Hey it's an interview day. Today we are going to talk to my good friend, Camille
Kennard who is a licensed clinical social worker. And we're going to talk
about how to create happiness in your life. How is it we can do some amazing
and sometimes unexplainable things like heal our own bodies by the power of our
thought mother's intuition the law of attraction
can we really tap into our subconscious mind can we really create our own
realities it begs the question are we novice gods okay hey welcome back to
another episode and I am super excited to introduce you to my friend Camille
today now you may have heard me talk about happiness before and I don't know
I always have these self doubts in my mind I'm working to get rid of them too
but you may have thought what can I learn from this guy he's a filmmaker you
know he's not accredited he didn't go to college for this and and so you may have
thought you know his happiness is a skill thing I don't know I'll take it
with a grain of salt but today I have a professional licensed clinical social
worker and probably a lot of other credentials I will have Camille tell you
a little bit about that but we're gonna talk about how to create happiness in
your life I love this topic of happiness because it's something that I feel like
gives a lot of freedom to a lot of people I work with who come to me and
they say you know I just I feel so miserable about my life I feel like
everything's against me and we talked about how creating happiness is actually
a choice and that we all have maybe a little bit of a happiness set point
right biology from our parents of you know what happiness we've been given
right as kids you know there's those people that are just naturally really
happy but that we actually have power to create something different so we have
the power to create the life that we want through what we focus on a lot of
what I talk to my clients about is what you focus on growth so to build
happiness if we focus on what going well gratitude the things that we
love that's what grows more in our lives so it's something that I believe
passionately in and I've actually seen a lot of clients be able to change their
lives and their whole beliefs about themselves just by recognizing that they
can create happiness through daily it's a skill right just like if you want to
build a muscle you've got to work it out every day I tell them this is mental
fitness so we're doing things like every day you're doing your writing down three
good things that happened or you're writing a gratitude letter things like
that maybe some of you have a practice that you put into place that really
helps boost your mood and your happiness but I love helping clients see that when
they are intentional about it when they put effort into it they can see results
they can feel happier they feel more well-being in their lives and I think
that's really exciting so tell me a little bit about like you said what you
focus on grows and that's a huge part of this documentary series is that I've
been amazed I think that we have more creative power within us and I kind of
found this out the back way by the things that I've created have not been
the things that I want to in my life and so now I'm wanting to be more deliberate
about what I create so you talked about creating happiness in life in your life
and what you focus on grows can you kind of explain a little bit more about that
yeah so maybe a lot of you have heard about our neural pathways in our brain
so we have these neural pathways that as we believe something and we focus on
that belief it becomes a superhighway that we go to so maybe when I was a
child I got in trouble and I had the belief of I'm bad and so then every time
I either get in trouble maybe I got pulled over or something
I have that belief if I'm bad you got pulled over as a child no I'm saying as
you get older oh something happens so it might happen when you're a child that
you create so you create a belief a reason to believe what you're believing
and then the more that you continue to stack on that belief
oh yep this proves this this proves this and you're coming up with evidence in
your brain this is they're searching for that evidence
right because you want to be right yeah even though it's negative right yeah you
know you're trying to prove this bad stuff in your life and you focus on it
and you you find that supporting evidence and you just spiral down yeah a
lot of my clients this is really alarming to them or surprising to them
when they realize I actually created this belief and maybe they didn't
recognize it was there but also that we can create new neural pathways so if
your brains been going to this pathway of I'm not good enough or I'm not smart
we can change it to something like I'm doing the best I can
I'm smart I'm learning I'm growing and when you tell yourself those kinds of
things you feel an uplift you feel better and the more you tell yourself
that again if you're stacking up negative or you're stacking up positive
that's what you create in your life so people that are positive thinkers or
people that are positive in their lives it's because that's what they're growing
that's what they're you know the seed and that's what they're feeding that's
what they're you know I think of it like a plant they're feeding the seed of I'm
good enough I'm smart I'm talented I can do this
and the more they stack that up the more that grows in their life and it becomes
who they are so the belief they have it is a belief now is that is that just
playing on rose-colored glasses if you're telling yourself positive stuff
or is is that constructive what do you think so I know a lot of people and I
have clients who say I don't believe that so like I do affirmations with them
like I am fit or I am smart or I am and they say I don't I don't really believe
those and I say to them well let's let's look at this what if you say something
like I am becoming more whatever did you want to become more I like that and
you're kind of putting that out there and yes it is looking at the world
through positive right it's favoring what's going well I love that savoring
you know Martin Seligman who's the father of positive psychology said you
know if we can save our things that are good like that piece of chocolate you
want to just keep whole
I say those my clients about good things like maybe the weather is really amazing
what do you love about the colors of the trees and the wind and the breeze and
the just everything that you can imagine about this one specific thing that you
love because it's really easy our brains have a negativity bias too to saver
negative right and so if we can take positive and savor all the good that
that creates more of that good in our lives and and I have my clients to as an
experiment I say you know just try it try it for a week every day whatever it
is that they're working on maybe it's the three positive things writing a
letter of gratitude or just every day no get noticing things that they love with
their five senses but I have them worked out on that every day for a week and I
have them come back to me and say what did you notice in doing this and a lot
of times they'll say wow my mood was better you know I noticed that I enjoyed
my life a little bit more yeah so it's really cool to see them make these
changes and are you saying that they can they can recognize a difference in a
week mm-hmm yeah yeah all right and now if you have not tried this stuff yet
well actually why don't you give them an exercise that they can do for the next
week to try out and see if you can actually create happiness in your life
if instead of you know what what normally we do is we wait for some
fortunate thing to happen and that will make us happy and you know it lasts for
maybe two minutes and then we go back to our regular lives but instead of waiting
for something outside of you to change and magically make you happy
Camille's going to tell us something that you can do this next week to
actually deliberately create happiness in your life so pay attention and write
it down and then do this for the next month next week this is what I love is
is actually writing something down every day that you've noticed and the reason I
have my clients do something every day that they notice that they liked about
the day that was a good thing right whether it's the weather was good or I I
got a promotion work or I was someone smiled at me is it
is creating that pathway in their brain to notice good right so they're noticing
more of what's going wrong what's going right so I'm giving you guys a little
challenge to at the end of your day right as part of your maybe after you
brush your teeth getting out your little journal a little notebook and writing
down three good things that happened what things happen that you like it
could be very simple and just write down what happened and how you felt when that
happened and you were really savoring mmm that felt so good when I walked out
in the leaves and it was beautiful or when I that person left me in line at
the grocery store that was so kind of them I really loved that so you're
really just focusing on that so try that for a week and you guys can send me a
message and let me know how it went or you know tell Scott because I think
you'll see your brain starting to notice a little bit more of what's going well
yeah the thing that changed me was a simple act of kindness by some guy like
I have been trying this exercise for a while and anyway I it was a guy that
pulled over in the canyon I was driving through this little Canyon and it only
had you know one way one you know one lane each way and I remember I got
behind somebody that was slowing me down and I remember getting behind this guy
and just about getting to the point of losing my cool and suddenly he pulled
off and I went past him because I had an opportunity and then I saw him pull
right back on and I realized that he did that deliberately for me and one of the
things about gratitude is gratitude is recognizing you are the recipient of
deliberate kindness that was the one thing that changed things for me when I
realized oh my goodness I actually can create my own happiness so as you go
through this next week as you try Camille's exercise there I want you to
to pay attention those little things and it's the little things that matter I
love that and just noticing it because it's really about what we noticed that
grow more in our lives so have fun with it
yeah and real quick how can they get in touch with you Camille if they listen to
you and they go oh my goodness she's accredited she knows her stuff I
want to know more um I have it my own website it's called flourish wellness
consulting so again I believe in growing positive in our lives flourish wellness
consulting com and they can also find me on Facebook at
Camille with flourish wellness consulting I'm also on all the social
media so flourish wellness consulting and I have a podcast wellness wisdom you
can look that up if you want to learn different things about how to be well
mentally physically and emotionally so you can find me that way very cool all
right we'll catch you for another episode make sure you subscribe
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