Hi guys welcome.
for those who are here for the first time welcome.
and for those who are always coming back thank you.
and God bless you all.
As you can see from the title I am going to talk about the Dutch men.
This video was requested by some of my subscriber here and some followers on Instagram.
I will try not to generalize
What I am going to say here will be based
on my experience in the last 17 years that I live in The Netherlands
and also based a little bit on the Dutch culture
and the experience with my husband.
also from the neighbors
And also on the experience from other ladies with Dutch partner.
Before continuing with the video I want to say that every man is different
Every human being is different
Same with Dutch men, they are human being and they are not perfect.
Each one of them is different
All you need is to be lucky to find the right man.
What kind of woman most of Dutch man search for mostly?
Most of the time Dutchmen search for a a loving woman
and also a very independent woman.
They are used to Dutch women being really independent.
So they usually search for this kind of woman.
The way you look like also counts.
So you came in The Nederlands or you met a Dutchman in your country.
And you're waiting for him to start flirting with you.
Guys, Dutch people they are not great flirt.
They are this kind of people, that even when you are painted in gold,
they pass you by without looking at you
Specially on the street.
They don't really have this habits, of man on the street calling ladies.
like hey beauty, or something like that.
I don't really in it happening.
They usually find their partners, on the place where they work.
at school, or
at a friends parties,
where their friends friends. And they are introduced to them.
And most of the time a relationship starts like a friendship.
and it grows to a relationship.
It's difficult to see them asking someone to be their girlfriend.
You first be come friends, then you go out few times, and you kiss...
then before you know it you are already dating this person for months.
It often happens like this.
When a Dutchman asks you for a date.
My advice from friend to friend, right...
Try to be as simple as possible, the love simplicity.
Of course they will accept you the way you are.
But they prefer
from what I see here.... because Dutch ladies are like this
simple...
They prefer a very simple lady, that your natural beauty, or what you really are is visible.
and not with so much layers(makeup)
they like simplicity, so try to be simple.
When you are going out with a Dutchman, be prepared, have some money in the pocket.
to not be embarrassed.
take some money with you.
because some of them has this habit
of split the bill
Yes, they are a lot of Dutch people, that have this habit.
I didn't have to split the bill with my husband
On our first date, he paid everything.
But it can happen that the one you are going to date, likes to split the bill
So if you don't have money, them you will be embarrassed.
Take some money with you when you are going on date with a Dutchman
And during the date, one thing they do often is
asking very personal questions.
But I think this has to be with the Dutch culture,
they call it "interesse tonen",
interesse tonen is like,
showing that you are interested to know more about the other person
so they ask..
Even in the daily base, when you are foreign here, and you meet colleagues ate work
They ask some very personal things
In my country they would call it gossipy
And here is very normal that people ask you this kind of things
so prepare yourself for it.
Usually Dutchman are not so romantic, like in the movies
that brings flowers, or open the door for you
Or bring you very expressive gifts, perfumes or whatever
They are not really like that
It also depends on what being romantic means for you.
If you see romanticism like this, or like a Romeo and Juliet serenade
I would say, just forget it because Dutchman are not really like that.
they don't really have it...
I think.... my hubby is a little bit romantic
and I also taught him how a woman from another country see romanticism
You can talk about it.
So when in a relationship with a Dutch, try to talk about things you think they are important.
Start from the begin, don't wait in the middle or end of the relationship
otherwise you will be very disappointed .
So back to the romanticism.
Dutch romanticism
In my opinion they are romantic in their way.
like, have in a bike ride together, a walk in the nature together,
on the beach
Like watching a movie or a series together, on the couch with popcorn
and stay in the yard to see the stars in the sky.
something we do often here.
and
I think it's romantic.
Maybe I am from another planet. But I think it's romantic.
And they are not this kind of people that keep telling how much they love you.
they are more of showing the affection and the love they for you.
My advice, from friend to friend(concerning marriage).
From the start of the relationship, you making it clear what your intentions are
Why am I saying this. The Dutch culture...
Dutch society does not see marriage as an extraordinary thing
As something very important when two people love each other.
They are other ways of making a relationship legal.
and
that's most of the time enough for them.
This marriage thing, with big party etc, etc. They don't really see it like very important.
And what happens is, that often you can see people living together for
for very long and sometimes until the death separate them without getting married.
Being just boyfriend/girlfriend.
In a relationship, often Dutchman are very liberal
they let you free, they think it's very important to their partner to be free
feel well in the relationship
they expect you to be an independent woman
they expect you to be a strong woman
yes
they usually do.
and
they are not the scandalous jealous type
Of course, some are not jealous, but some are...
Like I already said every man is different
but when they are jealous, they are often not scandalous.
Like on the street, screaming or going crazy.
They usually talk about it at home.
and for
for some of us ladies from countries where we are used that jealousy needs to be showed to the world.
We find it strange
to have a man who is not jealous.
The man is not jealous, is just not jealous.
One thing I like about them is that when they love you, you become like the center (they focus on you ) of their life
They try to share every good moments with you.
and when they are sad you will be the first person they will try to find.
You know about everything.
When living together. They are kind of man that helps in everything.
the Dutch culture teaches
man, woman have the same rights and duties.
The man works, woman works
in or outside the house the man helps with house cores.
But not everyone is like this, I am trying not to generalize.
I am trying to talk from my experience.
but mostly Dutchman are like this.
The responsibility about taking care of the the house is for both.
I already said that you become their focus, this makes that they become more "homey person"
they stay more with the family(you or if you have kids with the kids.)
and
and they spend more time with the family.
They don't go out unnecessary.
They do sometimes go out.
because they give you the freedom to go out and do what you need.
They also have moments that they want to go out, but it's not that often.
They are a lot of people that says that Dutchman are timid.
I don't think they are timid, I think they are too respectful.
Too respectful to the ladies
They respect the privacy and the "space" of the lady.
And this make them look like shy.
The Dutch culture teaches from the young age, to respect other people's space.
And I think that this makes the Dutchman to be seen as shy.
But in my opinion, according to what I have seen here, they are not shy.
They can be quite, they observe
Some people say that they are boring...
like cold...
Dutch people say that they are "NUCHTER"
Is like someone who is not so quick out of the balance
Someone who knows what he is doing
someone who is focus.
so that's more or less how I can explain it.
Dutchman are often not the kind of "macho" like latinos or Africans... No.
They are more...
more...
sweet
they are more sweet
like that.
In the Dutch culture
It's normal that people only wash.
For example one or two days only wash them self.
and shower only once or twice a week.
It's normal. So if you are in love with a Dutchman or lady, be prepared for this too.
I hope you like the video.
If you are married or have a relationship with a Dutch person.
And you have something to add, you can leave your comment down bellow.
And if you leave in The Netherlands and you have another opinion, you can comment down bellow.
Feel free to comment
Lets interact down bellow.
God bless you all. Thank you for watch
Kisses! Bye, until next time...
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