You might say
having an amazing relationship going to
do Heights is the good stuff you might
say, you know, getting an eight-pack
is the good stuff. The good stuff never
will come about until you can fix the
business inside. We have known forever in
psychology that there is a correlation
between happiness and success. But we got
it backwards. Yeah, we think that the
successful create the happiness. And there
is a correlation. Be you have that you have to be.
But it has to go in the other direction.
Yeah. And the research is backing this up
in a beautiful way now. I'm so grateful
for this. Where it is very
literally true that as you are happy
then you are successful yeah. In fact, if
you're happy you are successful. What
else do you want? But it also correlates
with every other measurable aspect of
success. Including wealth. Yeah. Including
positive relationships, including job
security, everything.
Friends, today we've been talking about
gratitude and creation. And Paul, I want
to thank you for being on today. Guys,
Paul has shared ideas with you. I haven't
shared previously on the channel and yet
you know I'm a raving lunatic fan of
positivity.
So, Paul, really awesome I hope we get a
chance to do this again. Yeah. Do you, you know
know for those of you that are really
appreciating this. Paul, what's your
YouTube channel's name so that they can
find you and get more of these success
acts. Oh yeah.
Live on Purpose TV. Right here on
YouTube. Right here on YouTube, Live on...
Live on Purpose TV is where
you're going to find more on BB-8 and
gratitude triple play and all sorts of
other incredible tools for having a
positive healthy psychology. And honestly,
being on a path to living the life of
your dreams.
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