I did better earlier in the week. Don't we all?
Hi, you guys. Hi. So, Lacie and I want to check in with each other. We challenged
ourself this week. We challenged ourself. I said it like it was one thing. We challenged
ourselves. At the beginning of this week we decided to ask the question, "how can I
be kinder to myself?" Mm-hmm. aAnd how did you do with that? Well, the first thing I
noticed, it really just made me a lot more conscious of how I'm not always
kind to myself. Yeah, me, too. Isn't it amazing that when you get behind the
everyday chatter and numbness, that there's this massive like, "F*ck you!" going on? Yeah.
And that's just so normal that you don't even notice it until you actually ask
yourself to pay attention to what you're doing. Exactly. That was one of mine,
actually. If I had to make a decision, normally, all kinds of factors come into
my decision-making, but not one of them is "what is the kindest thing that I
could do for myself?" Exactly. That's not even on the list. No. So, I did notice that
when I was faced with a decision, that was the first thing that I asked myself:
what is the kindest thing to do for myself? What kind of decision? I mean,
because I make different kinds of decisions than you every day. I mean, just
sometimes, like oh, should I just finish what I'm doing or should I stop and eat
because I'm hungry? Mm-hmm. Right. I actually had the same thing this week at
work, where I was in the middle of something, and everybody was eating lunch.
They brought in a big bunch of subs, it was really nice lunch. And I would not
let myself eat that lunch until I was finished. I was in the midst of putting
in an order. Now, I wouldn't do it differently, because I can't relax. You're
telling yourself that you can't relax. If that was your boss saying, "you can't
relax until you finish your work!" Yeah. You'd be like, "I hate working for this f*cker!" Yeah, that's
true. I did better earlier in the week. Don't we all? All the promises we
make on Monday. One of my big ones was, slowed down. Hmm. I just am in this
mindset of get more things done, like I'm being chased by death. I have
had that my entire life, driving me, cattle-prodding me. And it's
everything. It's the weirdest times. It's when we're going out to something that
doesn't really matter, even. And I have to get out the door now!
Even if I'm just doing dishes and I have nothing else to do all day, I'll be like
how fast can I do this? But, like what are you rushing for? What are you
rushing toward? Away from. I'm running away from failure.
So, there's failure right here and now, at all times? If I can do things faster maybe
I'll have a better chance of succeeding. At least, I'll get more things done. At least, I'll
be efficient. What are you looking to succeed at? Honey, I
don't know. This is why I wanted to do this. I have the same thing. I
mean, I'm asking you because I'm genuinely, I'm hoping you have the answer,
because I have the exact same sensation of like, go, go, hurry up! If you can do it at a normal
pace, why shouldn't you do it at a much faster pace? And I've noticed that when I
force myself to slow down, and believe me it is forced. Uh huh, yeah. It feels like
torture at first. I feel that way when I meditate. Right before I start meditating.
Okay. I don't want it not do anything! I can't not do anything. It's inefficient. But, doesn't the fact that
you are meditating feel like you're doing something. Yes, because I know that
when we meditated in the past, it does yield actual results. If we would just
slow down and be present, when we're loading the dishwasher, or chopping
carrots, or whatever we're doing, that would be a meditation. I know. That's how
I try to double-task. I'm driving to work, but I'm also meditating. Well, that
feels like cheating because you really shouldn't be meditating while you're
driving. Your driving is bad enough. No. I'm paying keen attention . . . Okay. . . to the
road, the sounds, the sights, all of it. Okay. You're right, you're right. Something
that I noticed this week, I wanted to have ice cream. It was like 7 o'clock,
maybe it was 8 o'clock. We were watching tube, and I thought, I want some ice cream.
And then, immediately, the next thought was, you can't have it, it's sugar, you
already had sugar today. You're not having it. I was like, okay, wait a minute.
Woah. I'm sick of this f*ckin' nun running the show. I need to enjoy my life. And I got
myself some ice cream. And I realized, ice cream is one of the things I do for
myself that is kind to myself. I did not know that you ever
denied yourself ice cream. I don't usually give myself a trip about it, but
because I had had sugar earlier in the day . . . If you have to have two sweets in a day
when, you know, North Korea's testing bombs in the Pacific, you know, have
some ice cream. Exactly. This one I actually wrote down
three times and forgot each time that I had written it already. Yeah? To allow myself to feel
my feelings and not try to fix them. Hmm. If I start to feel like I might be
getting depressed . . . Yeah? I start to panic. I don't want this, what can I do? I can't
feel this. I can't have this feeling. And then that panic starts making me more
depressed. So, I noticed that if I just say, okay, I have this emotion. I just let
myself feel it. I just acknowledge that that's what's happening and
be with it. Yes. And just by doing that, I start to feel better. I actually have
something similar where I was, for a while, talking to myself in a scary tone,
by choice. Oh, no. Because I have had some confusion, I think due to hormonal shifts
recently, and it makes me sometimes stare off into space. But, if something goes, "pay
attention, now! Do this! Look at it, now! Press some key on your computer, now!" That
shocks me into being able to focus. Just to do a little bit personality inventory,
we've got a nun, we've got a drill sergeant? Mean nun. A mean nun? It's all one mean nun. And I
noticed this week, that even though it was getting me back on track,
I could feel it going through my body. And I thought, I don't think I would do
that anymore. I could also ask myself nicely. So, this is the system that brings
you back into consciousness. Yeah. You've got a mean nun. Yeah. Or a nice nun. Or a
nice nun. It's gotta be a nun no matter what. Yes, it's always a nun. I am secretly a nun. You
wouldn't even know that from all the raunchy ass videos and everything
that we do, but I am so like a nun at base, right? You probably were a nun in a
previous life. Something else that I experienced this week, I bought myself
some new underwear this week. Oh, I saw your new undies. What a nice thing to do. So kind. I
love them. You inspired me because you got me a few for the holidays. You got me
some Victoria's Secrets. I was finally like the Hanes Her Way
that I've been wearing, they're terrible. They're tattered within a f*cken month.
And I'm wearing these underwear with these like gaping . . . They tatter.
It like, separates from the waistband. Yeah. And I was like, well, see I
don't have a mean nun, I have like a cheap accountant. Those underwear are
fine. They just . . . why does he talk like that? I don't know. Larry! They're very tattered, but
they're fine. They're still covering all the important parts. Don't worry. Right.
Don't waste the money. It's like you're saying to yourself, you don't need
decent underwear, it's just you. Exactly. So, I finally did the kind thing and bought
myself some brand new undies. I also learned this week that I need to
mentally prepare before going to Costco. Pfft. Had you asked me, I could have told you that. I did sort of like
try to get everything lined up, try to go when I didn't think it would be too
crowded. Good planning. But then, as I started getting into the store, I started
hearing that voice come in, like "move!" I'm seeing backs of people, I'm seeing slow
moving people. I have things, I want to get in there and I want to get
out of there, and I know exactly where I'm going.
I'm not moseying along. You have to learn to weave and bob at Costco. When I was
going to Costco for us all the time, I would get in the front door, and the
minute I got in there and showed my card, I would start a pace. I would start
almost a jog. If you jog and you and you create a pace to tell everybody, if there's a
question about who's going next down this aisle, it's me, because I'm moving. I
do do that. Okay. Nonetheless, I was still having
those thoughts. So, I had to get myself in a good mindset. And a lovely lady
actually helped me. I was loading the cat litter into the cart and I had a second
thought were I was gonna put it in the bottom, but I realized I better put it up
top, cuz if it goes in there, I'll never get it out. Mm hm. And this lovely woman saw that, and
she was like, I put all my heavy items in the top, too. And we had a little bit of a
moment. How nice! And then I made a few more interactions. I interacted with
people at Costco. Wow! You really tricked it out.
That's amazing. I did. I did because I turned it around and made the choice to
be kind to myself and look what happened. I noticed that, too. When I am kinder to
myself, I'm kinder to everybody else. Yes. I would just say, like, overall, the most
important thing about this week for me was that it made me conscious of the way
that I treat myself. It did the same for me,
except by the end of the week, I kind of went unconscious again. But, I think we
learned a lot about the mean nun. Yeah, the mean nun. I don't need a mean
nun. You don't need it. I can't have a mean nun anymore because I'm tired. Okay,
well that's another video. We'll talk about how to deal with the mean nun
maybe. You better watch that video! What do you think? Are you kind to yourselves?
Who is your inner mean disciplinarian? Leave us your comments about that. If
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