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14 Signs You're Dealing With A Narcissist

When it comes to determining whether someone you know is a narcissist,

most people make it more complicated than it needs to be.

I use the duck test—that is, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it probably is a duck.

There are no physical blood tests, MRIs, or exact determinations that can identify narcissism.

Even therapists have to go on their observations of the behavior, attitudes,

and reactions that a person presents to determine narcissism.

What makes it simple is the fact that we know exactly what a narcissist looks like.

Below, I've listed all the symptoms and behaviors you should look for.

Keep in mind that not all of these have to be present to make a determination of narcissism.

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, which therapists use as a guide,

a person needs to exhibit only 55 percent of the identified characteristics to be considered narcissistic.

The list I've made here is descriptive, so you can get a more in-depth picture of a narcissist's common behaviors.

1.

Superiority and entitlement

The world of the narcissist is all about good/bad, superior/inferior, and right/wrong.

There is a definite hierarchy, with the narcissist at the top—which is the only place he feels safe.

Narcissists have to be the best, the most right, and the most competent; do everything their way; own everything;

and control everyone.

Interestingly enough, narcissists can also get that superior feeling by being the worst; the most wrong;

or the most ill, upset, or injured for a period of time.

Then they feel entitled to receive soothing concern and recompense and even the right to hurt you or demand apologies

to "make things even."

2.

Exaggerated need for attention and validation

Narcissists need constant attention—even following you around the house, asking you to find things,

or constantly saying something to grab your attention.

Validation for a narcissist counts only if it comes from others.

Even then, it doesn't count for much.

A narcissist's need for validation is like a funnel.

You pour in positive, supportive words, and they just flow out the other end and are gone.

No matter how much you tell narcissists you love them, admire them, or approve of them,

they never feel it's enough—because deep down they don't believe anyone can love them.

Despite all their self-absorbed, grandiose bragging, narcissists are actually very insecure and fearful of not

measuring up.

They constantly try to elicit praise and approval from others to shore up their fragile egos,

but no matter how much they're given, they always want more.

3.

Perfectionism

Narcissists have an extremely high need for everything to be perfect.

They believe they should be perfect, you should be perfect, events should happen exactly as expected,

and life should play out precisely as they envision it.

This is an excruciatingly impossible demand, which results in the narcissist feeling dissatisfied and miserable much of

the time.

The demand for perfection leads the narcissist to complain and be constantly dissatisfied.

4.

Great need for control

Since narcissists are continually disappointed with the imperfect way life unfolds,

they want to do as much as possible to control it and mold it to their liking.

They want and demand to be in control, and their sense of entitlement makes it seem logical to them that they should be

in control—of everything.

Narcissists always have a story line in mind about what each "character" in their interaction should be saying and

doing.

When you don't behave as expected, they become quite upset and unsettled.

They don't know what to expect next, because you're off script.

They demand that you say and do exactly what they have in mind so they can reach their desired conclusion.

You are a character in their internal play, not a real person with your own thoughts and feelings.

5.

Lack of responsibility—blaming and deflecting

Although narcissists want to be in control, they never want to be responsible for the results—unless, of course,

everything goes exactly their way and their desired result occurs.

When things don't go according to their plan or they feel criticized or less than perfect,

the narcissist places all the blame and responsibility on you.

It has to be someone else's fault.

Sometimes that blame is generalized—all police, all bosses, all teachers, all Democrats, and so on.

At other times the narcissist picks a particular person or rule to blame—his mother, the judge,

or laws that limit what he wants to do.

Most often, however, the narcissist blames the one person who is the most emotionally close, most attached, loyal,

and loving in his life—you.

To maintain the façade of perfection, narcissists always have to blame someone or something else.

You are the safest person to blame, because you are least likely to leave or reject him.

6.

Lack of boundaries

Narcissists can't accurately see where they end and you begin.

They are a lot like 2-year-olds.

They believe that everything belongs to them, everyone thinks and feels the same as they do,

and everyone wants the same things they do.

They are shocked and highly insulted to be told no.

If a narcissist wants something from you, he'll go to great lengths to figure out how to get it through persistence,

cajoling, demanding, rejecting, or pouting.

7.

Lack of empathy

Narcissists have very little ability to empathize with others.

They tend to be selfish and self-involved and are usually unable to understand what other people are feeling.

Narcissists expect others to think and feel the same as they do and seldom give any thought to how others feel.

They are also rarely apologetic, remorseful, or guilty.

But narcissists are highly attuned to perceived threats, anger, and rejection from others.

At the same time, they are nearly blind to the other feelings of the people around them.

They frequently misread subtle facial expressions and are typically biased toward interpreting facial expressions as

negative.

Unless you are acting out your emotions dramatically, the narcissist won't accurately perceive what you're feeling.

Even saying "I'm sorry" or "I love you" when the narcissist is on edge and angry can backfire.

He won't believe you and may even misperceive your comment as an attack.

In addition, if your words and expressions aren't congruent, the narcissist will likely respond erroneously.

This is why narcissists often misinterpret sarcasm as actual agreement or joking from others as a personal attack.

Their lack of ability to correctly read body language is one reason narcissists are deficiently empathetic to your

feelings.

They don't see them, they don't interpret them correctly, and overall they don't believe you feel any differently than

they do.

Narcissists also lack an understanding about the nature of feelings.

They don't understand how their feelings occur.

They think their feelings are caused by someone or something outside of themselves.

They don't realize that their feelings are caused by their own biochemistry, thoughts, and interpretations.

In a nutshell, narcissists always think you cause their feelings—especially the negative ones.

They conclude that because you didn't follow their plan or because you made them feel vulnerable, you are to blame.

This lack of empathy makes true relationships and emotional connection with narcissists difficult or impossible.

They just don't notice what anyone else is feeling.

8.

Emotional reasoning

You've probably made the mistake of trying to reason and use logic with the narcissist to get him to understand the

painful effect his behaviors have on you.

You think that if he understands how much his behavior hurt you, he'll change.

Your explanations, however, don't make sense to the narcissist, who only seems able to be aware of his own thoughts and

feelings.

Although narcissists may say they understand, they honestly don't.

Therefore, narcissists make most of their decisions based on how they feel about something.

They simply must have that red sports car, based entirely on how they feel driving it,

not by whether it is a good choice to make for the family or for the budget.

If they're bored or depressed, they want to move or end the relationship or start a new business.

They always look to something or someone outside themselves to solve their feelings and needs.

They expect you to go along with their "solutions," and they react with irritation and resentment if you don't.

9.

Splitting

The narcissist's personality is split into good and bad parts, and they also split everything in their relationships

into good and bad.

Any negative thoughts or behaviors are blamed on you or others, whereas they take credit for everything that is

positive and good.

They deny their negative words and actions while continually accusing you of disapproving.

They also remember things as completely good and wonderful or as bad and horrible.

They can't seem to mix these two constructs:

Marty labeled the whole vacation ruined and the worst ever because the hotel room didn't meet his expectations and the

weather wasn't perfect.

Bob was blamed for 20 years because he wasn't there when his wife had their first child even though he was stranded in

Chicago in a snowstorm.

Marie's husband dismissed her concerns about the $30,000 cost for the new landscaping because he loved it.

Narcissists aren't able to see, feel, or remember both the positive and the negative in a situation.

They can deal with only one perspective at a time—theirs.

10.

Fear

The narcissist's entire life is motivated and energized by fear.

Most narcissists' fears are deeply buried and repressed.

They're constantly afraid of being ridiculed, rejected, or wrong.

They may have fears about germs, about losing all their money, about being emotionally or physically attacked,

about being seen as bad or inadequate, or about being abandoned.

This makes it difficult and sometimes impossible for the narcissist to trust anyone else.

In fact, the closer your relationship becomes, the less he will trust you.

Narcissists fear any true intimacy or vulnerability because they're afraid you'll see their imperfections and judge or

reject them.

No amount of reassurance seems to make a difference, because narcissists deeply hate and reject their own shameful

imperfections.

Narcissists never seem to develop trust in the love of others, and they continually test you with worse and worse

behaviors to try to find your breaking point.

Their gripping fear of being "found out" or abandoned never seems to dissipate.

11.

Anxiety

Anxiety is an ongoing, vague feeling that something bad is happening or about to happen.

Some narcissists show their anxiety by talking constantly about the doom that is about to happen,

while some hide and repress their anxiety.

But most narcissists project their anxiety onto their closest loved ones, accusing them of being negative,

unsupportive, mentally ill, not putting them first, not responding to their needs, or being selfish.

All this is designed to transfer anxiety to the loved one in an attempt to not feel it themselves.

As you feel worse and worse, the narcissist feels better and better.

In fact he feels stronger and more superior as you feel your anxiety and depression grow.

12.

Shame

Narcissists don't feel much guilt because they think they are always right,

and they don't believe their behaviors really affect anyone else.

But they harbor a lot of shame.

Shame is the belief that there is something deeply and permanently wrong or bad about who you are.

Buried in a deeply repressed part of the narcissist are all the insecurities, fears,

and rejected traits that he is constantly on guard to hide from everyone, including himself.

The narcissist is acutely ashamed of all these rejected thoughts and feelings.

For example, I had one narcissistic client who was into skydiving and other intense risk-taking behaviors tell me that

he never felt fear.

"Fear," he said, "was evil." He was clearly on a crusade to defeat it.

Keeping his vulnerabilities hidden is essential to the narcissist's pretend self-esteem or false self.

Ultimately, however, this makes it impossible for them to be completely real and transparent.

13.

An inability to be truly vulnerable

Because of their inability to understand feelings, their lack of empathy, and constant need for self-protection,

narcissists can't truly love or connect emotionally with other people.

They cannot look at the world from anyone else's perspective.

They're essentially emotionally blind and alone.

This makes them emotionally needy.

When one relationship is no longer satisfying, they often overlap relationships or start a new one as soon as possible.

They desperately want someone to feel their pain, to sympathize with them,

and make everything just as they want it to be.

But they have little ability to respond to your pain or fear or even your day-to-day need for care and sympathy.

14.

An inability to communicate or work as part of a team

Thoughtful, cooperative behaviors require a real understanding of each other's feelings.

How will the other person feel?

Will this action make both of us happy?

How will this affect our relationship?

These are questions that narcissists don't have the capacity or the motivation to think about.

Don't expect the narcissist to understand your feelings, give in, or give up anything he wants for your benefit;

it's useless.

For more infomation >> 14 Signs You're Dealing With A Narcissist | Conscious Reminder - Duration: 17:04.

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Eliminated Idol School Contestant Thanks Mnet For Killing Her Dream Of Becoming An Idol - Duration: 2:16.

Eliminated Idol School Contestant Thanks Mnet For Killing Her Dream Of Becoming An Idol

Jessica Lee from Mnets Idol School thanks Mnet for killing her dream of ever becoming a K-Pop idol.

She recently uploaded a video to talk about how shes giving up. Im done with K-Pop now. Im not gonna do it again. Im not gonna struggle in life because of K-Pop. — Jessica Lee.

After experiencing a survival show first hand, she was excited to be eliminated from the show. I am extremely happy that I got eliminated. — Jessica Lee.

Idol School was her answer to whether or not she should continue pursuing a career in the industry.

Ive been a trainee, I used to perform at music shows, but I ended up quitting everything and coming back to the Philippines. And I hated myself for getting tempted to do it again – to try it again.

But I thought of [Idol School] as my last try. — Jessica Lee.

But she regretted participating in Idol School right away. I was just pretty down on the first day when I entered the classroom. I cant forget that moment… I couldnt see the possibility for me. — Jessica Lee.

Why did I come here? Why am I here in between these amazing, pretty and talented people? — Jessica Lee. She started comparing herself to others and lost confidence in herself.

I lost a lot of confidence actually… when it comes to dancing and singing. I was not cute. — Jessica Lee.

But even so, she doesnt take her experiences for granted. Although my dream to become a K-Pop idol just ended, I am still taking the experience as an amazing memory. Ill never take it for granted. — Jessica Lee.

Jessica competed on the show under her Korean name, Lee Seul. She was one of the members to be eliminated during the first round.

Even though shes never going to debut as a K-Pop star, Jessica inspired everyone that its okay to give up on your dream, as long as you know its not right for you.

Watch Jessicas complete video below!.

For more infomation >> Eliminated Idol School Contestant Thanks Mnet For Killing Her Dream Of Becoming An Idol - Duration: 2:16.

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How To Grow Your Hair In Less Than An Hour!! Quick & Easy Steps!! Remedies One - Duration: 3:33.

there are no shortcuts to growing luscious long locks on average hair

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Futile Villain ''communication for an invasion'' - Duration: 7:33.

Hey Kate!look at what I invented in my lab

Let me guess,it's another weapon for your weapons collection?

Exactly,and I can't wait to test it!Tell me your opinion,okay Kate?

Matt,wait!

What do you think?neat,right?

ugh,why do you have to keep inventing these weapons anyways?it won't get you anywhere

um...Successful villains have a lot of weapons

and they always use them

well,''successful'' villains don't destroy their own homes!

Don't you remember what happened last week?

idiot

Well okay then,no one asked for your opinion

you just came here to ask about my opinion

also,you being an idiot isn't an opinion,it's a fact.

Okay,your opinions are wrong,now if you excuse me,I need to work on my world domination plans

You know?that's what a ''successful'' villain would do

idiot

G7,you won't believe what Kate said...what are you doing?

i am just reading your world domination plans

oh,What do you think of them!?neat,right ?

Matt,How are you gonna plant a bomb in a the center of the earth?

can you even ''go'' to the center of the earth?

Axle did it!

Anyways, let's start accomplishing my latest plan,which is...

communicating with aliens!

You see we...

we will communicate with aliens with the ''alien communication device''

They will come here,and we will make a negotiation with them

then we will work together,and they will give us a lot of....WEAPONS!

How do you know they have weapons?

of course they have weapons!don't you watch movies!?

Are you sure aliens even exists?

only one way to find out.

Sir,we have reached the solar system,and we're near a planet called ''earth''

Well, I guess it can be our next planet....to invade

but lord Eroberer,didn't we already conquered your planet?

I can't be satisfied with only one planet,the more the merrier

The whole Galaxy will soon be mine. Lord Eroberer

um..sir,how do you have a German accent when you're an alien?

good,prepare our weapons

but...the guys you just threw,He was the weapons inventor,How will we have weapons now?

he was?

did you really had to throw him out?you need to control your anger sir,now what are we going to do?

All right,we must look for a new inventor. No big deal

Sir,We are getting messages from an....unknown earthling

Land there!maybe earthlings do have weapons

We were waiting for God knows how long!

we were waiting for only two minutes.

Holy f*ck It's an alien!

oh my gosh...they DOES exist,this is cool!

Greetings my future slaves!

I was wondering if maybe you have weapons,and if you don't have,then...I will have to kill...

Did you invent all of these?

yeah,we invents them like...all the time,he even mumbles about them in his sleep

I will make a rocket launcher tomorrow...

great! I would like to borrow them

You see,me and my henchmen here need weapons

Because we don't have any.

we WOULD have weapons,if he didn't just throw our inventors away!

wait

Borrowing my weapons!?

we need to be weaponized so we can conquer your planet,what do you think,would you like to join us?

Sorry buddy...

I don't work for anyone,if anything you should work for me,green face!

''Green face''!?you are an idiot...

And a racist!

and what are you gonna do?

Kate!Kate!you Gotta help Matt

You also ruined my cereal

he communicated with a group of aliens and the leader captured him!we gotta save him...

You,you do believe in Aliens,right?

Can't he spend an entire day without a problem?

And why do I always have to be the one to save him from these problems!?

aren't you his sister,dammit?

Fine,if he wasn't family I was gonna leave him with that stupid alien

Okay,we will use Matt's hovership to follow the aliens,we will have to hurry to catch up with the alien spaceship

didn't Matt create you with weapons and stuff?Why don't you save him by yourself?

I need ''fingers'' to use the hovership,Matt didn't create me with fingers

But...I'm too young to drive...

don't worry,I'll give you a few intersections

besides,Matt's driving is worse than the girls.

Hey dude,would you like to reconsider this?

I won't kill you because I still need you

well,I don't want to help you because I wanna rule the universe

It's supposed to be my goal...

So what do you say?we can be rivals!

Whoever rules the universe first wins!

if we became rivals then I'll have to kill you,right here right now.

ah,crap.

Guten tag!

why are you speaking in French?

how did you get through my henchmen?

what henchmen?

Why do we even work for him?

okay,let's get this over with.

why don't we solve this with a fair battle?

hey! whatever name you are!

hand me my weapon!

You do realize that we still don't have weapons...?

Nevermind him,I have this amazingly designed pocket knife!

Lame,i have a real gun.

what do you mean by...?

that was...

Easier than I thought?

Okay,You free Matt while I plant this bomb on the spaceship

what?explosions are awesome! I want a real action in this mission

can I drive it now

No

Hey, you know?maybe I need some parts of the demolished spaceship,It could be useful!

Take me to the spaceship Kate!

Anything for you,brother.

For more infomation >> Futile Villain ''communication for an invasion'' - Duration: 7:33.

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The Top 10 Advantages of Being an Introvert - Duration: 3:22.

The Top 10 Advantages of Being an Introvert

If there's anything the world should take away from best selling books like 'The Introvert

Advantage and Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking,' it's

that there are definite positives to being an introvert.

We are quietly crawling out of the pit that Western society shoved us into in the 20th

century and we're finally getting the credit we deserve.

In case you missed all the memos, here is a list of the top ten advantages of being

an introvert right now.

In this video, I'm going to show you the top 10 advantages of being an introvert.

Before we start, make sure to like this video and subscribe our channel so you won't miss

any interesting update in the future guys.

1.

We choose our words carefully so others don't have to wade through a river of bullshit to

understand what we are saying.

2.

We have imagination and rich inner worlds.

3.

We are more likely to access our innermost thoughts and creative ideas because we embrace

solitude.

4.

We are capable of great focus, which comes in handy when completing pretty much any task

that requires extended periods of concentration (advanced mathematics, writing, art, science,

and more).

5.

We tend to process greater volumes of information in any given situation.

It is for this reason that we tire more easily from overstimulation.

For real, you can google it yourself.

6.

We embody the old adage, "you have two ears and one mouth for a reason".

Everyone likes to be listened to.

7.

According to my research, most introverts tend to carefully think things through before

acting, which has obvious advantages.

Personally, I don't fit into this category because I tend to take a more intuitive, emotional

approach to decision making (anyone else out there like me?).

8.

We can be quite observant of both environmental and social subtleties.

While others are yammering away, we're taking everything in and processing it in our ever-active

minds.

9.

We are well-loved by landlords and the elderly for our quiet, peaceful nature (ever seen

an advertisement for a loud, wild, party-loving tenant?

Didn't think so).

10.

No longer banished to the world of trolls, hobbits and prudish librarians, we can now

bust free from stereotypes and show the world who we really are.

So, who are we?

We are leaders and world-changers; we are dancers, actors, artists and performers; we

are scientists, lovers of logic and left-brained geniuses; we are dreamers, adventurers, travelers

and enlightenment seekers.

Well, that's the top 10 advantages of being an introvert.

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For more infomation >> The Top 10 Advantages of Being an Introvert - Duration: 3:22.

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How to Setup a VPN on Apple TV to watch Netflix, Hulu, BBC and other Geo-Restricted Content - Duration: 2:56.

For more infomation >> How to Setup a VPN on Apple TV to watch Netflix, Hulu, BBC and other Geo-Restricted Content - Duration: 2:56.

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How Many Properties in an LLC - Duration: 5:39.

Hi Lee Phillips here. Welcome to my YouTube channel.

I'm an attorney and I want to talk about a question that I get quite often.

The Guru's tell you that you should put each one of your real estate investment properties in a different LLC

and is that good?

Yeah, that's good from an asset protection standpoint

no question that it's better to have one egg in each one of your baskets

instead of a bunch of eggs in one basket

basically the concept.

However, you can't manage the paperwork associated with six trillion LLC's.

If you've got twenty properties and you've got a separate LLC for each property

you're gonna drown in your own paperwork

now the lawyers they'll love to do that for you

because they get to then charge you for 20 LLC's

Great deal, right?

Yeah, if you're the lawyer.

Well, you've got to get a tax ID number you've got a file a tax return

you've got to do the paperwork with the state and pay the fees

and if you're in one of those "foreign" countries like New York and New Jersey and California

then you're paying a lot of money for one of your LLC's every year in the state fees.

So these all add up.

If you've got twenty California LLC's, you're looking at, what?

Like $17,000-18,000 in legal, in state fees every year.

You can't do that.

But in addition to that you can't do the paperwork

you just drown in your own paperwork.

So what I suggest is is that you make a logical division of your properties

and create a basket to hold those kind of properties

create another basket to hold a different type

If I've got three single family rental units and one apartment

fine, let's put the apartment in one LLC and the three single families in another

or if I've got some high-end single families, let's put those in one

and if I've got a bunch of Section 8 low-end stuff let's put them in another one.

Divide up logically.

If I've got some properties in Ohio and some properties in Florida

let's have one in Florida and one in Ohio

by the way refer to the YouTube on where do you put your LLC, which state you put it in

you're gonna have to have an LLC that's in Ohio that registers in Florida

or you're gonna have to have one in Ohio and one in Florida

your LLC has to have a presence in each state

a legal presence

in order to exercise the legal rights afforded that LLC in that state

no official registration, no rights.

that's another story

but as to how many LLC's make logical decisions

and then form LLC's based upon those logical decisions

and if you've got twenty residentials

well that's probably too many for one LLC

four or five million dollars in assets

I've heard that, I've said that

but just make it logical

I mean if one of your rental properties is in a real risky neighborhood

and everybody in that neighborhood sues everybody else

fine, put that one in its own LLC

because the assets in that LLC are subject to the liabilities that each one of those assets create.

That whole basket is at risk.

I can't really give you more information than that

because I don't know your situation

but you can think it out, you can do it.

Just be logical and don't go overboard

I had a couple of doctors from Long Beach call me up long ago

and they said that one of the lawyers had talked them into doing a different family limited partnership

that was what we often used before LLC's

don't use the family limited partnership anymore, use the LLC

but the guy had talked them into setting up 53 limited partnerships and

he only charged them $5,000 PER limited partnership

and he had said you don't want these family limited partnerships

to be in California because it's $850 a year for the filing fee

you want them to be in my state and you need a registered agent for that state

so I'll be your registered agent and in fact I'm an accountant too

I'm going to do all the taxes

and I know I've told this story before on my YouTube channel, but it makes the point

he only charged them $1500 to act as the registered agent and to do the taxes

that's $1,500 PER family limited partnership

I don't know if you're doing the math but these two doctors called me up

and they said Phillips, we're not worried about asset protection anymore

our lawyer has all of our money

how do we get out of this?

So don't go overboard. Be logical.

This is Lee Phillips talking about

how many properties or how many LLC's you have if you're a real estate investor

For more infomation >> How Many Properties in an LLC - Duration: 5:39.

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In a Relationship with a Narcissist? What You Need to Know About Narcissistic Relationships - Duration: 17:42.

In a Relationship with a Narcissist?

What You Need to Know About Narcissistic Relationships

Narcissistic relationships are formed when one or both partners struggle with a narcissistic personality.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is defined by The Mayo Clinic as "a mental disorder in which people have an

inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.

Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other

people's feelings.

But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism."

We live in an increasingly narcissistic world.

Hard statistics and science are pointing in this direction.

The "look at me" mentality that is often promoted by social networks like Facebook has people positively enamored with

the image they present to the world.

In addition, we may now be seeing the negative effects of the self-esteem movement on a larger scale.

So how does this rise in narcissism impact our personal relationships?

For one thing, more narcissism means more narcissistic relationships.

Professor Brad Bushman of the Ohio State University put it bluntly, when he said:

"Narcissists are very bad relationship partners." Studies show that in a narcissistic relationship,

your partner is more likely to engage in manipulative or game playing behaviors and less likely to be committed

long-term.

A relationship with a narcissist can be hard to cope with.

To shed light on the common outcomes, struggles, and effects of a narcissistic relationship,

we've interviewed psychologist and author Dr. Lisa Firestone.

How Can You Tell if You Are in a Narcissistic Relationship?

When thinking about narcissism, I'm often reminded of the joke when someone goes on and on about themselves,

then interrupts with, "But enough about me, how do you feel about me?" If your partner is all about themselves,

always needing attention and affirmation, he or she may be a narcissist.

If someone is easily slighted or over-reactive to criticism, they may also be a narcissist.

If they feel they are always right, that they know more, or that they have to be the best, etc.,

these are also signs of narcissism.

Narcissistic individuals may only appear to care about you when you are fulfilling their needs or serving a purpose for

them.

A narcissistic relationship can lead to a lot of emotional distress.

It is estimated that around 1% of population suffers from NPD.

However, many people who have NPD do not seek treatment and therefore are never diagnosed.

Studies show that men are more likely to be narcissistic.

Roughly 75% of the individuals diagnosed with NPD are men.

Although almost everyone has some self-centered or narcissistic traits,

most people do not meet the criteria for having a personality disorder.

There is, however, a growing portion of the population that is displaying a greater number of toxic,

narcissistic traits, which are having an adverse effect on their lives and the lives of people close to them,

even if they do not meet the clinical diagnosis of NPD.

Forming attachments to individuals who exhibit these negative traits often causes similar distress as a diagnosable

narcissistic relationship.

A new study from Ohio State University has found that one simple question can identify narcissists as accurately as the

40-item test that has been widely used to diagnose NPD.

The question is simple, rating yourself on a scale of 1-7: "To what extent do you agree with this statement:

I am a narcissist.

(Note: The word 'narcissist' means egotistical, self-focused and vain.)" You can even try out this free interactive

narcissism quiz.

However, while this study suggests that many narcissists will freely admit to their narcissistic tendencies,

it is important to note that most narcissists resist the diagnosis of NPD.

Narcissists, generally, do not like to be told that they are narcissists.

In fact, they often have a strong negative and volatile reaction.

Below are some common traits that a narcissistic relationship partner is likely to have:

(Note the degree to which these traits manifest themselves will vary largely depending on the individual.)

Sense of entitlement or superiority

Lack of empathy

Manipulative or controlling behavior

Strong need for admiration

Focus on getting one's own needs met, often ignoring the needs of others

Higher levels of aggression

Difficulty taking feedback about their behavior

Why do people become narcissistic?

Is it a symptom of something else?

Narcissistic people often have narcissistic parents, who offered them a build up but no real substance.

Their parents wanted them to be great, so they could be the parent of a great person, the best artist,

smartest student, etc.

Often narcissistic people were also neglected, as their parents were so focused on themselves that they could not

attune to their child or meet their child's emotional needs.

The child was only useful to these parents when they were serving a purpose for them.

Often, the parents of a person with NPD alternated between emotional hunger toward the child and disinterest.

Narcissists have inflated self-esteem (both self-soothing and self-aggrandizing "voices") a component of what my

father, Dr. Robert Firestone, refers to as the "anti-self." They are very fragile,

because the flip side of their self-aggrandized feeling is very low self-esteem,

the other component of the anti-self (made up of extremely self-hating and self-demeaning "critical inner voices").

So, for these people, even slight criticism can be a narcissistic injury,

leading to an angry outburst and desperate attempts to regain their fragile, inflated self-esteem.

Often, a condescending remark will help them to reestablish their superior image.

Condescending is a common dynamic in narcissistic relationships.

This behavior can be traced back to the need desperate need narcissists feel to be above others.

What are the different types of Narcissism?

While all narcissists are likely to show certain behaviors, not all narcissists are the same.

In fact, there are two different types of narcissism, Grandiose Narcissism and Vulnerable Narcissism.

These types of narcissism stem from different early childhood experiences andlead to different behaviors in a

relationship.

Grandiose narcissists display high levels of grandiosity, aggression and dominance.

They tend to be more confident and less sensitive.

They are often elitists and have no problem telling everyone how great they are.

Usually grandiose narcissists were treated as if they were superior in their early childhood and they move through life

expecting this type of treatment to continue.

In relationships, grandiose narcissists are more likely to openly engage in infidelity or leave their partners abruptly

if they feel that they are not getting the special treatment that they think they are entitled to.

Vulnerable narcissists, on the other hand, are much more emotionally sensitive.

They have what Dr. Campbell describes as a "fragile grandiosity," in which their narcissism serves as a façade

protecting deeper feelings of inadequacy and incompetence.

Vulnerable narcissists swing back and forth between feeling superior and inferior.

They often feel victimized or anxious when they are not treated as if they are special.

This type of narcissism usually develops in early childhood as a coping mechanism to deal with abuse or neglect.

In relationships, vulnerable narcissists often worry about how their partners perceive them.

They can be very possessive, jealous and paranoid about their partners having flirtations or affairs.

How does a narcissistic partner negatively impact a relationship?

Narcissistic relationships tend to be very challenging.

Narcissistic partners usually have difficulty really loving someone else, because they don't truly love themselves.

They are so focused on themselves that they cannot really "see" their partner as a separate person.

They tend to only see the partner in terms of how they fill their needs (or fail to fill their needs).

Their mates and children are only valued in terms of their ability to meet these needs.

Narcissistic partners often lack the ability to have empathy with their partners' feelings.

This lack of empathy leads to a lot of hard feelings.

Yet many people are drawn to narcissistic relationships.

Narcissistic partners can be very captivating, especially at the beginning.

They tend to have a "big" personality.

They are the life of the party.

They can make you feel that you too must be great for them to choose you.

However, in time, they can be too controlling in relationships.

They may feel jealous or easily hurt.

When narcissistic injuries occur, they often lash out and can be cutting.

Their reactions are dramatic and attention-seeking.

According to narcissistic personality expert, Dr. W. Keith Campbell, "The effects of narcissism are most substantial in

relation to interpersonal functioning.

In general, trait narcissism is associated with behaving in such a way that one is perceived as more likable in initial

encounters with strangers— but this likability diminishes with time and increased exposure to the narcissistic

individual." This is why many people, who have been in a long-term narcissistic relationships,

describe a very passionate and exciting honeymoon period in the beginning and then a sharp decline as the likability

decreases and the self-centered behaviors increase.

Narcissists are prone to falling madly in love with someone instantly and are very quick to commit.

However, this initial love and commitment is not easily sustained.

When you are in a narcissistic relationship, you may feel very lonely.

You might feel like you are just an accessory and your needs and wants are unimportant.

Narcissistic partners act as if they are always right, that they know better and that their partner is wrong or

incompetent.

This often leaves the other person in the relationship either angry and trying to defend themselves or identifying with

this negative self-image and feeling badly about themselves.

What are some things a person can do to deal with a narcissistic partner?

If you find yourself in a narcissism relationship, you can first recognize what you have chosen and reflect on the

unconscious motives that might have led you to choose such a partner.

Did you have a self-centered parent?

Are you more comfortable with your partner being in control, so you can then take be more passive?

Do you get a sense of worth from being attached to someone who is in the spotlight?

Does the negative image of yourself they foster with their criticisms and superior attitudes resonate with your own

critical thoughts about yourself?

Many people who fall in love with narcissists have issues around co-dependency.

They will put up with a certain amount of abuse because they don't feel confident enough in themselves to set

boundaries or be on their own.

Understanding your role in the narcissistic relationship is important.

You can then start to challenge yourself to change your half of the dynamic.

This will, in turn, challenge your partner to change their style of relating.

You can recognize the fragility of your partner's self-esteem and have compassion for the fact that his or her inflated

sense of self, superiority and grandiosity is a cover up for the flip side of self-hate and feelings of inadequacy.

You can also develop your own self-confidence and self-worth by learning to practice self-compassion.

Don't be a victim.

In all encounters, act equal, and treat your partner as an equal.

How can people face and overcome their own narcissism?

A narcissist can challenge and overcome their narcissism by recognizing and separating from both the self-soothing,

self-aggrandizing and self-attacking attitudes of their critical inner voice.

The attitudes they internalized very early on in their lives.

They need to recognize and challenge these attitudes toward themselves and toward others.

One method for doing this is through Voice Therapy.

Narcissists further need to differentiate from negative traits of their parents or early caretakers that they are still

acting out in their current lives.

These traits might include superior attitudes or condescending behaviors.

They also need to give up the adaptations they made to the ways their own parents neglected them or were emotionally

hungry toward them.

These adaptations may have once been their survival mechanisms, but they now manage to push others away and sabotage

personal lives and goals.

Narcissists also need to break patterns of being self-centered or withholding.

They must fight the tendency to always compare themselves to others and the need to be the "best" or "perfect" all the

time.

Another way to cure narcissism is to foster self-compassion rather than self-esteem.

Psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff has done extensive research on self-esteem versus self-compassion.

The difference between self-esteem and self-compassion is that self-esteem centers on evaluating yourself in relation

to others and emphasizes a need to be special.

While self-compassion focuses on "treating oneself with kindness, recognizing one's shared humanity,

and being mindful when considering negative aspects of oneself." Dr. Neff's studies have found that self-esteem leads

to higher levels of narcissism, but self-compassion does not.

Self-compassion actually combats narcissism because it includes the idea of a shared humanity with all other human

beings, which leads to more compassion for others.

Self-compassion also fosters real self-awareness, a trait many narcissists lack,

as it promotes that we be mindful of our faults, which is the first step to changing negative traits in yourself.

For there to be any hope of recovering a good relationship from a narcissistic relationship,

the narcissist must overcome their self-centered and negative traits.

They need to challenge their self-feeding habits and pseudo-independent stance.

They need to focus on developing their capacity for empathy and respect of others.

Lastly, they need to develop transcendent goals, to care about and invest in others' well-being.

Being generous and giving to others are examples of behaviors that would be corrective,

building real self-esteem and practicing focusing outside of oneself.

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English Advice | Focus on an Accent to Learn Faster - Duration: 3:36.

What's up dudes?

How's it going?

Here it is a rainy day.

So we're going to be making a video inside.

Just to give you, you know, some quick advice.

Obviously, you are studying English, but which, which accent are you focusing on?

And why's it important to focus on one accent more than another one.

Well!

I'm going to tell you why it's important in this video.

In fact, I have a few reasons you should decide and a few tips to help you ... with finding

materials and deciding on how much to focus specifically on one accent versus studying

English from all over the world.

But first.

It would be so cool if you guys could subscribe to the channel.

And once you do, you'll see this little bell, click that, and then you will know when the

newest videos are available.

Also...

Also give the video a like.

If you enjoyed it.

Okay.

Let's get started.

First of all, I'm not saying that you should study just one accent.

English is a very diverse language, obviously.

And it has so many different accents and regionalisms and slang and idioms.

It's one of the coolest parts of the language, I mean although it's also one of the most

frustrating, definitely.

What I am recommending is that you focus on the English that you're going to need.

For example, if you plan on going to the US, or you just enjoy the culture, the music , the

movies.

It makes sense that you would focus on this accent.

Because it's going to save you so much more time.

Especially if you're studying an accent that you're not going to use, it's going to be

much more difficult to remember the vocabulary, the pronunciation, and all those other good

things.

So first of all: decide which accent is best for you.

BUT!

If you're thinking of going to the US, I mean, if you haven't seen my videos yet, I think

it's a great way to skyrocket your vocabulary, get familiar with the slang, idioms, and especially

- learn about American culture!

The culture here is so diverse.

That means you've got to spend a little bit more time learning about it.

If you're really interested.

The second point, is that native speakers from one country usually do not know the idioms

and slang from another country.

Or, if you use one word they don't use it that way.

Just compare the US and Britain, and "cheers!".

In the UK this is a very common, very acceptable way to say goodbye to someone.

In the US if you say cheers to the average American to say goodbye, they are going to

be confused.

We only say cheers when we are drunk off our butts.

So if you try to end a conversation by saying cheers, to your average American, it's not

going to go well.

And here's the most important part: it's not bad English!

But if you're studying English from one country, and try to use it with someone from another

country, they're going to think that your English is wrong.

For this reason, you need to be ready for the country that you plan on visiting, or

for the types of English speakers you think you're going to encounter.

Either in person, through cinema, music, or whatever type of situation.

As I mentioned at the beginning, learning English that you're actually going to use

is going to be so much easier to memorize it.

Alright fellas.

I hope it stops raining here soon so I can go outside and record some new videos.

If not, you might be seeing this.

Tell me how the weather is on your end.

Ciao for now.

Buh bye!

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How To Make An Intro #1 - Duration: 1:16.

Hello everyone, guy with a long YouTube name here, and welcome to a new video about making

uhh... "good" intros.

This series is basically a series where I tell you how to make intros, it also acts

as a channel trailer, witch is updated every month.

This months theme is 'Happy', to make this you want to go to Google and type 'Minecraft

happy' and find an image.... oh theres a good one.

Ok now we want music, so I recommend typing in 'Royalty free happy music', lemme go do

that.

Oh heres a good song here have a listen...

(Bad music plays) Ok now finally we want to combine the picture and the music.

Here this should be the final result.

(Bad music plays) Thats how you make a happy intro, tune in next month for a sad intro.

Did I just write a script and subtitles for this?

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The New San Fernando: A Green and Livable City | An SDG Original - Duration: 9:55.

Is the Philippines about to have

a world-class and eco-friendly city?

A little over an hour's drive,

north of Manila

and less than half an hour's drive,

south of the Clark International Airport;

San Fernando City

stands strong at the heart of Pampanga.

With over a million residents and workers,

San Fernando is the cultural

and economic hub of this region.

Mount pinatubo erupted...

After over 600 years of dormancy,

the awoken behemoth spewed layers of

volcanic ash and debris on nearby towns,

including San Fernando.

Mount Pinatubo's explosive eruption

was the 20th century's

second largest on Earth.

It was by far,

the most destructive eruption

to affect a densely-populated area.

This eruption hurled

a cloud of volcanic ash,

hundreds of miles across;

turning day into night.

High-speed avalanches of hot ash and gas

rushed towards neighboring towns,

incinerating all life in its path.

Giant mudflows, called "lahar,"

bulldozed and buried buildings,

houses, and residents.

6 years later...

was filed,

upgrading San Fernando's status

from a sleepy town

into a developing city.

After 4 years,

the town officially became

a component city of Pampanga.

Under Republic Act 8990,

San Fernando became

the 99th city of the Philippines.

2017.

The once lahar-ravaged San Fernando

is transforming into a vibrant,

livable, and environment-friendly city.

A bulk of San Fernando's income

comes from business taxes.

Last year,

the city had a record high of...

despite a...

Now, the city's annual income continues

to breach the one-billion-peso mark,

indicating a strong local economy,

and a healthy and empowered citizenry.

In the recent years,

second-term Mayor Edwin Santiago has been

at the helm of San Fernando's renaissance.

Prior to his mayorship...

for over 20 years.

Nicknamed "EdSa,"

he is a bona fide Fernandino

from Barangay San Pedro, Cutud.

He is well-known for his natural affection

for Filipinos

and genuine care for the poor.

Through his leadership,

the city government's thrust has been...

And in the span of just 3 years,

San Fernando City won

numerous prestigious awards.

In fact,

Superbrand Marketing International

awarded Mayor EdSa

as "The Most Outstanding Mayor,"

for 3 consecutive years.

Under Mayor Santiago's watch...

total businesses opened 5 years ago.

Last year...

total businesses opened…

a 21% growth in new businesses.

5 years ago,

the city's total investments grew from...

to:

last year...

a 25% growth in total investments.

The New San Fernando will be an

agglomeration of small mixed-use areas,

promoting for the people's interactions.

There will be small thriving communities

that will address all of

its people's needs.

So that our residents

do not have to leave our city.

Through our Land-Use Plan,

we have identified seven growth centers

in the City to decongest

the existing central business district

and enhance other activities

in terms of food security,

agri-business,

urban-rural linkages,

and mixed-use development.

Transforming San Fernando into the

"Center of Kapampangan Culture"

aims to spark a new Renaissance

in the region.

San Fernando is being primed

for cultural tourism.

Many of the city's establishments

and events are preserving and promoting

Pampanga's heritage,

Arts and Crafts,

and culinary identity.

As the

"Christmas Capital of the Philippines,"

San Fernando holds an annual

Giant Lantern Festival every mid-December

where massive handcrafted lanterns

are gloriously showcased.

Thousands of lights form

kaleidoscope of colors,

gracefully dancing to Christmas songs.

Year after year,

these lanterns grow larger

and more magnificent,

stunning the crowd with a

choreography of lights and music

all thanks to the

Fernandino's competitive spirit.

Lantern-making,

the city's century-old tradition,

dates back to the transfer of

Pampanga's provincial government

from Bacolor to San Fernando

over a century ago.

...in the Kapampangan language,

this annual event is a symbol

of the Fernandino's unity, joy, and

and peace among their neighborhoods.

Smart City.

We have also witnessed that our city

makes full use of Information Technology,

especially for peace and order,

to establish ourselves as a "Smart City."

Our current society is on the

information technology age.

And those who fail to be alongside

e-governance will lag behind.

The New San Fernando that you are

witnessing is now using real-time

monitoring implementations

of public regulations.

Mayor Santiago envisions

"The New San Fernando" to be a...

Its hard-working people,

clean environment,

innovative Science and technology,

and good local governance work together

to create an efficient and...

Guided by Mayor Santiago's vision,

the New San Fernando's developments

are setting the stage

for a livable Smart City,

for the next generation of Fernandinos.

Future developments like:

which will serve as a new economic zone.

which will have a library,

a social hall,

and a senior citizens' center,

to name a few.

and youth development programs

that will foster teamwork, discipline

and hard-work among children,

teenagers, and young adults.

where visitors can relax and

enjoy Mother Nature's creations.

which will have tree-lined

promenades and bike lanes.

Future eco-friendly streets

will adapt this road's designs.

And a modern mass transport system

that will help ease traffic along the...

The New San Fernando will value

the new generation of Fernandinos,

especially the Xennials and Millennials.

This generation will be our partner

in development because of their dynamic,

modern, and creative approach

in doing things.

Ultimately, the New City of San Fernando

will be a community

that promotes social inclusion,

where people prefer to study,

play, work, live and retire.

No one will be left behind

in the New San Fernando

because we will be one of the most

Livable Urban Centers in the world.

And this is San Fernando.

Fernandinos;

Passionate about their love of God,

and of the Philippines,

and of San Fernando City.

A hub for sustainable innovations

that preserve the environment.

And a center for Kapampangan culture.

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Life is Strange: Before the Storm - An Open Letter [PEGI] - Duration: 3:44.

An open letter to my best friend

Jessica.

Tyler.

Nicole.

My best friend Ginny.

Gidge.

An open letter to my best friend Garland.

Where to even begin.

Let me start this off by simply saying I love you.

I probably don't say it as much as I should,

but here it is.

And it's hard to pick just one thing to say

other than thank you for making me a stronger person.

Thank you for being the wonderful person

you are.

We've been through so much

and meeting you changed my life forever.

You were this snot-nosed 3rd grader

with an oversized pokemon shirt.

It was like Christmas, when you get a new puppy.

But instead I got someone I could call my best friend

my little brother.

It wasn't until we wrote that short play when I realised

this is a person I need to stay around.

This is someone who makes me better.

From that moment on,

it was pretty safe to say it was going to be the two of us forever.

And all the small victories I've had over the years

may have never happened without your support.

I laugh louder,

I smile harder,

I'm home.

I think what tied our bond forever though,

is when you decided that I was the friend that you would call

to tell your biggest secret to.

Throughout everything in my life that has changed,

rearranged and flipped upside down.

You are the constant.

Garland, your testimony is one of the most powerful things

I've ever heard.

It's a lot harder than I thought it was going to be.

I am so proud

of this amazing person you have become

and continue to be.

During one of the most difficult times of my life,

you were the life I needed in that very moment.

You are an inspiration to my life

and I could have never made it

to where I am without you being there for me

in so many ways.

You have helped me to keep fighting

to keep pushing, to get out, and try each day.

You've been the legs to my broken heart

pushing me through and carrying me on.

For that, I owe you my life.

Thank you for always setting me straight,

being the family that I needed through those times

and not giving up on me.

You continue to challenge me.

To face the parts of myself that I love,

that I hate,

and that I want to be.

You have seen me at my worst

and have brought me to my best.

But you are forever

and always a part of me.

You anchor me in my true self.

You make me feel loved.

You're my brother.

I love you.

That was written by my best friend, Haley.

My best friend Angela, she wrote this letter.

My best friend Melvin.

My best friend Diana wrote this letter.

Man, you got me in tears over here.

Oh my god, I f***ing love you.

I needed that. Thanks.

I love you too!

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Life is Strange: Before the Storm - An Open Letter [ESRB] - Duration: 3:44.

An open letter to my best friend

Jessica.

Tyler.

Nicole.

My best friend Ginny.

Gidge.

An open letter to my best friend Garland.

Where to even begin.

Let me start this off by simply saying I love you.

I probably don't say it as much as I should,

but here it is.

And it's hard to pick just one thing to say

other than thank you for making me a stronger person.

Thank you for being the wonderful person

you are.

We've been through so much

and meeting you changed my life forever.

You were this snot-nosed 3rd grader

with an oversized pokemon shirt.

It was like Christmas, when you get a new puppy.

But instead I got someone I could call my best friend

my little brother.

It wasn't until we wrote that short play when I realised

this is a person I need to stay around.

This is someone who makes me better.

From that moment on,

it was pretty safe to say it was going to be the two of us forever.

And all the small victories I've had over the years

may have never happened without your support.

I laugh louder,

I smile harder,

I'm home.

I think what tied our bond forever though,

is when you decided that I was the friend that you would call

to tell your biggest secret to.

Throughout everything in my life that has changed,

rearranged and flipped upside down.

You are the constant.

Garland, your testimony is one of the most powerful things

I've ever heard.

It's a lot harder than I thought it was going to be.

I am so proud

of this amazing person you have become

and continue to be.

During one of the most difficult times of my life,

you were the life I needed in that very moment.

You are an inspiration to my life

and I could have never made it

to where I am without you being there for me

in so many ways.

You have helped me to keep fighting

to keep pushing, to get out, and try each day.

You've been the legs to my broken heart

pushing me through and carrying me on.

For that, I owe you my life.

Thank you for always setting me straight,

being the family that I needed through those times

and not giving up on me.

You continue to challenge me.

To face the parts of myself that I love,

that I hate,

and that I want to be.

You have seen me at my worst

and have brought me to my best.

But you are forever

and always a part of me.

You anchor me in my true self.

You make me feel loved.

You're my brother.

I love you.

That was written by my best friend, Haley.

My best friend Angela, she wrote this letter.

My best friend Melvin.

My best friend Diana wrote this letter.

Man, you got me in tears over here.

Oh my god, I f***ing love you.

I needed that. Thanks.

I love you too!

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i5-750 vs i5-7500: Can An 8 Year Old i5 Still Game In 2017? - Duration: 13:08.

How far have Intel's i5 processors come since the first generation?

Howdy howdy guys, ponchato here, and today we'll be taking a look at the first processor

in the i5 series, the 750, versus its most recent successor, the i5-7500.

The i5-750 was released back in September of 2009, which actually makes it one of the

very first "Core i" series processors ever.

It's built on the 45nm Lynnfield architecture, which sounds pretty quaint by modern standards.

The 750 used Intel's LGA 1156 socket and ran with DDR3 memory.

It's a 4 core, 4 thread processor, just like modern i5s, running at 2.66GHz and a

95W TDP.

With a launch price right around $200, the i5-750 was priced identically to the 7500.

And that's our modern contender, Intel's i5-7500.

This one was released in January of 2017 as part of Intel's 14nm Kaby Lake architecture.

It uses the LGA 1151 socket and runs with DDR4 memory.

Like the 750 and all i5s that succeeded it, the i5-7500 is a 4 core, 4 thread processor.

It runs at 3.4GHz and has a much tighter 65W TDP.

MSRP for the 7500 was right around $200 at launch, almost 8 years after the 750.

The i5-750 I'm using is running with DDR3 memory, while the i5-7500 is using DDR4.

Other than that, the systems basically are identical with 8GB of RAM, an RX 480 4GB,

and booting off an SSD.

First up, we'll look at Cinebench.

Running both CPU tests, the i5-7500 scores 603 in multicore and 164 in single core.

Compare that to the i5-750 getting a somewhat less impressive 330 in multicore and 94 in

single core.

That's an 83% increase in multicore performance and a 74% increase in single core, even though

the 7500 is only clocked about 28% faster than the 750.

This is a good example of IPC (or 'Instructions Per Clock') performance.

Not only does the 7500 run faster, it also does more work per clock cycle.

As we get closer and closer to the upper limit of Moore's law, efficiency increases like

this will become more and more important.

Now the game results.

First up, Battlefield 1.

As expected, the difference is much more dramatic at low settings, where processor speed is

the limiting factor rather than GPU speed.

On low settings, the 7500 almost doubles the 750's average frame rate at 183 vs 108 FPS.

Lows are also almost doubled at 97 vs 56 in 1% and 65 vs 35 in 0.1%.

The trend continues on medium settings with the 7500 averaging 45FPS more than the 750,

1% lows up 32FPS, and 0.1% lows up 30FPS.

On high settings, the averages are much closer; there's only a 10% difference between the

two processors.

That means we're starting to get bottlenecked by the GPU.

Lows still show a fairly significant difference with the 750 trailing by 22% and 36% in 1%

and 0.1% lows, respectively.

On ultra the story is similar with averages only diverging by 7 frames per second but

lows are a bit further apart than on high settings: about 27% higher 1% lows and 55%

higher 0.1% lows.

In fact, looking across the 750's results from low up to ultra, you can see that the

processor is the biggest factor in restricting performance; there's only a 28FPS difference

between low and ultra.

Next, Counter Strike: Global Offensive.

Because this game is so graphically simple, processor speed ends up being the dominant

factor even on high settings.

Looking at the graph, the 750 averages almost 65% slower on low settings.

There's a 49 FPS delta in 1% lows and 22 FPS delta in 0.1% lows.

On medium settings, averages diverged by 79%, 1% lows by 88%, and 0.1% lows more than doubled

on the 7500.

Similarly on high, the 750's average FPS trailed by about 77% compared to the 7500.

1% lows and 0.1% lows were both more than double with the 7500.

It should be noted that 1% lows reached down to 22FPS and 0.1% lows hit 7, with the older

i5-750.

Not exactly what you want in a competitive shooter.

Third is Deus Ex: Mankind Divided.

Honestly I did not expect this game to show such a big performance difference between

the two processors, since it's so graphically intensive.

On low settings, the 750 trails by 17 frames per second average, 14 FPS in 1% lows, and

8 FPS in 0.1% lows.

On medium settings the averages are much closer, only 3 frames apart, but lows are still divergent

with an 8FPS difference in the 1% case and 11FPS difference in the 0.1% case.

On ultra, where the GPU is bottlenecking hard, averages are identical at 39 FPS.

Lows still show a difference with the 7500 almost maintaining 30FPS all the time, while

the 750 drops down to 24FPS in the slowest 1% of frames and 15FPS in the slowest 0.1%.

If you're running at medium or better settings, a faster processor won't do much for average

FPS, but it can make a big difference in lows.

Fourth in the lineup is GTA V, and the weird "stuttering on low settings" problem rears

its ugly head again.

On low, the 750 averages 94FPS with 1% lows at 67FPS and 0.1% lows at 61FPS.

That's pretty respectable performance from a processor that's almost a decade old.

The 7500 bugs out on us and even though it averages 125, the low frames hit about 8FPS.

Basically unplayable, but this is more of a glitch than a performance problem.

On medium, the performance improvement is very notable.

The 7500 averages almost 40FPS faster than the 750, just under 30FPS faster in the 1%

lows, and 28FPS faster in the 0.1% lows.

On high settings, the 7500's worst case lows once again match or beat the 750's

average; the 7500 hits 64FPS in 1% lows while the 750 averages, overall, 64FPS.

That's a pretty handy performance delta.

Next is Just Cause 3.

Because this game is so heavy on CPU and memory, I figured that the i5-7500 would just destroy

the 750.

Not just due to its faster processing speed, but also because of the significantly faster

DDR4 memory.

One look at the graph confirms that hypothesis.

On low, the 7500 averages almost two and a half times faster than the 750.

1% lows are nearly double at 49FPS versus 28, and 0.1% lows bump up 12FPS with the 7500.

On medium, the 7500 averages 63FPS higher than the 750, 14 FPS higher in 1% lows, and

5FPS higher in 0.1% lows.

High settings were a bit more interesting; the 750's average was well below the 7500s

and the 1% lows trailed by 25%, but the 0.1% lows were actually better on the 750 than

on the 7500.

We can probably chock this one up to measurement error or some background process turning on

while benchmarking, but it's an interesting note.

Sixth in the lineup is Blizzard's Overwatch.

To me, these results are just bizarre.

I can't figure this game out.

On low, averages are identical due to the built-in hard cap of 300FPS but this time

it's the 750, not the 7500, that leads in lows.

The 8 year old 750 runs 15FPS higher 1% lows and a pretty sizable 42FPS gain in 0.1% lows.

On high settings the results are nearly identical around a 226FPS average, 175 FPS 1% low, but

a 15FPS difference in 0.1% lows.

On ultra, the results are actually pretty much identical; 116 FPS average, 76-ish FPS

1% lows, and 60FPS in the 0.1% lows.

Performance in this game has always been a bit wonky to me.

Always smooth and non-distracting, definitely, but weird once you put it on a graph.

Two processors this far apart in age really shouldn't be performing the same.

Weird.

Next up is the game that just passed DOTA 2 in highest number of simultaneous players

on Steam: PlayerUnknown's Battlegrounds.

Looking at the graph, on low settings the 750 only trails by 12 frames per second average.

1% lows have a bigger 18FPS gap, and 0.1% lows are down by 4FPS.

On medium settings, the 7500 once again only leads by about 10% in the average.

1% lows are up 8FPS and 0.1% lows up 5; not too big of a difference.

On ultra the 750 trails by about 8% in the average, but a much more sizable 16FPS in

1% lows and 8FPS in 0.1% lows.

Based on these results, it looks like this game is mostly bound by the GPU, rather than

the processor.

Last in the gaming lineup is Rocket League.

Being an esports title with easy-to-render graphics, I expected this game to show a big

difference in performance, especially at low settings.

The graph confirms that hypothesis.

On low, the 7500 leads average FPS by over 120 frames per second.

1% lows were up 80 frames, and 0.1% lows were up a much smaller 17FPS.

On medium, once again the 7500 was far ahead on average: 275FPS versus the 750's 168.

1% lows from the 7500 also showed a significant 60% gain over the 750, but 0.1% lows closed

the gap again at 103FPS for the 750 and 126FPS for the 7500.

High settings showed the smallest performance gains, likely since the GPU is taxed much

more heavily at this level.

Averages for the 750 and 7500 were 138FPS and 165FPS respectively, with the 750 trailing

in 1% lows by 24FPS and 0.1% lows by 17 frames per second.

These results are just about in line with the difference in multicore performance measured

in Cinebench.

So the 750 falls pretty far behind the 7500 in most games.

But, how does it hold up in power consumption and temperatures?

At idle, the 750 stayed around 30C.

While gaming in CSGO, it fluctuated quite a bit but stayed around 54C.

While stress testing with Prime95, the i5-750 hit 61C.

The 8 year newer i5-7500 idled around 33C.

During gaming in CSGO it averaged right around 50C, and while stress testing the 7500 peaked

at 59C.

Both CPUs were cooled by fairly typical aftermarket tower coolers; the 750 had an old Cooler Master

Hyper 212 Plus while the 7500 was cooled by a Deepcool Gammaxx 400.

So the temperatures actually aren't that much different, but what about power consumption?

Sitting idle on the desktop, the 750 used 61W.

The 7500 actually used more at idle; 68W.

While gaming, however, the 750 falls behind.

In CSGO, the 750 drew 235W from the wall, while the 7500 only took 204W.

While stress testing, the difference is even more pronounced with the 750 taking 272W and

the 7500 only using 232W.

Not a big enough difference that you'd need a different power supply to run the old processor,

but big enough to be worth noting.

Based on the comparisons in this video, you may get the impression that the 750 is a worthless

CPU because it's so much slower than a modern i5.

But, actually, I think the data shows the opposite.

It can still maintain 60+ FPS in most games, and in some games (particularly esports titles),

it can keep up 120FPS or better.

An old i5-750 build can easily be brought up to run modern games if you just drop in

a recent graphics card and install 8GB of memory.

In fact in a lot of these benchmarks, the limiting factor was the GPU, not the processor.

So is the 8 year old i5-750 still relevant in 2017?

I think it is.

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8 Things To Expect When You Break Up With A Narcissist (A Relationship Specialist Explains) - Duration: 14:04.

8 Things To Expect When You Break Up With A Narcissist (A Relationship Specialist Explains)

Ending a relationship with a narcissist is incredibly difficult, for many reasons.

Your loyalty, compassion, and desire to be true to your promises make it hard for you to consider leaving the

relationship.

The narcissist can also make it hard for you to leave because he wants to be in control of the decision to end the

relationship.

As long as keeping the relationship is the most important factor to you,

the narcissist has free rein to dominate you and your decisions.

Caretakers are most likely to leave when the narcissist crosses a line that they finally can't or won't tolerate.

But over the years, I have found it hard to predict when a caretaker will leave.

The client whose narcissistic husband suffered a stroke and became physically abusive didn't leave.

But the client whose husband moved his pregnant girlfriend into the spare bedroom,

saying she was an old friend from college down on her luck, did file for divorce.

Caretaking men seem less likely to leave than women, perhaps because of the extra burden of responsibility that men

culturally feel to take care of women.

When caretakers do leave, they find it is difficult to stick with their decision due to feelings of guilt or pity for

the narcissist.

And if the narcissist doesn't want you to leave, (s)he'll keep pressuring you to change your mind,

often with those same old promises to change.

The narcissist can make your life extremely arduous in order to keep control of you and the relationship.

Will the narcissist ever be the one to leave?

Sometimes a triggering event will motivate the narcissist to leave.

These are usually life-altering events for one of you.

If you become ill or incapacitated or unable or unwilling to participate in the life the narcissist has designed,

that may prompt the narcissist to leave.

Even a positive event, such as having a child, can upset the delicate balance of the relationship,

especially if it requires the narcissist to be more responsible and emotionally involved.

Illnesses, aging, and job losses or promotions can act as triggers for the narcissist to suddenly abandon the

relationship.

Regardless of who makes the first move to leave, here's what you can expect at the end of a relationship with a

narcissist:

1.

Blame

When things don't work out, the narcissist puts the blame entirely on someone else.

You were on a pedestal at the beginning of the relationship.

You were wonderful and perfect, and the narcissist was thrilled to have "won" you as a mate.

Now that the narcissist sees the relationship as broken, damaged, and ending—and it's all your fault.

(S)he says you're too fat or too needy or too happy.

You have wrecked things, destroyed the trust, ruined the best thing you ever had, crushed his love.

You're unappreciative of all he has done for you.

You would be nothing without him/her.

You have single-handedly destroyed all the two of you have built.

You're selfish and demanding.

Overnight you have become the most despised person in the narcissist's life.

Obviously that is shocking, hurtful, insulting, and thoroughly unfair and wrong.

When the narcissist reaches this point, (s)he will no longer listen to you or give you any consideration and may no

longer be willing to even speak to you.

If you apologize profusely enough and beg for reconciliation, you may get back together for a while,

but things between the two of you will probably never be good again.

2.

Attempts to convince you you've made a mistake

After months or years of being told you're wrong and having your decisions devalued by the narcissist,

you are probably prone to second-guessing yourself.

And the narcissist will certainly try to convince you that you've made a mistake.

(S)he tries charisma, coaxing, persuasion, and then intimidation, goading,

and outright provocation to get back in control of the relationship.

The narcissist will say, "You just misinterpreted what I said.

Of course, you should know that deep down I love you; why do I have to say it all the time?

What about all the good times we've had together?

You look at the negative too much.

You don't understand the stress I've been under lately.

You take things too personally.

You're overreacting.

You're too emotional."

Although the narcissist tries to sound positive about the relationship and why you shouldn't leave,

you'll notice that all these "reasons" are actually negative remarks about you and what is wrong with what you're doing.

These are not real encouragements to stay in the relationship; they are actually manipulations to lower your

self-esteem so you won't leave.

If the coaxing and persuasion don't work, the narcissist can bring out the especially negative evaluations to trigger

your sore spots and make you feel bad about yourself: "You were nothing before you married me.

Go back to that stupid family of yours and rot.

You'll be sorry when I'm out in California and making loads of money.

I can find somebody who will really love me and always put me first."

If the narcissist still needs you, (s)he won't want you upsetting their plans.

Your leaving gives you more emotional strength and power in the relationship by moving you further out of the

narcissist's control, and (s)he doesn't want that to happen.

3.

Attempts to guilt-trip you into staying

Guilt is a powerful tool for the narcissist to pull you back into the relationship.

The narcissist brings up every time he has done something nice for you, or stresses how much he cares about you,

or reminds you of the wonderful times you've had together.

If the positives don't work to bring you back, narcissists default to their devaluing attacks.

Any complaint you have made about the narcissist will be turned around on you.

Narcissists consistently blame their partners for behaviors they are actually exhibiting in that very moment—screaming,

name-calling, hostility, selfishness, hatred, and passive-aggressiveness, to name a few.

Being told you are selfish, unkind, cruel, greedy, stingy, or hurting someone's feelings can be especially painful to a

caretaker.

You work so hard to never do or be those things and almost never even have those kinds of feelings,

so you feel deeply wronged.

These comments are such a clear indication that the narcissist doesn't know you or see you for who you are,

and that can be heartbreaking.

These kinds of accusations also increase your feelings of guilt, so you're more likely to redouble your efforts to

prove to the narcissist that you're not that kind of person.

That's just what the narcissist wants, because it reengages you in the relationship.

Once the narcissist has goaded you into reacting, (s)he can keep you feeling powerless, guilty,

and participating in the relationship until (s)he's ready to end it.

4.

Demands for attention, even after you've broken up

It is easier to leave a narcissist if you cut off as much contact as possible.

However, narcissists can be extremely persistent in grabbing your attention.

Clients have reported many types of attention-getting behaviors from narcissists who feel rejected, for example:

drunk calling in the middle of the night, "accidentally" breaking into your house to get their belongings,

hundreds of texts or emails in a day, constant pleas for you to "explain" why you want to leave—all of which lead to

the narcissist's denouncing you for being so negative.

If you have children together, these pleas for attention can go on and on.

One client was so anxious from all the pressure that she actually lost her voice when she saw her former husband.

He was so determined to get her attention that he even pressured the court to "order" her to speak to him in public

"for the sake of the children." Of course it was actually for the sake of his own egotistical need to be acknowledged.

5.

Promises to change

If persuasion, guilt, and attention-getting behaviors don't pull you back into the relationship,

the narcissist pulls out the promise to change.

Suddenly the narcissist says (s)he understands why you are upset and ready to leave.

(S)he appears to be taking responsibility for his/her behaviors.

(S)he promises to go to therapy, do everything you ask, do things your way.

(S)he is so, so sorry to have hurt you.

This is a tempting appeal for a caretaker who truly wants the relationship to work.

Now it seems that the narcissist finally understands what you've been saying and is ready to make things right.

(S)he seems genuinely sincere.

You breathe a sigh of relief and hope builds in you again.

Inevitably this hope disintegrates.

Narcissists can't stop trying to control you, and they can't seem to control their own behaviors for any length of time.

For a while, you think things are getting better.

However, when the narcissist gets comfortable in the relationship again, (s)he'll go back to being self-absorbed,

inconsiderate, arrogant, insensitive, and blaming.

And invariably if things don't go his/her way, (s)he's instantly back to the same defensive and antagonistic patterns.

How many times you're willing to believe the narcissist's false promises is up to you.

6.

Social attacks and gossip

It is hard to keep the end of your relationship with a narcissist out of the public eye,

because the narcissist demands that everyone you know choose sides.

As soon as possible (s)he will tell your friends, neighbors, church members,

and club acquaintances in person and on social media his/her version of the story of your breakup.

That is very distressful for most caretakers.

During your entire relationship, the narcissist insisted on extreme privacy about your interactions together,

and now (s)he is spreading all kinds of misinformation and slander and trying to ruin your good name.

Too often caretakers continue to keep their promises not to talk about the relationship,

which means the narcissist's lies stand without challenge.

Gossip is a manipulative tactic designed to make you the bad guy and to garner the narcissist as much sympathy as

possible.

It can also work effectively to reengage you with him and bring you under control.

7.

Stalking

Although stalking is usually not blatant or threatening by narcissists,

it is not uncommon for narcissists to fortuitously be at the grocery store when you are,

to suddenly appear at a community or social event you attend, or change their running schedule so they go down your

street every morning.

Be prepared ahead of time that these unexpected meetings might occur.

They're designed to keep you aware of the narcissist's presence and emotionally off balance.

8.

Neediness

Narcissists appear to be strong and independent, but they are actually extremely needy.

You may find it hard to let go of taking care of the narcissist.

You may get calls to come fix her car, or he may still expect you to keep doing the accounting for his business,

or she wants you to take down the Christmas lights on her house, or he expects you to still make his dentist

appointments.

It can be exhausting and difficult for you to say no to these persistent requests.

Too often you get pulled back into interactions with the narcissist that really don't benefit you.

Want more insight into your relationship?

Find out the things you should always be selfish about in your partnerships and the questions that could keep your

marriage from ending.

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Rooting for Mayweather is an Intersectional Failure - Duration: 5:31.

- Let's talk about Floyd Mayweather.

I genuinely don't care about sports.

I really only get invested when the

stakes are really high, like during a championship.

But I do love sports conversations

because sports are so important to our culture that

inevitably whenever we start talking about these athletes,

who are often black and brown,

and the sports that they play,

we start talking about our society at large.

These discussions become sociological.

So there's this thing that happened last Saturday

between Floyd Mayweather and Conor McGregor.

And I really don't care about the outcome of that thing,

or the hundreds of millions dollars

that they got for the thing.

But I am interested in how this fight

became about reclaiming black dignity broadly,

and more specifically about celebrating black masculinity.

Conor McGregor got it.

He played into that narrative

with all of his racist comments.

He even referred to an imaginary black penis.

- A lot of media seems to be sayin'

I'm against black people.

Do they not know I'm half black?

I'm half black from the belly button down.

- The playing up of the racism

really felt calculated by those

who stood to make a lot of money,

and that makes sense.

We know that that cartoonish kind of racism

is a very pleasurable spectacle.

And of course, we have to note that

the history of the boxing ring as

a forum for white supremacy is old.

In 1910, white Americans had faith

that a great white hope would take out Jack Johnson,

the first black heavyweight champ.

Writer Jack London wrote at the time,

"The White Man must be rescued."

They called up James Jeffries who got beat so badly

that he quit rather than be knocked out.

White folks, of course, were not having it.

They were so upset that they

responded with violence against black communities.

So I really don't blame black folks

who still engage boxing with that lens.

White supremacy is resilient.

But I have questions because Floyd is a black man, sure,

but he is a misogynistic, abusive, homophobic black man.

Still, to a large swath of black people,

including progressive black folks,

those facts don't detract from his worthiness

as an exemplar of "Black Excellence."

Let's interrogate that.

When I spoke to a group of black women

it was so interesting to me how,

despite the fact that we live in raced and gendered bodies,

that in this arena, blackness came first.

And it makes me think that we've spent all this time

talking about Kimberlé Crenshaw's work on intersectionality

and the work of so many black feminists who came before.

But is it really affecting how we operate in the world?

There is still a belief that triumphant blackness requires

protecting black masculinity at all costs.

And it's important to note that that triumph

is about rallying around a hypermasculine,

as in he derives his power through money and violence,

cisgender heterosexual black man.

The triumph is not about care for all black people.

We're certainly not demonstrating care

for Floyd's black children,

who witnessed their mother being beaten,

or all of the gay and lesbian black folks

who have to hear Floyd's slurs.

If we didn't still believe,

despite our claims to

intersectional thinking and organizing,

that protecting the straight cis black man

was akin to uplifting the race,

then it wouldn't be so easy to prioritize

this man's incredible skill over his indiscretions.

And, look, this for me, is not about drawing a hard line.

If you're a sentient being,

at some point during your day,

you are probably supporting an abuser.

In fact, I'm not even sure if

it's reasonable to expect people to do

the work that our supposed justice system does not.

I just have questions,

because despite the increased visibility

of a black feminist politic,

we still make the same choices about which bodies matter.

Let's go back to intersectionality.

Generally when people talk about it,

what they mean is representation.

Crenshaw, though, has been clear that

it's meant to be about systems, institutions.

- A lot of people, particularly those who

haven't followed demarginalizing from its' initial iteration

often mistakenly think that intersectionality

is only about multiple identities.

I've got three, you've got six.

The identity question goes on and on.

That's not, at least, my articulation of intersectionality.

Intersectionality is not primarily about identity,

it's about how structures make certain identities,

the consequence of the vehicle for vulnerability.

So if you wanna know how many intersections matter,

you've gotta look at the context.

What's happening?

What kind of discrimination is going on?

What are the policies?

What are the institutional structures

that play a role in contributing to the exclusion

of some people and not others.

- A focus on representation and pleasure

means that we never have to challenge ourselves

on the systems that make it possible for black women

to be three times as likely to die

of intimate partner homicide as white women.

We like to think that our thinking

is so much more evolved that our understandings

of these systems are so much more complex,

but generally, we're making the same choices

we did with O.J. and Clarence Thomas.

If you live in America, you know that

most white folk's conversations about race haven't changed.

But I'm just as concerned about

the lack of evolution in our intraracial conversations.

This fight between two very clearly awful people

is another example of that.

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