I recently did a video about how to live a positive life, and it really helped a lot
of people, so I decided to do another one, right now, with EVEN MORE tips!
Don't just watch this and think "yeah, that sounds useful" and then not actually do it
- Be sure you're actually practicing this stuff and using it in your life!
Alright, let's hop right into it.
#1 Always move forward.
I talked about this in my video about how to achieve your goals, and, it actually applies
to everything in your life.
You don't want to do pointless things, or think pointless things.
Always move forward.
Learn to eliminate useless emotions like anger, disappointment, and so on.
If you're angry, it's because you have a problem - so just figure out the solution and do it.
If you're disappointed, it's because you want something you don't have - so just figure
out how to get it, and get it.
Don't dwell on the negative side.
Always move forward.
Don't replay conversations or anticipate them trying to think of better ways you could've
phrased something and all that, it's a waste of time.
Eliminate all pointless thoughts.
Always move forward.
#2 Learn from your mistakes.
Like I just said, you want to always be moving forward.
If you make a mistake, don't dwell on it, and don't regret it.
Learn from it.
Don't frame it as a regret, frame it as a learning experience - if you learn from a
mistake, then you actually BENEFITTED from the experience ... whereas if you don't learn
from it, then it was useless.
Never regret anything.
If you did something really bad to someone and you feel bad about it, then either get
over it, or do something to make up for it, either by doing something good for that person
or doing something good for others.
If you started a business and it failed, don't feel bad about it, figure out why it failed,
and learn from it.
Always move forward.
You should see all problems, as CHALLENGES.
Don't let yourself get down about them or be overwhelmed.
Any problem you have now is gonna be solved anyway, if you want to solve it.
See negatives as positives, opportunities.
For example, I like to eat breakfast outside on my balcony because it feels good being
in the sun, so some days when it was raining I'd get angry about it.
But now, it doesn't bother me, and I just think "alright, instead of sitting outside,
I'll just eat faster today, and I'll have more time to work on something I want to work
on."
It's not a problem, it's an opportunity.
Of course, this doesn't mean that the only way to solve a problem is to reframe it.
If you really want to sit outside when it's raining, then I could look into building a
little roof over the balcony, or getting one of those retractable roofs that some restaurants
have, or a waterproof umbrella, or altering my genes to turn myself into a mutant who
can control the weather.
Every problem you have is solvable.
#3 Do something nice for others.
Being positive toward others - be it other people, animals, aliens, or whoever - will
make you feel better as well.
Usually when I talk about being positive, it's in regards to yourself, and being positive
towards yourself, but you should also be positive towards others, because it boosts that positive
state of mind.
If you're negative towards others, it might not affect you as much as if you're negative
towards yourself, but it's still negativity.
You want to be positive when interacting with others.
For example, don't say stupid things on the internet "haha, kill yourself, hoe!"
Don't put people down, either to their faces, or even in your own head!
Just understand they're not the same as you are, and they're different people with different
lives.
If you see some dude jamming out to Britney Spears at a stoplight, don't laugh and be
like "haha what a loser!"
Just be like alright, that dude likes Britney Spears, whatever.
If someone tells you they pray to Lord Poseidon every night before bed, don't be like "haha,
religious idiot!"
Ask them why, learn about them as a person and their motivations, maybe there's something
really interesting that you don't know, and if you still disagree with them then that's
fine, there's no reason to put them down about it.
This is something I'm personally still working on, because even though others don't really
make me angry, I still put them down sometimes - for example if I see on the news that someone
had road rage and started shooting at the other person, I think "haha, fuckin idiot,
jesus" and I feel superior to them because of their stupidity.
But I think it's important to realize that people are just doing the best they can - just
because you're smarter than someone or better than them in some regard, it doesn't mean
that they're useless.
#4 Mini meditation.
Do a little mini meditation during the day, it can be anywhere from 1 to 10 minutes, but
what I like to do for this is, instead of clearing my mind, I spend about 30-60 seconds
relaxing and calming my mind, and then I spend the rest of the time visualizing something
really positive, something I really want that I'm working towards, or something I already
have that I love.
This'll help keep you in a positive state throughout the day.
The benefit of it being so short is that you can do it whenever you want, once a day, 3
times a day, 10 times a day, whatever you want.
You can also use this if you find yourself experiencing a negative emotion, especially
over a minor annoyance.
For me personally, big challenges don't really bother me, since I know I'll solve them anyway,
but what does bother me sometimes are small annoyances.
For example awhile back it was like 1am and I was syncing my iPod, and some of the songs
wouldn't sync.
I spent like an hour trying different things, researching different solutions, and everything,
and it still wouldn't work.
And by the end of that hour I was almost ready to throw it against the wall - if you played
video games as a kid and ever thought about breaking your controller ... or actually did
break it ... you know what I'm talking about!
So after about 10 minutes of ruminating, I realized what I was doing, and I decided to
take a step back and do one of these mini meditations and visualize something positive.
Another trick you can do instead of the mini meditation, is just taking a 5 minute break
to play with your dog or cat or another pet, or do something you like, and then go back
to it.
But you want the break activity to be something nice, not for example visiting a political
blog and arguing with people in the comments.
#5 If you find yourself getting angry or emotional about something: stop for a second and visualize
someone else doing the same thing you're doing.
For example, in my iPod example, I could stop for 15-30 seconds and visualize a dorky kid
being really angry for the same reason, being there like "fuck you ipod! fuck you! fucking
piece of shit!" and smashing it with a hammer.
And it'd make me laugh, and immediately I'm out of that angry, irrational state.
You've probably noticed how when yo'ure in the moment, your decision-making ability decreases
and you act more emotional, right?
But when you're watching someone ELSE in the moment, you immediately realize they're doing
something stupid.
So it's the same idea - doing this takes you out of the moment and gives you a third party
perspective of your own thoughts and actions.
You can use this not just for anger, but for other unpleasant emotions and situations as
well, because seeing someone else experiencing the situation allows you to see it from a
third party perspective and analyze it in a more level-headed way.
#6 "Train your mind to see the good in everything."
This is related to tips 1, 2, and 3.
Instead of looking at negative situations and seeing them in a negative light, instead
of looking at people who are doing stupid things and thinking "haha, fuckin idiot!"
or "haha, fuckin loser!" ... see the good in them.
What can you GAIN from these situations?
I've talked before about not separating your life into "productive time" and "wasted time,"
and a lot of people tend to see negative situations as "wasted time," things that serve no purpose.
But instead of doing that, look at it and see if there's anything you can take away
from it.
Maybe it's an opportunity for you to practice one of the tips you learned in this video.
Maybe it's an opportunity in disguise.
There's been one really obvious time in my life where something happened that I thought
was really bad, and then later it led to me doing something else that made my life A LOT
better, WAY BETTER than it had been before - and this wouldn't have happened if that
bad thing hadn't happened and I had just gotten everything I wanted from the start.
I mean my life wouldn't have been ANYWHERE NEAR as good as it now is and now will be,
if I hadn't gone through that one setback.
Life went from a 9 out of 10, to a 10 BILLION out of 10.
Sometimes you're just too in the moment to realize that a thing you perceive as negative
could actually be positive.
So any time you experience what you think is a setback, or a tragedy, look at it from
another perspective, and always look at it to see how you can benefit from it.
#7 Be open-minded.
In my opinion one of the saddest things in the world is a closed-minded person.
Someone who thinks they're always right, they think they know everything, anyone who disagrees
with them has to be wrong, and they're unwilling to think outside the box or look at anything
in a light that doesn't fit with their existing perspective.
Being like this is sad because it really cuts you off from a LOT of potential experiences.
For example I remember awhile back I overheard this guy telling his friends about how aliens
didn't exist, and they asked him how he knew, and he was like "I KNOW.
I just KNOW."
And one of his friends was "yeah but how" and the guy just kept insisting he was right
and how it was impossible and all that.
Guess what bruh?
You DON'T know.
Unless you're some kind of all-knowing god, or you're a billion year old time traveler
whose explored the entire universe, how can you say you KNOW whether aliens exist or not?
That just makes no sense and is a ridiculously closed-minded thing to think.
It reminds me of a time when this girl I was talking to was ridiculing someone who believed
in Big Foot, she was standing there talking about how she KNEW it didn't exist, she KNEW
it, and she turned to me expecting me to agree with her, and I was just like "yeah, but ... you
DON'T know."
And she got mad.
Now personally, I think the possibility of Big Foot existing is low.
But to say I KNOW, with 100% certainty - that's just stupid.
And this is true for anything.
Have an open mind, and don't close yourself off to new things.
The reason closed-minded people are always negative is because anytime something doesn't
fit within their existing mindset, their brain automatically tries to defend its existing
beliefs, which puts them in an almost fight-or-flight-like situation and they start struggling and getting
worked up.
Not only is that an unhealthy state to be in all the time, but it also closes you off
to a lot of potential growth you could've made and experiences you could've had.
#8 Responsibility.
Take responsibility for EVERYTHING you do, and everything in your life.
This makes you feel a lot more positive, because you know you're in control.
You're not a victim, and you're not just along for the ride.
It's YOUR life and you live it how you want to live it.
For example, if you go out and get rejected by a girl - don't sit around calling her a
bitch.
Take responsibility for it.
Learn how to get her.
And then do it.
If you start a business and it fails - don't grumble about it.
Take responsibility for it.
Learn why it failed, and figure out some things you want to try differently next time.
And then do it.
Now, you can come up with an extreme example like, "but what if I'm just walking down the
street, and someone mugs me from behind and steals my wallet?
That's not my fault!"
Guess what?
You still CHOSE to be there.
You could've carried less cash on you.
Learned self defense.
Driven or taken the bus or train or cab or Uber or Lyft instead of walking.
Decided to be more aware of your surroundings.
Done your shopping online instead of walking to the store to do it.
And so on.
You chose to be doing what you were doing, knowing there was a risk, however tiny it
was.
You chose to do that.
Of course, the purpose of this isn't to assign blame and make you feel bad.
It's to liberate you, by making you realize you do have control over the things in your
life.
#9 Integrate knowledge.
Let me explain what this means.
In the previous example about responsibility, a lot of people are gonna be thinking about
ways to argue against it.
Someone is probably even getting ready to comment "yeah but, what if I spontaneously
combust, how's that my fault?!"
So ... has that happened to you?
No.
You know it's a ridiculous example, and you're just arguing for the hell of it.
Talking for the sake of talking, arguing for the sake of arguing, not actually furthering
the discussion or learning anything.
It's pointless.
A better way to approach things is, learn what you want to learn from it, assimilate
it into your existing body of knowledge, and be done with it.
If you hear someone talking, and you think one thing they say is useful but you don't
think the rest is, then just note what you want, and that's it.
Sometimes when I read books, I'll highlight parts that are helpful to me, even if they
have nothing to do with the overall point, sometimes I'll even take specific quotes completely
out of context and add them to my notes in relation to something else.
Don't constrain yourself.
Take what you want.
INTEGRATE it into what you have.
#10 Focus on one thing at a time, and do it.
This is something I love.
Don't try to do tons of different things at once.
You're working on 3 different businesses, trying to start a 4th, teaching yourself physics
and biology and advanced calculus and learning how to meditate and lift weights and play
rugby and play basketball and all this stuff simultaneously.
If you do that, it distracts you from perfecting any one thing and basically just makes you
"pretty good" at a bunch of things.
It also overwhelms you and stresses you out, which leads to a less positive mindset.
What I like to do now is focus on one, thing, give it my all, and PERFECT it.
This allows me to perfect every aspect of it, be more immersed in it and do it a lot
better, and it eliminates the possibility of being overwhelmed or losing track of things.
Now sure, if you're younger, it can be good to try out a bunch of different things so
you can see what you like.
But once you've determined that, it's a lot better to put your all into a single thing.
For example, someone who is in the chess club, the football team, the basketball team, the
rugby team, 8 advanced classes, 3 foreign languages, and also working 2 jobs - is probably
gonna end up getting beaten by the guy who's ONLY in the chess club and spends all his
time improving his chess game.
Wherever you are, pick the #1 most important thing, put your all into it, and do it.
Then once you've achieved it, you can start working on the next thing.
#11 Make a list of the things you do in your life.
Write them all down at the left.
Then organize them into 3 categories: positive, neutral, and negative.
Here's an example on the screen of what a portion of your list might look like.
• Then, figure out how to make the neutrals into positives - for example, if brushing
your teeth is neutral, you could use the time to think about an idea or a challenge you'd
like to solve, or to visualize something cool, and now brushing your teeth has become a positive
experience instead of just a random thing you do.
Or eating breakfast, instead of just sitting there, you could read some science articles
or whatever's relevant to your goals, while you eat, to use the time in a beneficial way.
• Then, figure out how to make the negatives into positives.
For example if you're in school, you can take classes you enjoy, take classes you think
will benefit your goals, listen to an audiobook about a topic relevant to your goals on the
way there, and so on.
If there's something really negative that you can't figure out how to turn into a positive,
see if you can turn it into a neutral.
And if you can't turn it into a neutral, see if you can cut it out of your life completely.
A quote I like is, "don't spend your time doing things you don't like."
Sounds simple, right?
But when you really think about it, you realize that a lot of people spend a ton of time doing
things they don't like, which is silly when you see that all, or at least almost all,
of those things could be transformed into things they do like.
It may not be immediately obvious how to turn a negative or a neutral into a positive, so
I recommend listing everything out, and thinking about it over the course of at least a couple
days.
One really good example is, when I go to the gym I take this freeway that always had a
ton of traffic, and it just wasn't an enjoyable experience.
Recently I started carpooling with a friend, so we drive up together, listen to music and
jam out, sing along to it and just have a great time.
We even have fun choosing songs to put on our "driving to the gym" playlist.
It went from being a boring and annoying experience to being one of the funnest parts of the day!
#12 Don't limit yourself.
Understand that you have no limits ... and don't act like you do.
You have none.
Imposing limits on yourself is a really negative thing to do because you tell yourself you
have to play by some predetermined rules.
You don't.
Never limit yourself.
If you're butt ass ugly and you want to date supermodels, don't sit there and limit yourself,
thinking "but I'll never be able to do it" - just figure out how to do it, and do it.
If you have limits, they're limits you put on yourself.
Nobody else put them on you.
The universe didn't put them on you, it isn't working against you.
Always pursue what you want, and don't settle.
#13 Don't let other peoples' negativity affect you.
In tip #3 I talked about being positive towards others.
It's also important to understand that not everyone knows this.
If they're being negative towards you, you should never let it affect you.
For example, a lot of people get anxious or nervous when they go out and see other people
looking at them or talking about them, or even just thinking about the potential of
other people looking at them and talking about them.
Look.
Imagine you're me: Zeus, Greek motherfuckin god, you're immortal, you can fly, you can
will stuff into existence with your mind, and now you're out somewhere and other people
are looking at you, are you gonna give a shit?
HELL NO!
And also think about this - in a thousand years, those people aren't gonna be shit to
you.
In a hundred years they aren't gonna be shit to you.
In 10 years, in 1 year, in 1 DAY, in 1 HOUR they aren't gonna be shit to you!
So who gives a flying ballsack about them?
Just DO YOU!
Here's another example.
Let's say someone hates on me in a YouTube comment.
"Fuck Based Zeus, I hate him and his YouTube, fuck him, blah blah blah."
I'm not gonna sit there and reply to it like "yo what the fuck did you say to me you little
bitch."
If someone is being negative, that's THEIR problem, not YOURS.
I like the quote "forgiven them for they know not what they do," because a lot of people
don't really think.
They just go through their lives like they're robots, not even conscious beings, going through
the motions in a really reactive way.
So don't let them bother you.
If they're hating on you, that's on them, not you, because someone who is living an
amazing life and is truly aware, is NOT gonna be trying to put you down.
The fact that they're doing it in the first place shows that they're not at that level,
so just understand that and don't expect them to act like they are.
Imagine a 5 year old, or a mentally handicapped person being a dick, it's not gonna bother
you, is it?
You just gotta understand that some people are just not there yet, if ever.
Not everyone is perfect.
If a dog, or a wolf were acting stupid, you wouldn't point at it and think "haha, what
an idiot!"
You'd just see it and recognize it and it wouldn't bother you.
So don't look at humans and assume that they're perfect and then get offended or annoyed when
they do something that isn't perfect ... because they're not, and you already know that.
The next few things are gonna be little things you can do, that don't require as much of
an explanation.
• Bonus #1.
Comedy: Watch a funny TV show in the morning, or read a funny comic strip before you go
to sleep.
Laughing is scientifically proven to make you happier.
• Bonus #2: Don't play out potential arguments in your head.
This is something I've done a lot, but I'm improving at catching myself.
It's a waste of time.
Really, proving someone else wrong is a waste of time anyway, because it doesn't help you
at all, all it does is work you up, and let's be serious it's unlikely that the other person
will actually learn from what you tell them anyway, usually when someone loses an argument
or a debate they don't actually come around to your point of view, they just get defensive
and angry.
So don't waste your time.
• Bonus #3.
Comfortable environment.
Set up a comfortable environment for yourself, at home, at your office, in your car, or wherever
you spend a lot of time.
If you go to school, you could hang a symbol that motivations you on your backpack, for
example.
At home, instead of using some dumpy old furniture, spend a little money on a nice ergonomic chair
or a desk that you really like.
It'll help create a better atmosphere, which will boost your positivity, as well as your
productivity.
• Bonus #4.
Hire an assistant.
If you can afford it, having an assistant to take care of your mundane tasks will free
you up to do the things you really want to do.
For example, using the iPod situation again, if I had an assistant I would've just had
him or her handle it.
Avoiding mundane, trivial tasks can be a good way to boost positivity because you have more
time to pursue more important things that you actually want to pursue instead of spending
a lot of time running errands.
Obviously this tip isn't gonna be affordable for most people, but if you can afford it,
it can be really beneficial.
So there you have it!
I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you start implementing these things IMMEDIATELY.
Don't put it off.
Pick one and start using it TODAY.
Once you get good at it, pick another and start using it.
Really soon, you'll be living an insanely positive life, and you'll love it!
OUTRO: Click the links on the screen to check out 2 other videos I recommend: How to Live
a Positive Life Episode 1, and How to Achieve Any Goal You Want!
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