Hey we're gonna interview my good friend Camille Kennard who is a licensed
clinical social worker. We're going to talk about how to uncover limiting
beliefs. How is it we can do some amazing and sometimes unexplainable things like
heal our own bodies by the power of our thought mother's intuition the law of
attraction can we really tap into our subconscious
mind can we really create our own realities it begs the question are we
novice gods
okay we have a repeat show here we have Camille Kennard if you caught her in the
last episode you got to learn about how to create happiness in your life now we
are going to talk about how to uncover limiting beliefs I love this because to
me it's all about belief what you believe matters what you believe
actually manifests and expands in your life and so I want you to really pay
attention to these beliefs that you had inside that you haven't really checked
for a while and there could be some beliefs that are limiting you so Camille
tell us a little bit about what limiting beliefs are and then how you how you
uncover what those are so I love that you're talking about this
because I think for a lot of us we create beliefs that hold us back from
our potential and we may not even know they're there it's kind of sometimes a
subconscious thing that people have created I'm not good enough or I can't
do that or I'm not smart and it may have even created them when they were younger
as a child and so being able to uncover those beliefs and recognize they're
there one of the first things that I do with my clients is I have them notice
when they are emotionally triggered in a negative way right so when they're angry
or sad or scared because those usually tell us a little bit of something about
what we believe so I have them kind of look at those times that they feel like
oh I feel angry every time someone tells me you know gives me advice or tells me
you know gives me an instruction I you know feel that and you probably seen
people where they maybe have a reaction to something and so if they have a
reaction like that for instance we look at huh well what could it be
that you're believing about yourself in that incident are you believing I'm not
smart enough what other people are smarter than me or I'm not good enough
what what is it that you could be telling yourself and a lot of times for
people they don't even know that they've been telling themselves something for so
long I actually went through this in my own life I had been telling myself when
I was a teenager that my body was not okay
the way it was and there's probably a lot of teenagers out there who have told
themselves something like this and I would compare myself and say I'm not as
good as other people I'm not worthy of love so these were some beliefs that I
had and I didn't really know how I could uncover those until I noticed that every
time I was with other people that I felt like we're shining at that moment I felt
less than and so I looked at that and I said what is it that I'm believing
that's the reason I'm feeling sad right now or that I'm feeling not good enough
because usually it's about us it's not about them we want to put it on the
other person and say it's it's their fault that I feel this way but that's
our defense mechanism so if we can look inside ourselves and say and not in a
shameful way but in a huh I'm just wondering what is that I'm believing
about myself right now that's causing this emotional reaction that I'm having
right now so that's a lot of what I do with my clients is help them look at
those beliefs uncover them and then when we know what the belief is we know how
to change it right but we need to first know what is that that you're believing
about yourself that is causing this distress this angst this discomfort in
your life okay now you are talking about kind of a do-it-yourself approach which
is really hard I think yeah to to to spot your own weaknesses I think is
really hard what is something that people can do that will help them help
them do this faster so I mean I'm a coach and a clinical social worker so I
feel like getting some support from someone else and it's a person that
cares about you and it could be a good friend but I would say a lot of times
it's someone who sees the good in you but also can give you some feedback on
oh did you notice that you get really upset when this happens and that may not
it may not be the best it come from your spouse or someone like that but maybe
coming from someone like a coach or someone that can kind of see outside of
the picture you know that's why I do a lot of times with my clients I just say
for instance huh huh I wonder what it is that you're believing in that and then
they told me oh I think I'm believing this about myself okay would you like to
continue believing that how does it feel to believe that belief is a choice very
important yeah and and it's a kind of an eye opener for people because they have
felt like a victim to their beliefs and their thoughts and they thought that
they're really real you know I have a client right now who said that she has
always felt like she hurt she's not okay because of her weight mmm it's not ok to
be the way she is and she has stacked up a belief on that that it's not okay to
be this way and that people treat her judge her because of that
mm-hmm and I said is that a true is that true or is that a belief and and we
started talking about it's a belief system that I'm not good enough because
of this situation about myself or that being how I am is not okay so it's
really exciting when people can start to see okay I have these things I've been
telling myself and what if I can stop believing what I think you know I have
this little sticker on my car that says don't believe everything you think
because if we do believe that everything we think then that causes a distress and
sometimes what we're thinking is what we call in psychology like a thinking error
or an irrational belief and so when people can recognize oh this is a belief
that I have that has been limiting me and holding me back you know I'm not
confident because I believe that how I am is not okay if I can let go of that
and I can say I'm beautiful the way I am I'm smart
it builds your confidence it builds your ability to do things I mean probably
both you and I as entrepreneurs there's beliefs what we still are working with
in being a friend of other people and what that's like you know so the camera
so if you can look at getting a coach or someone who can kind of help you see
this and the biggest thing I said my clients even with our first meeting is
just notice notice throughout your week when you get frustrated when that person
cuts in line when your spouse says something to
when your kids do something just notice your emotional reaction mm when you're
fearful when you're sad whatever that might be because there's an underlying
reason and a belief that you have that's creating that and some of our beliefs
are very scary they're very fearful right and if we can say oh that's just a
belief I can it's almost like I can take that out and not believe that anymore
I can believe something different it gives us a lot of freedom right and
empowerment but we can choose something different so I love helping my clients
do that yeah I remember I was on a coaching call where I was being coached
I had a coach helping me and she said huh Scott you have a problem with
selfishness and I said no I don't and I was so defensive the video I like you
know I hate it I hate selfishness it's the worst thing ever and she said yeah
that shows you have a problem you have a belief system about selfishness and
because she was an outsider looking in at my life who cared about me who you
know respected me she was able to see some of my belief systems that were
completely blind to me so getting a coach listening to listening to a friend
who is willing willing to tell you you know just like it is being very straight
with you it's really helpful to be able to see you know those blind spots and
then once you get those once you kind of figure out where your belief system is
maybe not as helpful or as constructive as you want you can kind of track back
to where that started and for me I had this belief story that started when I
was like 7 years old and it was amazing to figure out how that had started and
how I had repeated that story over and over and over again through the years so
you know getting a coach is just an awesome way to really really move
forward and I kind of removed some of those limiting beliefs yeah it really
opens things up and it kind of lets go of some of those barriers you've had you
know sometimes people will come in because I'm
therapist Anna coach so I do counseling as well as coaching and they'll say oh I
feel bad that I'm here in this seat because I have all these problems and I
say actually the people are in this seat are the ones who are able to look at
their lives and have insight and start making changes to feel better to
emotionally mentally feel better so you know getting that coach or that person
that can help guide you along I kind of think of it as their their companioning
you you know they're really helping you become your best self it's really
exciting I know it coaching has been a great thing for me to help me with some
things that have been limitations for me and and then when you know that these
aren't limitations anymore it's like ah I can do whatever I want I can start
that business I can you know have that relationship that I want to have
whatever it is that you guys are desiring you can have it and I think
that's really exciting okay to have one more question for you cuz I can't let
her go because she has such great insight for us but you talked about
recognize your emotions and and to pay attention to those I personally believe
that our motion our emotions are the keys to helping us to where we really
have our power our great power and and you know as we as we recognize these
emotions what do we do with them how can we use our emotions and do we have
control over our emotions do we want to suppress them do we want to have them
you know flourish what what are your thoughts on emotions because it sounds
like that's a big part of your practice yeah so we we do have some say in our
emotions but this is what I tell my clients and I've worked with children
and adults and I say everybody has emotions right we all have anger we all
have sadness we all have fear it's part of being human and it's okay right but
emotions are information so if I feel angry when I'm in in a line at the
grocery store and it's taking too long it's an information about me right if I
am fearful when I go to public speak in front of other people it's it's
information so I think it's really helping you guys to see that when you
have these emotions come up they're not bad it's what we do with the emotion so
it's what I do with my anger if I let my anger out in road rage probably not the
healthiest way to handle it but if I express my anger and say you know I'm
really frustrated and I'm upset about that that's okay to express what's going
on with you and a lot of times what I tell my
clients is think emotions are like the waves in the ocean right
sometimes they're big and then they go back down so our emotions are not facts
they come and they go and we may feel really angry or really scared at one
moment but then it goes I always feel scared before I speak in public but as
soon as I get out there and I start to connect the audience that goes away I'm
not really exciting to think of that these emotions are there for information
and it's what we do is the emotion so we're gonna have the emotion and that's
okay happiness sadness fear whatever it might be that's it the emotion is okay
it's what do we do with it afterwards that's constructive that's helpful to us
rather than being reactive we respond and we we notice it's kind of like we're
standing outside ourselves going huh I noticed I'm feeling sad or I'm feeling
angry what can I do tell myself right if there's a sadness or a grief maybe you
need some down time maybe you need a journalist maybe you need to you know
express the anger maybe it no it's a conversation there's things you can do
to work through your emotions without suppressing them or reacting does that
make sense yeah totally don't suppress them and make sure you check out the
other video that Camille and I have done that talks about how to create happiness
in your life because you really want to be able to express you want to feel life
in just the fullest fullest expression of life that you can
you want to feel all the range of emotions and so if you can learn that
you can actually turn these on and create things in your life that's just
wonderful just really creates abundance for you yeah I love that and everybody
you know we can have the wife we want to have it's what we focus on the Groves
and so focusing on what you are and who you are
and who you want to become will help you feel more happiness enjoying your life
so it doesn't mean we'll have bad days but there are times that are hard for us
but we'll be able to be more resilient and have a more joyful and like a
satisfying life sounds pretty good huh make sure you stick with this hit
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