It's always a strange feeling when Arsenal and Spurs draw each other in one of the cup competitions
On one hand there is the excitement of having another north London derby to look forward to, but then there is also the associated nausea that comes with having to endure another game against your rivals from down the Seven Sisters
Wednesday night's Carabao Cup quarter-final draw means that Unai Emery and Mauricio Pochettino will square off two times in under three weeks next weeks next month, with both games taking place at the Emirates
The league game on December 2 will see both sides undoubtedly field a full strength XI, but things could be very different for the cup game, which will be staged in the week starting December 17th
Arsenal and Spurs meeting in a cup clash is nothing new, we've seen it happen plenty of times in the past decade
There have been two semi-final meetings in the League Cup, with Arsenal winning the first and Spurs the second
Then there was the FA Cup third round tie at the Emirates which went the way of the Gunners and the League Cup game in 2010 when Sami Nasri led Tottenham a merry dance as Arsene Wenger's side thumped their rivals 4-1 at White Hart Lane
The most recent cup meeting came in 2015 when Arsenal were again celebrating at their home of their neighbours thanks to an unlikely hero in Mathieu Flamini, who scored both goals in a 2-1 success, with the second a volley in front of the away fans that will long live in the memory
"The two goals were for them, said Flamini afterwards, as he dedicated his matching winning double to the fans
"They've always supported me, they've all been behind me and they've played a big role in my career
"It was important for me to celebrate with them and nobody else." The team that Wenger fielded that night at White Hart Lane was an interesting one
Just as it will be next month, the build up to the game was dominated by what sort of side the Frenchman would pick
Would he continue to give his star names a rest or would he bring them back because of who Arsenal were facing and what the match meant to the fans? Ultimately, Wenger stuck to what he had been doing in the competition, he again gave his fringe players a chance - although he did sprinkle in some regular first team starters while also packing the bench with firepower
Flamini was joined by the likes of Mathieu Debuchy, Calum Chambers, Joel Campbell and Alex Oxlade-Chamberlain in the starting XI
With Olivier Giroud and Per Mertesacker also starting and Alexis Sanchez, Mesut Ozil, Nacho Monreal and Theo Walcott on the bench
Sanchez was introduced midway through the second half soon after Spurs had cancelled out Flamini's opener, while Walcott came on in the final minute to help wind down the clock and see the game out
So Wenger stuck to his guns somewhat, despite the stature of the game and opponents, and looking ahead to December's quarter-final, Emery will more than likely follow suit
He was forced to field a couple of makeshift options against Blackpool on Tuesday night because of injury issues, with Carl Jenkinson filling in at left-back and Julio Pleguezuelo making his senior debut alongside Shkodran Mustafi in the heart of defence
But with both Nacho Monreal and Sead Kolasinac expected to be fit well before the quarter-final, Emery will be have far more strength on offer to him at left-back against Spurs and Laurent Koscielny could even be back to offer another option at centre-back
The strength of Arsenal's squad now means whatever changes Emery makes, it will still be a strong side that he selects and we've seen so far this season, both in the Carabao Cup and the Europa League, that he will have a strong bench capable of coming on and changing the game
Stephan Lichtsteiner, who scored against Blackpool, is a staple of the cup side while one of the either Sokratis or Mustafi have been called upon in every game so far and that will no doubt continue against Spurs
Matteo Guendouzi and Emile Smith Rowe appear certainties to start, should they be fit, and it could be that Lucas Torreira might get the nod to add a bit of steal and strength to the midfield
Alexandre Lacazette scored against Brentford in the third round and Pierre-Emerick Aubamenyang was introduced in the second half against Blackpool so the signs are that at least one of the club's star strikers will be involved against Spurs, as will the likes of Danny Welbeck and Henrik Mkhitaryan in what will be a strong frontline
So although there will be a clamour for Emery to go all out just because it is Tottenham, it has to be taken into account that the game comes right at the start of the hugely demanding festive schedule
Emery has used just the right level of balance between the cup competitions and the Premier League so far this season
He has changed things round to keep things fresh, but it hasn't been wholesale changes and there is no reason to really divert too drastically from that tactic next month just because Tottenham are the opponents - as Wenger proved in 2015
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hello hello my friends so today's episode is going to be very very special
episode when I say near and dear to my heart
I think that's an understatement I did a facebook live about a recent fight that
I had with my wife Fanny and to say that it's gotten some of the best comments
and feedback of anything I've ever put together has is is an understatement it
was something that I thought would come out as a 10-15 minute share about what
not to do if you want your relationships to succeed and in doing so I think I
poured my heart out for about 40 minutes so what you're about to hear is a very
personal and raw story I think it's very important to share stuff like this just
because I've been doing personal development work for 16 plus years does
not alleviate me or you know restrict me from having fights with my family this
case my wife having things that I have to deal with hopefully in this year you
will basically get to see there's five things that I came to as I went through
this process that I believe if you took on and put into effect into your life
into your relationships whether it's with your intimate lover or partners at
work or even your kids you will have massive massive improvement in your
relationships so without further ado I'm gonna let this audio here play of
everything that I gathered and the process that I went through after
probably one of the biggest fights I've ever had with my wife if after hearing
this it resonates with you please please please reach out to me ilan at Satoriprime.com
or you can find me at facebook at Elan Ferdinand personal message me I
would love to hear what you took away from this I hope you have an amazing day
enjoy all right so let me jump here because I experienced something
last week that still you know I've been processing that was just been kind of
figuring out how to how to share this and this might be a little bit longer of
a Facebook live but I thought it was really really important by the way let
me know if you guys can hear me okay I thought this was really important to
share because I think what I experienced is something that most couples would
actually probably lead to divorce or or I don't know maybe even worse I'll kind
of walk you through the story and then I'll actually walk you through what I
learned from it and and really how I'm really really hoping that you hear this
and implement this in your life immediately so if you don't have to deal
with with what I just went through so yong-ki pool happened and for those that
don't know is a Jewish holiday one of the High Holy Days last week and it's
you know I'm not religious I don't personally do well with organized
religion which I'll talk about a little bit later as to why hey Niki major but
really you know this is something that's really important to my wife Fanny and I
love my wife and I adore my wife and she wants to give our kids an experience of
religion and while I don't have that view
you know I for me it's more about the traditions and the family and
get-togethers I I can see where she's coming from I appreciate it and so while
this has been a struggle an ongoing struggle in our relationship there's
very few things that we disagree with at that kind of level this is definitely
one of them and I'm clear before I get into any of the other stuff I'm clear
that this is something that I get to work on obviously I marry my wife which
the irony of the whole thing is that her entire side of the family are Orthodox
Jews her brother's a rabbi so like who does Ilan pick to get married
you know lessons are everywhere right so we actually are starting to plan to go
to synagogue and I really and I and I want to say this I really went in with
the absolute best of intentions like I know well I don't enjoy it there and I
still I was like look it's an hour hour and a half I'm gonna be there with the
family I could just do what I do right and just it'll be over really soon hey
what's up Tori hey Bev Annette so I'm getting ready and I'm gonna walk you
through all of these pieces so you really start to get and I'll kind of tie
the thread of what I've been unraveling for myself throughout this entire
process so I'm getting ready to go to synagogue and it's hot outside and we're
gonna walk for a bit so I was like I don't want to wear a suit and so I don't
wear a suit I just wear pants and a button-down and the tie and my wife is
like why don't you wear a suit everyone's gonna be wearing a suit and
I'm like well I don't want to wear a suit so you know it already kind of
starts like a little bit of attention and she knows she knows that I have
resistance towards going so I think in her world there was also this story of
like Oh Ilan's doing his elan thing again and I really I I was going in with
the best of intentions right before we leave and this this becomes important in
a little bit right before we leave we had about like three minutes four
minutes before we leave and the kids are like can we get some screen time and we
said no we're leaving in 3-4 minutes and when I walk downstairs after getting
ready my son is in the kitchen watching TV and I'm like Shia we told you no
screen time please turn off the TV and he's like how about what's the big deal
there's three minutes you know I'm like Shia we had this conversation and I told
you and it's no big deal no big deal so at this point I'm like give me the
controller and he's trying to hold it for me but a lot of side to reach in
there I grabbed it from him and I turn it off and he kind of storms off
obviously like a little bit angry which is is okay and we were about to leave
and no one can find child Shai is nowhere to be found so eventually my
wife finds him like I'm already in the car getting ready to go my wife finds
him in the dining room with his head literally in the corner of the wall
crying I realize it was like that in you know
impactful what what he had experience but that's what he was doing so she
comes down she's fuming like I did something I ruin this now I mean
whatever and so I say in all seriousness kind of maybe to try to get out of the
synagogue but not really to get head of synagogue she's like you need to fix
this I was like well do you want me to stay home and just have a conversation
with him and she flips because again this is like Elon not wanting to go hora
wanting to be with the whole family etc so eventually as I go to walk upstairs
to figure out what he wants to do he ends up coming down the stairs so we go
but he's not talking to me he's super angry he's not talking to my wife he's
not talking to me we all get in the car we start driving and he's walking now
we're like getting out of the car we parked and we're walking to shul which
is a little bit of a way and he's walking super slow which I have to tell
you in all honesty part of me was like brother walk as slow as you want cuz the
last place I'm fond of you right now is inside that synagogue I was like you
take your time little man and I can see my wife like fuming as this is happening
but I'm just walking to you through everything that that that was occurring
for me so eventually we get inside I was like do you want to put a Tallis on
which is this no no it's like a piece of fabric that some men wear and shul and
I'm like no I don't want to wear it on so this was like checking up checkmark
number you know three four in her Ilana doesn't want to be here Ilana fuck
you too all of this etc so we go to sit in and Shai doesn't want to come in
so he's against the wall again head kind of against the wall outside the
synagogue I go in I'm like whatever he's got to do his thing he's got to relax
I'm gonna be in here and I sit in there and services are about to start and
rabbis saying a few things and having people introduce themselves to each
other hey drew Dina hey Miguel hey Cynthia and I'm sitting there and I've
been doing a lot I don't you know for some of you guys follow me more than
others I've been doing a lot of work energist acquis so like understanding
what is happening in my sister I'm really getting in tune hey what's up
mark really getting in tune with with what I can feel in the body as
sensations so that and this going to come into play a little bit later so
that as I'm feeling it before that's the first way that the your system
communicates is through the body through different mechanisms through different
tightenings or shrinking or pain or pokes or prods that's the first clue
that something's happening that then in essence turns into some sort of feeling
or emotion and you you label that and then that creates the thought and then
that thought actually creates the action so if you can capture things while this
is happening and this is something we work with our clients quite a lot and
I'm working with myself quite a lot you can get to things much quicker and I'm
gonna point to that here a little bit later because I actually did a lot of
work around this so I'm sitting there and this whole thing starts and I can
start to feel and and tune in and let me know if this has been your experience
ever where you I could start to feel this thing in the pit of my stomach and
it just starts rising and rising and rising it's almost like a volcano is in
my system and I could feel it just building and building and building and
I'm like it gets to the province's by this by the way this is all happening in
five minutes of me being in synagogue okay so it started with like hey turn to
this person say hi turn to that person tell them this tell them that tell
someone what you know something that that you worked on you're proud of this
year like simple stop right and I'm just feeling all this stuff build and build a
build and then it's like you know we're reading from this page and I'm like fuck
that I'm not picking up that that book I'm not reading from that so I put it
down and then it's like okay stand up and turn this way and Bend and and then
sit down and then you know this sides gonna sing this and this side's gonna
sing that and I am just starting to feel everything just rise and rise and rise
and rise to the point that at some point my daughter's sitting on me and we're
all supposed to stand like all the adults everyone
Sam my wife looks at me she's like are you gonna stand and I'm like I can't
alia sitting on me which in hindsight you know you realize like but at the
time I was like and all this stuff is just building and building and building
to the point where the only way I can describe this to you it was like rage
absolute rage and I don't know how many of you guys seen that Dave Chappelle
show but it's like Elance got a choke a bitch like that's where it was like so
oh you know and I was like I have to get out of this room because I'm gonna choke
somebody now meanwhile nothing serious is happening and I and this is really
important to just for you to hopefully understand it's like they're just
sensations in the body but the reality like the stuff that's happening in the
room is not that crazy but in my system the system's going fuckin haywire so I
was like I got to get out of this room I got to get out of this room so I get out
of the room and just as I get out of the room my son is actually this was at his
pre-k so the two teachers that they used to teach him were there in the hallway
trying to figure out what's wrong with Shia so I walk over I start having a
conversation with them should I still not talking to me and in that moment as
I'm talking to the teachers he kind of like jumps on my back but like in a
loving you know cute way and I turn around and I'm like looking at him he's
like and he's just this cute you know like he was like - meanwhile he's seven
he looks and then goes up up you know like what they do and they're like
really really tiny and so I pick him up and he gives me this huge hug and I'm
like are you okay he's like yeah I'm like what happened he's like I'm not
sure I don't know why I reacted that way and I was like do you want to go outside
and talk he's like yeah so we go outside and talk and meanwhile it's like a
gorgeous day so we have this amazing conversation which I my gonna get into
all the details we like really flush out what was happening et cetera and I'm
sitting outside with my saw and having this super loving amazing moment it's
sunny it's beautiful and I'm checking in with my system and my system is so
relaxed and so at ease and it's just like wow you know like
that's the release that's the feeling I was looking for and then when I'm like
thinking I'm like do I want to go back into that that room everything inside of
me is like fuck no I do not want to experience what I just experienced all
that rage and all that boiling and all that stuff happened I don't want to do
that again so I was like I'd rather stay out here so we end up staying outside
for about an hour and my wife and daughter eventually come out and as she
comes out and sees me because she didn't know where we were
but as she comes out to see me have you ever had someone look at you where it
looks like fire laser beams are coming out of their eyes like they are going to
murder you but they haven't said a word it was like that and I was like oh I
done fucked up like this is not this is not going to be good like whatever just
happened this is not going to be good so we start kind of like talking on the way
and I can feel she is really angry and she's so angry and we kind of know like
we have this practice where we're so angry we actually choose not to
communicate with each other in that moment because we both realized that
what is going to come out of our mouth is not going to be good for us or the
relationship and so it's just we don't do that okay so we kind of start getting
into it but we realize like this is not going anywhere
and so we we come home she goes outside to sit in the Sun I go and meditate we
don't really talk about it for a while and then she kind of like starts to
share with me how upset she was and she wants this for our kids and how I chose
to go out and how I was doing all these things throughout the day to basically
not go to synagogue and it's always just like big fuck you and blah blah blah and
we didn't really take it much farther we had dinner with the family etc the
morning after I'm driving her to the bus and she starts off the conversation at
first very calmly hey so I just want to kind of like finish up what we were
doing before we get into it and as she's saying this
more and more anger and frustration and all that stuff builds up and for me
there's this you know like when someone's telling you all the ways that
you wrung them or fucked up it's very difficult to be like yes thank you thank
you for like there's a part of you that gets really really defensive and really
really like wanting to justify and-and-and make your point and all that
stuff right and so I'm literally in the car and she's sitting next to me and it
feels for 10 minutes she's just railing into me all the ways
that I messed yesterday up and how I you know fuck things up for for her and the
kids and how and it just starts spiraling into this whole thing about
how I'm not only insensitive it's deep it's different it's like I only look out
for myself and I'm so self-centered and and I I don't ever do things for others
and and she starts naming all these things and I'm like well and I what I
try to explain to her is here try human I love that Laurens what I try to
explain to her is that like my experience in in synagogue was torture
like like literally in my system felt like torture and I and she's like well I
do tons of things that that I don't want to do for you and she starts naming the
stuff and I'm like and then the defensive part of me comes in and it's
like well you know don't do those things for me like I'm offering you to do these
things like these are not things you have to do and whatever and I realize
like everything out of my mouth is he righteous and self-defensive and it's
not going anywhere and so she literally gets out of the car to run to her boss
midstream like mid yelling at me and and I'm sitting there after having what
Lords called the hair dryer tree man you know like and I'm so disheveled
I can't even it was just like so many things were happening in my system at
that time that I wanted to be right about that I wanted
- hold on - and all this stuff and I'm going home and I'm driving home and I'm
just between like it felt like someone's just like punching you over and over and
over in the face I was so dazed and so confused and I come home and I'm angry
and I'm angry and I'm frustrated and I want to make my point and I write out
all of it and here's the key guys this is like this is so what I'm about to
tell you this process that I went through it's so important that please
just pay attention because I'm gonna walk you through about three things that
I remember through the day that if you remember in your relationships any
relationship not intimate any relationship your life will never be the
same so the first thing I remembered the first thing I remembered is this that I
could either be right or I could be in love I could either be right about
exactly all my point of views and how I was and be defensive and have all that
mind chatter prove that I was a good guy and I was this and I was that and I
would no longer have and this is part two because I quickly remembered hey I
have a commitment in my relationship and that commitment is to experience love
connection and intimacy and when I remembered hey what am I committed to
love connection and intimacy right so that's really important always go back
to like hey what I couldn't do in this relationship and then right after that
that thought of okay well I can either have that or I can be right I can't have
both I cannot have you two things cannot
occupy the same space at the same time
I cannot have both so what am i choosing right and this like an actual choice all
this shit is still happening in my system I'm still I want to be defensive
I want to be right I want all of it and in the moment I'm like okay well do I
choose intimacy connection and love with my wife who by the way we're celebrating
10 years or am i choosing to be right about this now once you do that
something really interesting happens because you're focused where your mind
wants to take you is let me be right about this let me prove my point
let me show them why on this and they're not but as soon as you make that that
shift and you go okay what am I committed to then the focus changes and
now if my true commitment is hey love intimacy and connection then now I get
to focus on some different shit how do I get love commitment and intimacy back in
my life because my wife is fuming right now and she's on a bus and she is angry
and she's frustrated and she's mad and that brings me to point number three and
point number three is this this is so important to remember this will
alleviate so much headache and stress and frustration for you in your life if
you really just bring this into your heart everyone's point of view is 100%
accurate and valid I'm gonna say that again everyone's point of view an
experience of life is 100% accurate and valid for them you don't need to agree
with it you don't have to understand it logically because truth be told I
couldn't understand my wife's point of view logically I couldn't understand why
she would react the way she'd react because I know that if I was in that
sense just you if I was in that situation I wouldn't have reacted that
way and once I can bring myself to that place of understanding Wow
her experience is 100% valid I don't need to understand it I don't need to be
to get the logic of it I can just validate that that was her experience
now that allows you to tap into something else and what I chose to tap
into is compassion
yeah Amanda you said a right perspective is subjective right so now if I get that
her experience is a 100% valid the next thing I get to experience is what is
that perspective and I actually sat there and put myself in her shoes as all
this stuff was happening and I could feel the anger and being let down and I
could feel the frustration and I can feel all of it all the pain and hurt and
I could get that I was responsible for her having that response when you have
compassion and you could put yourself in another person's shoes not to get on the
tangent here right and I'm this is not to get political but look what's
happening in our world right now in the u.s. at least with with Brett Kavanaugh
and dr. Ford right everyone's kind of like grounded and this is my point of
view this her point of view and you know what for me I always like to put myself
in both of their point of views you know what both of their lives right now
fucking suck because there's so much hate they've been putting through the
wringer do you like everyone's like well you know he shouldn't have reacted that
way or she shouldn't react though you don't know because you're not in a
fucking position and in that position in that timeframe like that's that's their
valid experience right and so we could have compassion for that and so when I
start to see all this right and I start to get my wife's experience sorry
someone called me now what I can start to get is her world and that gives me
access to something now I can be responsible 100 percent responsible for
how her world is occurring in moment and let me tell you if your
commitment is to love intimacy and connection and you feel what I felt that
I put my wife through that is the fucking opposite of love intimacy and
connection and regardless of what I was feeling in my system at the time of
being tortured of all that other stuff where was the focus during all of that
me me me me me me what I was feeling how I was feeling
all of it huh Jay Jay heights here and he was actually he walked outside as I
was sitting outside with my son during synagogue so I started to see
this now here's here's the the part that gets a little bit uncomfortable cuz now
it's not about just recognizing that stuff now comes the action piece so most
people are very satisfied with the aha moment like now comes the actual
conversation piece the part where you go to the other person involved and you
call yourself out on all of it and you start to come from a place of 100%
responsibility not that they did anything not nothing you looked for
where did I where was I responsible for how this whole event happened and so I
went to my wife and I explained all the stuff her I literally walked her through
the same things that I'm walking through right now and we had a brilliant
conversation that lasted more than a few days and it's still lasting this is not
something that like you know I was a one-and-done conversation what's really
fascinating is when you show up to a conversation and you take 100%
responsibility you will quickly notice that the other person in charge will
also start to look for where there responsible and yes there are gonna be
parts in the conversation where they like yes you were an asshole and yes you
did this and it's not your job to feel bad in the moment because you're
obviously calling yourself out on it so when they say that to you notice she'd
be like yeah I was yes I was now after I had that conversation with her which led
to a few things that we're just getting to look at look a relation with 10 years
right so we've been together for about 11 and a half years so over that time
period people change
I'm not even talking about just the circumstances of your life change right
like we met we were 26 I'm 37 today we got two kids
I've lost built a business lost a business built another business closed
that business started another business like a lot stuff happened right we
traveled the world she's grown etc and so it's irrational
to think that you don't get your relationship and what works and what
doesn't work in fact what I found which was absolutely gorgeous in this entire
process is and this is starting to unravel like what I started seeing
myself which i think is important for you guys to hear I'll take it a step
further here in a second but you know what I feel is happening is like my
wife's flame like the light inside of her is really wanting to start to come
out more and more and like I've always been this way my energy when I'm a fuck
yes all in I'm like the most infectious person that you can be around I get
everyone psyched right now the same side of that on the opposite oh my god so
when I'm a fuck no like I don't want to do this I'm the biggest energy suck like
the people around me are so affected and everyone knows Elon does not want to
fucking do this I have like big it's not probably I was sitting in
synagogue was this big like fuck you don't talk to me sign written on my head
so the same way that that energy is like super infectious because my energy is
always out right some people they get into certain situations and they're like
overwhelmed or or in fear they like suck themselves in and disappear I'm the
exact opposite I'm like a flame in one direction or I'm a flame in the other
but that flame either lights up you on the inside or it fucking burn lose you
and I get to be responsible for that and so I've been this way for a long long
time and I've actually started to have conversations with with friends and
things like that about it of late but you know for my wife while I've always
been that way I think what's really interesting is today her light is really
starting to come through and her energy is starting to come through and when I
be that way like really really big it actually squashes her her light it
squashes her fire and for maybe the first time in a long time that doesn't
feel good for her anymore she doesn't want to experience that so that's just
something that we're looking at like well how do we kind of co-create and and
and when in those moments she feels like that I'm doing that thing to actually
say it in the moment to me versus having it build and build and build and build a
little build which creates that that huge fire and this is something that my
friend Ben actually when I shared this with him the first time had me see you
know a lot of the times when we have these blowouts we tend to look at the
blowout itself like the the incident itself and we tend to like start to try
to unravel and unpack this this one incident and he reminded me of something
really beautiful because there was two things I was really upset about the
first thing when this happened I was like why me
why us why is this happening to me and he reminded me that whether it was now
or on Thanksgiving or New Year's or next year sometime this is something that we
have to go through so going into the why me why us why now all that is irrelevant
because this is an experience that our relationship needed to have in order to
build something stronger so I was like oh wow that feels really
really good right and then the other thing which I
can't remember right now what I won't say I'll come back to so here's here's
what I really want to share with you guys about the work that I then went and
did personally I spoke to you about the body sensation right and by the way just
let me know is this is this resonating like are you guys seeing your
relationships in this can yeah just let me know if as I'm sharing this because
this is really really important stuff and I really hope that you guys are
getting value from this look this was no I'm not I'm not even kidding you this
was like the most uncomfortable I've probably ever been in my relationship
ever because I'm driving home and I'm like holy shit like this is how people
get divorced it's this like like these conversations right like where all this
shit built up oh yeah so this is the other thing that I knew it come back to
me the other thing that was really important is that it's not don't delve
and try to fix or figure out the incident realize that the incident was a
highlighter for a much much deeper thing and so for my wife there's like a much
deeper conversation there's a much deeper piece about that energy of
feeling like I'm either you know lifting her up or like burying everything around
and like when I'm a fuck know like that that impacts her and so we got to have
that conversation and that really was the conversation no it wasn't what
happened in the synagogue was like you know quote unquote the needle that broke
of the right the needle that broke the camel's back I think yeah something like
that it's but it's way way deeper than that right and that's really important
when you're having these conversations it's like don't delve on the moment
itself always look for like what is the underlying thing that's a tad that's
impacting the relationship and that was really really beautiful for us so then
after we did that stuff I went and started to do my own work
because what I'm really curious about right you guys had all mentioned that
you've had that experience at some point where where something you know come like
starts building up inside of you like a volcano and just all of a sudden there's
an eruption I got curious I'm like well what is that
what was that rage that I felt in synagogue because for me that was the
highlighter right like there's a whole piece about my relationship with Fannie
and then there's a whole piece about like what happened internally to me that
I just totally missed and what I started to unravel through through a lot of the
work that that that guy and I do is
there's this part of me that is massively attached to autonomy and I've
known this it was just a deep deeper experiential knowing of this which is
when I'm being told what to do when I feel like I don't have a say or control
that feeling starts building up inside of me and yeah so Tammy that's that's
actually I think you guys are under light but that's like actually exactly
what it is so when I started to unravel that look there's tons of experiences
that I've had that width right but that energy that I was talking about where
I'm like a fuck yes or a fuck no that fuck no part comes from where I feel
like I've lost autonomy where I feel like I don't have a say anymore and
what's really interesting is that in the moment just like I was sharing with with
you guys about Fanny like if in the moment she's feeling something by my
energy and she just says like hey Ilan you're doing that thing you're like
sucking all the life out of the room you're Beauvoir that's a good reminder
for me right like that's a great red flag and then I can actually in the
moments where I feel all this stuff happen I can be in communication and you
ever notice that like when you say something you know the example I love to
use is like you're you go on stage and you're super super nervous there
tell you like tell tell the people on Sage I'm really really nervous
and you tell people and in and so in those moments now I get this new
practice of when I feel like I don't have a say or when I feel like I don't
have like it's it's out of my control and someone's dictating and I have to do
this I can actually be honest with whatever is happening around me so it's
like Fanny and I could be like look at in the moment I feel like I don't have a
say in this etc right and in as I'm saying that you
will actually feel a release in the body no now they're practice Tammy is
autonomy ego driven that's a really good question um let me explain it this way I
think there are parts so so ego is a word that gets thrown around a lot and I
think it's kind of like difficult for people to understand so I'm gonna say it
this way there are parts of us very very young parts that are like protectors
right so that there's a part of me that wants me to feel independent that wants
me to feel like I get a say etc and so when I don't have that experience
protectors come online and protectors are like you can't make me don't fucking
touch me you can all that stuff those are protectors and they all work
beautifully like there's not there's gifts in this stuff too right so like
think of being independent and there's a key can list you like multitudes of
things why how independence has made me super
successful so we don't want to look at these things as like that's a bad part
of us this is a good part it's more just it's a part and we get to dive into the
gift of the part and then the shadow of the box as well right so for me and for
you this is really what I'm inviting you to is like to honor those moments to see
and notice as quickly as you can that whole experience that wants to rise up
and instead of having the explosion see if you can actually feel in the
moment what that is and what your system is actually asking for and if you need
any help with this like this is the kind of work that we do so you don't have
blow ups and relationships and by the way look I do this work all the time I
still had a blow over the wife and within 24 hours we went from yelling I
mean like yelling like you see in the movies yelling to having intimacy
connection and love which is what I'm committed to back in our lives and in
our relationship and I can tell you like with 100% certainty that that is exactly
the kind of stuff that people get divorced over because they'd rather be
right then have what they're truly committed to so to put a bow on this
remember here the three major things right that that help me you can write
these down do whatever you want the first is you can either be right or you
can be in love you can't have both the second remind yourself of what you are
committed to in this relationship whether it's with your children whether
it's with your spouse whether it's with your business partner what are you truly
committed in that relationship and are the actions you're taking right now
consistent with that commitment and you will surely find that you are choosing
to be right instead of honoring that commitment the third thing everyone's
point of view is 100% valid 100% valid you don't need to understand it you
don't need to believe it you don't need to anything you just get to honor that
their point of view is 100% valid and bring compassion to that viewpoint see
if you can actually put yourself in that place to feel what they're feeling not
through your brain through your heart actually feel what they are feeling and
then once you unpack all of that stuff and you start to realize where you're
100% responsible for everything that happened you get to go and have that
Congress and you call one out on yourself and I
know that it's uncomfortable I know this is the part that your ego is gonna go
hey why no but they did this and then it put all that aside and bring yourself
back to that commitment if you guys have any questions about anything I covered
right now I'm happy to stay on here and answer anything anything that came up
for you that you want to share I know we're in a little bit of a delay here so
I'm happy to chill here for for a few minutes if you guys are called to share
anything but yeah this is like so so so important and can save you so much
heartache and frustration because eventually you're gonna come to this and
sometimes you guys are already separated at at that point and then you're just
left with guilt guilt and shame and then you have to do all this other work that
we do with people about forgiving their parents or their spouses or just so much
easier in the moment honestly like I'm so grateful that I have these tools I'm
so grateful that I have this ability to to see this stuff in the moment and and
moreso share it you know like all these people they're many many of you guys are
working with us in one way or another and you know just the ability to share
this and have you guys take this in your world and impact your spouse's and and
loved ones and partners and children is just absolutely amazing so yeah if
unless anyone has any other questions
Kevin I love that your daughter gets to reap the benefits of the maturity took
to put the relationship first family strong yeah and and that's such a good
point because as your kids mimic how you operate with your spouse more than
anything else it's not will you tell them how to be it's what they see you
being and so having that ability to process this in a very very quick and
timely manner so that you can get back into that thing which you are committed
to in the first place is absolutely massive
all right so if there are no questions I just want to thank you all who were here
participating commenting this was something that I was for the last week
really just wanting to share and and trying to figure out how to do it so I'd
love to hear from you guys in the comment box if this impacted you please
let me know and what you took away from this and how you're gonna have this live
on through action in your life and if there's anyone in your life that you
feel called that has some sort of experience right now in a relationship
that you think this would make a whisper this would give them some freedom or
inside please please please share this this is a I know this is a quite a
personal Roth message but I would love to get this out there so love you guys
thank you so much we'll see you soon
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Can you win when the market is down in Dubai? - Duration: 5:36.
- So potentially you can save around AED100 000 - 200 000.
- Hi everyone!
- My name is Denis and I'm a real estate agent in Dubai.
- Whenever I meet somebody and they know that I'm a real estate agent ...
- they always ask me: "How is the market?"
- It's a very common question that I can hear on different events, parties ...
- and when we just meet with the friends.
- Well, as we know the market is down right now ...
- but is it good or is it bad?
- When we hear that the market is down we associate it with some negative emotions ...
- and obviously, there are some reasons behind it.
- Because the sellers they have some issues they struggle when the market is down ...
- but obviously, the buyers are happy during this time.
- So the owners, not all of them, I will explain later on why ...
- but owners are not happy when the market is down and obviously developers.
- Developers are the biggest sellers.
- They have to compete right now like crazy.
- There are a lot of interesting offers that they are providing to the clients ...
- and they compete on payment plans, on the prices.
- So definitely developers don't like it when the market is down.
- Similar feelings we can see from some of the owners ...
- but not from all of them.
- Not so long time ago I had a meeting with a client, he is my subscriber aswell...
- and he had a chance to buy a property in Arabian Ranches when it was just launched.
- So it was an off plan project.
- Arabian Ranches right now is a very popular area, a villa community and there are aswell townhouses.
- So back then when he was buying it, it was really a community far away from everything.
- Everybody was asking him "why are you buying this villa in the desert and who will live there?"
- But right now, obviously he got a lot of money from rent during this period of time ...
- He definitely took the money back what he invested into the villa ...
- and he even already made a big profit and he still owns a villa.
- Even the price of the villa increased significantly.
- So is he sad right now that the market is down?
- Obviously, he is but he is sad that he lost an opportunity to sell it on a higher price ...
- and buy it on a lower.
- But overall he is quite happy.
- Even though that the price decreased but he is still in a big plus.
- So for him, it's quite ok and he knows that if he waits a little bit more ...
- the prices will go up again because he already has this experience.
- Now, let's talk about some owners who can benefit from this situation when the market is down.
- Let's say that you are an owner of an apartment and you consider to upgrade your unit.
- So right now it's an excellent time for you to do this.
- Let's imagine you own a 1 bedroom apartment ...
- and you are planning to move to a 2 bedroom unit.
- And let's say that the price of your 1 bedroom unit during the peak was somewhere around AED 1.5 mln ...
- and right now as the price decreased you can get somewhere around AED 1.3 mln let's say.
- So the difference is AED 200 000.
- And you don't want to sell your unit because you potentially can lose AED 200 000.
- But let's take a look at the 2 bedroom unit that you are considering.
- During the peak time the price for the 2 bedroom unit was somewhere AED 2.5 mln let's say ...
- and right now the price will be somewhere around AED 2.1-2.2 mln
- So the difference is around AED 300 000-400 000.
- So we have a way bigger difference for the 2 bedroom apartment ...
- and less difference for the 1 bedroom apartment.
- So potentially you can save around AED 100 000-200 000.
- So in this case even if you are the owner of the apartment and the market is down ...
- but you are considering to upgrade the unit ...
- it's a very good opportunity for you to act right now.
- And of course, it's a very good opportunity for the tenants ...
- because they finally can stop paying the mortgage of somebody else ...
- and buy their own property because now it's more affordable.
- And what about investors?
- Obviously, it's an amazing time for them right now ...
- because the price is down, developers are competing, ...
- they are providing amazing offers, very low prices ...
- And I just want to tell one thing ...
- that based on my observations it's way easier for the investor to lose money ...
- when the market is up or it's going up.
- Because it's quite easy to make a decision and step in ...
- when the market is going up.
- But once again, it's way easier to lose money when you are buying something ...
- when the market is in the uptrend rather then when it's down.
- So the market is down right now buy low and be patient.
- Thank you for watching this video ...
- Let me know if you have any questions.
- I'll be happy to answer all of them.
- See you in the next one ...
- Goodbye.
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Tin & Can Kiss Scene EP 12 Indo/Eng Sub in CC - Duration: 2:38.
Hold up
Just like that?
I'm Thai. What do you want more from me?
Cheek kissing or lip kissing like the western style?
Good idea, I was living in the UK for years.I don't mind those stuff.
But I do mind.
We have already kissed twice.What do you want from me?
I want the third one.
Can we not kiss?
Tin : I paid for your snacks. Can : Uh Tin
I bought you a new phone
Tin ...
I drove you home.
Wanna kiss me?..Go ahead
mmm
Can we not kiss?
You said you wanna kiss. Just kiss?..Why did you use your tongue to lick my lips?!
Are you a dog?
A kiss is not a kiss without a tongue
A kiss is just touching the lips, right?
That's just a peck.
If you wanna kiss like an adult, go kiss someone else.
I give you a little, and now you want more.I let you take me out, and now you are kissing me using your tongue.
I'm getting into my house now.
Tin, Thanks for the ride.
I'll take a good care of this.
I should be the one.To thank you.
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We Dream We Can Do It - Ball State Teachers College - Duration: 1:40.
Hi, I'm Roy Weaver Interim Dean of Teachers College at Ball State
University. For a hundred years Ball State has had an unwavering belief in an
education rooted in creativity, values, and intellectual curiosity. At Teachers
College we often talk about the power of an idea. We dream we can do it. Then we
take a creative risk and we make it happen.
That's why Ball State's Teachers College has one of the longest lasting and
largest professional development school networks in the country, one of the few
and oldest K12 laboratory schools, and an academy for Indiana's gifted high school
students. It's why we have robust online programs including one of the nation's
largest master's degrees for educators who work with people with autism. It's
why we are one of the earliest colleges of education to require our students to
use laptops and we partnered with Apple Computer to make it happen. It's why we
have partnerships all over the world, and it's why our professors research the
connection between reading and life skills in the juvenile justice system
and explore new ways to teach all learners. During Ball State's Centennial
we celebrate how we do more than educate students. We serve our neighbors. Here in
Muncie we empower aspiring teachers with passion and purpose as they learn their
students culture and assist professionals at local schools. Our
courage and innovation are who we are and what we do, and those values will
propel us as Ball State enters its next century.
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You Can Be An Angel S3 你也可以是天使3 EP3 - Duration: 46:01.
You threw my shoe rack down! I'll throw your flower pots down
You want to throw my flower pots down?
Do that and you'll be sorry
An eye for an eye
Who's so uncivilized?
I'll teach you to dump my shoe rack -No
Bring it on
Hag! You threw my shoe rack down
An eye for an eye -Come and look
Let go
Break it up
You're posing hazards to the public
I didn't mean it
She threw my shoe rack down
It was the last straw
I had to get back at her -OK
Your shoe rack was blocking the way
So are your flower pots
What if you'd hit someone?
Exactly
I wasn't really going to throw the flower pot down
I was just trying to scare her
I didn't mean to throw the shoe rack down either
I was only threatening you
But you got into a tussle with me
I lost my grip and you weren't holding on to it
That's how the rack fell to the ground
Stop accusing me
You were at fault, yet you're putting the blame on me
All right, please don't fight anymore
He started the trouble. Tell him to shut up
Shut up -Shut up
Stop it
Enough is enough
Shall I film a video of you fighting and post it online...
for everyone and your children to see?
Be glad the shoe rack didn't hit anyone
Had someone got injured,
who was going to answer for it?
What if someone had got killed?
A life would've been lost
How would you pay for it?
We've received a complaint of high-rise littering
Come with us to assist us in our investigation
He's the culprit -Not me. It's her
Stop fighting
I've spoken to Eve about her preferred care plan
She'd like to assign power of attorney to her sister Ada
She also hopes to be discharged...
and receive end-of-life care at home
We'll abide by Eve's decision...
and provide medical care after she's discharged...
so that she's well taken care of
You're just telling her to go home and wait for her time to be up
We understand how you feel
But this is your sister's last wish...
and last request
Please put yourself in her shoes
Ada
I really wish to go home
Let me go home
Another thing
There will come a time...
when I'm no longer conscious,
and have to be on life support
Please put an end to everything for me
No
Ever since we lost our parents,
we've only had each other
I can't let you leave
How do you expect me to do it?
I'm sure Eve has a clear idea of what she wants
Please respect her decision
This is my sister
I'm not as hard-hearted as you
I can't accept it in a matter-of-fact way
You've power of attorney over Eve
You've to understand and accept her wish,
and make decisions for her should it become necessary
If I'm mentally incapacitated,
hanging in there...
will be meaningless
But...
Ms Ada
You love your sister
But you'd want her to have peace of mind too
What she needs most is your support
Darn it! Thanks to that old woman,
I was taken away for interrogation
You can't blame her, Mr Fong
You were partly responsible for what happened
You don't understand
It's been more than six months since that woman moved in
She fights with me day in and day out
Thanks to her, I was taken away by the police
I'll even have to go to court
Don't worry too much, Mr Fong
A friend of mine is a lawyer
Feel free to consult him. He'll help you
I'll pass you his contact number
Thank you so much
Don't mention it
Mr Fong, how often do you tidy your flat?
When I think it's dirty
So when was the last time you tidied it?
I can't remember
Mr Fong, your flat is too cluttered
And there's dust everywhere
I dare not touch areas which are out of my reach...
in case I fall
As you know, old folks can't afford to fall
Good, Mr Fong. Prevention is better than cure
During the first visit,
check whether the environment is clean and comfortable
Look out for anything that's hazardous to safety or needs improvement
For example, is the flat so cluttered it has little walking space?
Are there no railings or anti-slip floor tiles in the bathroom?
Got it
If senior patients need these facilities,
we'll ask social workers to apply for a subsidy for them...
through EASE (Enhancement for Active Seniors)
Good
Mr Fong, we'll start examining you
I miss my old neighbour
We'd go for a coffee and a chat together
But the woman next door...
gives me nothing but trouble
I don't feel like staying at home at all
All right, here we go
36.5 degrees C
OK, stretch out your arm
Relax
Uncle, relax, OK?
137/84 mmHg
Good
Your oxygen saturation level is 94%
OK?
Next, your blood sugar level
OK, press on it for me
The reading is 5.2 mmol/L
I'll take a look at your legs
OK, the middle part
Legs are not swollen
Mr Fong, I'll check your lungs now
Your back
Inhale
OK, very good
Do you sleep well?
Not too bad, but I still get breathless at night
Do you place the inhaler by the side of your headboard?
Yes
I'll teach you a simple breathing technique...
to improve your lung capacity
Sit up. OK
Relax your neck and shoulder muscles
Relax
Breathe in through your nose for two seconds
Keep your mouth closed
Slowly breathe out through pursed lips
Good
Very good
Practise it every day
I'll teach you another lung exercise
Give me a minute
Mr Fong
This is fun. It's called blowing bubbles
Breathe in through your nose,
and breathe out through the straw
Do it slowly
Breathe in
OK
Like this?
Fun, isn't it?
You have to practise it every day too
Mr Fong, you don't open your windows
And your flat is cluttered. There's dust everywhere
Let me open the windows for you
No... If it rains,
rain water will get in and my things will become wet
Then at least get rid of the dust
You want to do it now?
Don't bother. You're busy
I can't let you do the cleaning
It's not your job
Never mind, I'll be done in a jiffy
Jin Siyan, we've another patient to visit
Leave it. I'll tidy the flat when I have time
Where do you keep your meds, Mr Fong?
Over here
Jin Siyan, give me a hand
Thank you
Patients take different meds at different times of the day
We'll prepare the meds for them...
and put the correct dosage in the pill organizers
It's easier for them to take their meds that way
And the next time we come,
we'll know whether they forget to take their meds
OK, I'll leave it to you
Mr Fong, we'll put your medicines in the pill organizer for you
Take them as prescribed, OK?
If you feel uncomfortable,
there are my name and contact number here,
and the hospital hotline
The next page is your hospitalization record
This is the prescription from your doctor
If you go to a polyclinic to see a doctor,
make sure you take this letter with you
If you really cared about Mr Fong's health,
you should've let me tidy his flat
Too much dust is bad for his breathing
I know you're keen to help him, Ms Jin Siyan
But we've to visit another patient
Dusting the flat wouldn't take up too much time
It won't be a good job done if you do it in haste
We don't just do the right thing, we've to do it at the right time
Understand?
Come on
Mr Yuen
Are you all right?
I'm fine
Good. You've been quiet since we stepped out of the ward
I thought you were feeling unwell
Are you asking about my relationship with Eve?
I can understand if you don't wish to tell me
The nurse in charge and I will be professional in handling the case
I was in a relationship with Eve for a few years
But we broke up over a year ago
Ada thinks I've let Eve down and is rather hostile towards me
She might be prejudiced against CCT because of me
I don't think she's picking on you
Her loved one's time is near
It's natural for her to get emotional
I understand, and I know what to do
Thanks, Sister Wong
Thanks, Nurse Yuen
Mr Chan, your crotch is itchy because...
you have tinea cruris
I'll let the doctor know. He'll prescribe some medicine for you
Is it serious?
Don't worry, follow the doctor's advice and you'll recover
Just don't scratch it when it itches, OK?
Sister Neo
Can you do it or not?
Go away! Get someone more professional here
I'm so sorry, Mr Yap
What's the matter?
I can't find any vein, Sister Neo
Don't be nervous. Take a deep breath and try again
What? You want her to try again?
Give her another chance
She can do it. Have faith in her
We'll do it one more time, Mr Yap
Here I go, Mr Yap
Not bad, Yuan Kai
You were fast in your response
We all are
No. When I was a new nurse, I was often bullied by patients
But you've the patients under your thumb
True. Yuan Kai, Xiaorou and I became staff nurses at the same time
But Yuan Kai's performance has been the best so far
Sisters and even doctors have given you their approval
I'm not as good as you. You're a graduate and a scholar
At the rate you're going,
you might become our nurse manager in time to come
Not nurse manager but nurse clinician
My ultimate goal is to become an APN
I'll strive to make it come true
We'll look forward to it
You're so quiet, Xiaorou
I envy you
I can't even perform a blood test properly
You're not to blame
Some patients have veins that aren't palpable or easy to find
I've been on the job for a few years,
but there are times when I can't find the veins either
Don't take it to heart, OK?
You scared me
You're forever so timid
We've got off from work. Why are you still around?
I've something to do
What's that?
My work diary
You take your work so seriously? Let me have a look
Nothing interesting. You'll laugh at it
I won't. Don't be so petty
You mustn't laugh at it
"I took a blood sample from a patient today
"He got upset as I couldn't find the vein
"I felt like giving up,
"but Sister asked me to calm down and try again,
"and I made it"
Don't go on anymore
One more paragraph
"It's a stellar team I'm working with
"They always stay calm in a crisis
"I feel so envious
"I'll continue to strive and learn from them"
Why do you have so little confidence in yourself?
I'm not as outstanding as you and Yingjie
You take your job seriously
I'm sure you'll become a good nurse
Taking your job seriously is no guarantee you'll be a good nurse
Tell me - why did you become a nurse?
I didn't do well academically
When I got my result slip,
I didn't know what course to take
I supposed I was good at taking care of others
So I took up nursing
Ever since I joined nursing,
I've regarded it as my calling
My goal is to become an outstanding APN...
just like my uncle
You must have faith in what you do
Only then will you be committed
Do you think I can be as good as you?
Why not?
Our dreams make us who we are
Let's strive together
Thanks, I'll work hard
That's better
The meds are enough to see her through another 13 days
Mdm Sim, did you forget to take your medicines again?
You've to take the antibiotics...
for the wounds to heal
Sorry, I've got a poor memory now because of my age
See for yourself. Is the blood sugar level satisfactory?
I don't know how to read it
I really watch my diet
I go for less salt and less sugar every meal
Really?
But I smell durian
I only had one or two pieces
Your wounds still haven't healed
If they get worse, you'll have to be admitted
Your leg might even be amputated
I don't want to lose a leg
Stop scaring me
I'm not scaring you
You've to know that if you don't control your blood sugar level,
the consequences will be dire
My wounds aren't getting better?
I was told...
the healing cream works wonders in healing wounds
I'm trying it out
Can you show it to me?
Mdm Sim, this cream isn't suitable for people with diabetes
Stop applying it
Don't believe everything you're told
They don't understand your condition
Let me dress your wounds
Bear with it
He may be a terrible guy,
but he's quite proficient at his job
Mdm Sim, be careful of what you hear
Don't treat your wounds using ways that aren't clinically proven
And be mindful of what you eat. Take your meds as prescribed
No durian or soft drinks, OK?
All right, I won't dare do it any more
So when will my wounds heal?
When I don't have to come any more
We'll be going
One moment
Can you take a look at the plug of my kettle?
OK
You know how to fix a plug?
Take a look
Sometimes it's working, sometimes it's not
I'll take a look
Thanks
Sorry to trouble you
The plug is quite old
The wires have come loose
I'll fix it for you
Very good
The patients' conditions and medications are clearly stated
Everything is organized
What can I do?
My senior does things in whimsical and arbitrary ways
I've to give my all
What do you mean?
When do I do things in whimsical and arbitrary ways?
You don't?
You said we had no time to tidy Mr Fong's flat
Yet you had the time to fix the plug for Mdm Sim
I'm a man of principle
I never do things on a whim
You misjudge because you don't know my principles
That's your problem, not mine
OK, tell me your principles
Only people with the same IQ as me can comprehend them
You won't understand
Granted you've a high IQ,
and are true to your principles
That's why you use a dating app to meet girls despite having a girlfriend?
That she's my girlfriend means she's yet to become my wife
Until we're married,
we both have the right to make friends of the opposite sex
Getting to know other women doesn't mean I'm playing the field
Hello, I'll make a move
Bye
See you, Sister Wong
Bye
You're still around?
How did the house calls go today?
The house calls were OK,
but I've a problem with my mentor
What did Sunny do?
We were in a team today
He said he'd walk, and asked me to take a bus
He claimed it was to make me adapt to changes
At the first patient's place,
I wanted to tidy the flat as it was dusty
He wouldn't let me. He said we didn't have the time
But he had the time to fix a plug at the second patient's flat
He's always contradicting himself
I don't know how to work with him
Sunny has his own ways of doing things
But I believe he has his reasons
That'd better be so
You need to go through a storming stage before you'll get along
Give both of you some time
By the way, I've a hospice case for you
Eve Koh, end stage renal failure
She's only 35?
Her sister Ada has yet to come to terms with her condition
She's quite emotional
When you meet Ada during the house calls,
be mentally prepared that you might get rebuffed
Got it
In a hospice case, besides alleviating the pain of the patient,
we also have to solace the family and give them support and assistance
Sister Sarah is Ms Koh's ACP (Advance Care Planning) Facilitator,
and a friend of the Kohs
You can find out more about Ms Koh's condition from her
Got it, thanks
Sister Sarah
You've knocked off?
I came over as soon as I got off work. Aren't I sweet?
I'm on the night shift. Go home to have dinner with Aunt
Don't tell me what to do, not at my age
Can't be helped. I don't trust you
That's so hurtful
OK, I'll go home to eat with Lilian Baby
Get on with your work. Don't miss me
Bye
Bye
Sister Sarah -Siyan
You're very close to our team's Sunny?
So-so
I've something to ask you
Sister Wong has put me in charge of Ms Koh's case
I hear you're good friends with her and her sis
Yes
Dr Goh added tranquilizer to Mr Chong's prescription
Give it to him if need be
Bed 6's Mr Lam has fluctuating blood pressure
Ask the nurse on duty to monitor his condition
Check his BP every two hours
Bed 9's Mr Png... -Mr Yuen
It's my job to go through the reports and give instructions to the nurses
If you do my job, what will I do?
Sorry
I got carried away and...
Using work to numb yourself...
will not fill the void in your heart
Sorry, I've mixed feelings
I don't know what I can do to make her feel better
If you want my opinion, I'd suggest you...
follow your heart
Don't live to regret it
If you shed tears when you miss the sun,
you also miss the stars (Yutian)
You're all engrossed. A penny for your thoughts
Sister Sarah
Something bothering you?
My parents disapprove of my job as a nurse...
even to this day
My dad just called to say...
he's found a uni in Australia for me to study medicine
He wants me to take the entrance exam
This is a golden opportunity for you
But I'll lose a stellar nurse
You also think I should do medicine instead?
Only you've the answer to that
I prefer to be a nurse
But they just won't listen
I can't just ignore their feelings
Let me ask you
What would you do when a patient refuses to cooperate?
I'd talk to them to find out why they won't cooperate...
and try to convince them
You'll adopt different methods?
Of course. Patients have different personalities
Some need coaxing, while others, a firm hand
I just have to be patient with them
You got it
I should use the same approach
I must be patient and know where they're coming from
I shouldn't just adopt one method
Remember that your parents dote on you
Even though they don't agree with you,
you must sit down and talk to them
Don't feel frustrated or stressed
Thanks, Sister Sarah
I know what to do now
Sister Jane
Are you OK, Mr Yap?
He's making a lot of gestures
Stay back
What's going on? -I don't know
Get away from me
What's the matter, Mr Chong?
Someone wants to kill me -No
Nobody's going to hurt you, Mr Chong
I'm Sister Sarah. Look at me, Mr Chong
I'm Sister Sarah
Don't kill me
Nobody's going to hurt you. Cool down
Get the tranquilizer -Sure
Cool down. Listen to me
This is a hospital. Nobody's going to hurt you
Take a deep breath -Don't kill me
Relax
Close your eyes and relax
Very good
OK, have lots of rest
He doesn't need it anymore
(Ah Mu)
Has he forgotten?
(Are you busy, Mu?)
(Why aren't you online?)
Hello, Mu?
Why didn't you turn on the video?
Ruojun
The reception here is very poor
I can't have a video call with you
I see
No wonder I can't hear you clearly
Are you coming back this Saturday?
Something cropped up...
and I went to Cambodia
I can't come back this week
Hello? Can't be helped then
Get on with your work
Take care
Hello?
You too. Don't overwork yourself
By the way ... -Hello?
Can you do something for me?
OK, got it
Hello, Mu?
Hello?
Who are we waiting for, Chief?
Here she comes
Why did you ask me out on a weekend?
Where are your manners? -Mrs Xia
Excuse me?
You're curious about my principles
I shall be kind and blow your mind
Come on, guys
Careful, the floor's wet
Thanks, Chief
I'm done with this box
Sure, Mrs Xia
Don't be mad, Mrs Xia
We'll clean the house together
Mrs Xia
Let me
Sunny, it's not like I've no kids or I'm living in poverty
I feel so bad you're cleaning my flat for me
Never mind, these rascals have a lot of time on their hands anyway
They'll get themselves into trouble...
if they don't do voluntary work
Have something to drink
Thank you, Mrs Xia
That's enough
What are your names?
I'm Rocky
Dabing
What about you? -Oscar
My name is Xu Weida
They call me Fatty Da because of my size
How long have you served your chief? What's your organization?
We do call him chief,
but there isn't any organization
No organization? How did you get to know him then?
My dad was an alcoholic
When he came home at night, he'd get violent
I often sat at the coffee shop till daybreak
Then I ran into Chief
When he found out my case, he was very concerned
He got a social worker to counsel my dad
I met some gangsters near my school
They bullied me and made me pay them protection money
I'd have to join them otherwise
I told the school counsellor and he took me to Chief
Why Sunny?
Chief is a voluntary worker
He says not everybody who does wrong gets a second chance
He asks us not to make mistakes and live in regret
I've got the wrong idea about him
He's trying to help these problematic teens
Sunny, thank you so much. My flat is now spick and span
Even the air is fresher, isn't it?
Indeed
I can breathe better too
The environment affects our health
If you need help, I'll contact a welfare organization for you
They'll come regularly to clean your flat
But you also have to keep your flat clean and tidy
No need. I'm able-bodied
The welfare organizations should help people who really need help
You feel bad about receiving help?
It makes me feel useless
In that case, you should reciprocate...
by helping others
I can do voluntary work at my age?
Why not?
If you're keen, I'll make the arrangements for you
Sure. I won't be idle anymore
It's set -Sure
The weather is warm. Have some herbal tea to cool yourself
How much is it?
We're colleagues. My treat
Thank you
You're quite nice to them, buying them lunch
It's their reward for all the hard work in the morning
It's just a meal. I can afford it
If you envy them,
go get something too, I'll pay
No, I don't deserve it
Look, you chose to do it for free
So don't complain to me
After the whole morning,
I still don't know what your principles are
What did I tell you? We don't have the same IQ
OK, I won't try to be funny any more
I stopped you from helping Mr Fong...
because cleaning the house wasn't urgent
It'd also take time and energy
We couldn't have got it done given the situation
There was another patient waiting for us
And how many times do you think you can help Mr Fong tidy his flat?
What we did today...
made him realize the importance of keeping his flat clean
He'll be willing to receive help from welfare organizations
They'll visit Mr Fong on a regular basis to clean the flat
The problem is solved once and for all
What about Mdm Sim?
Her case was different
A malfunctioning plug is a safety hazard
Someone may get a shock and a fire might break out
Lives might be lost
Besides, how long can you take to fix a plug?
I could do it on the spot
You're not a electrician. What if you'd made things worse?
Relax, I did a course and was awarded a cert
You have a cert?
Is that true?
Don't believe me? Come to my place and I'll show you
OK, I'll fill you in
It's my principle to roll with the punches...
and play it by ear
I don't stick to the rules but get around them
Rules are there for us to follow, but we can be flexible
I'll go buy food
How are you feeling, Ms Koh?
I'm a little tired
I'll help you get into bed
All right
Come
Thanks
Come
Thanks
We'll let her rest
I've got a maid to look after Eve
Let her know the things to take note of
Sure
Brief her, Siyan -All right
Let's talk outside
Ms Koh's hospice care will be handled by Nurse Siyan
She'll come every three days to see how she's doing
Besides her, will there be anybody else coming?
Unless the situation requires it, she'll be the only one who comes
Good
I don't wish to see people whom I don't wish to see
If Eve feels unwell or something happens,
call the CCT hotline for help
Don't worry, I know you people are very busy
I won't harass you unless necessary
Ms Ada, we'll do all we can to provide the best care...
and alleviate Ms Koh's pain
Feel free to raise any request with us
What's the point?
It's all too late
You were right, Sister Wong
Eve's sister is quite hostile
She's picking on Mr Yuen
Every word she said stung
I must hand it to him. He could remain calm despite the way he was treated
Look at it this way
If you don't like a patient, what would you do?
I'd just do my job
Precisely
Ada might be hostile towards Mr Yuen,
but he takes care of his patients nonetheless
You're right
But Mr Yuen is snubbed even though he cares about Ms Koh
It's unfair to him
But he's shown me how professional and cultured he is,
and his care for patients
Now I know why all the female nurses are attracted to him
Going to become one of them?
I might just do that
Sunny Boy, we're done for the day. Are you going anywhere?
Going to ask me out for a meal?
No. Don't think so highly of yourself
I don't have to think; I am above many people
Sister Wong -Hi
Sister Wong
How are Mdm Sim's wounds?
I told her the consequences of applying cream not prescribed by doctors
She promised not to do it again
But her wounds aren't healing well
Take it easy
It's important to get diabetic patients to do as they're told
Otherwise, our effort will be futile
Got it
If there's nothing else, I'm knocking off
See you tomorrow
Hello, baby
Do you miss me?
Don't be mad. I'll eat with you
Scumbag
If you fall sick, I'll feel bad
You're still prejudiced against Sunny
He's a playboy
I despise those who toy with other people
How could he date so many women?
You bought so many ingredients. Are we able to finish all the food?
Mu doesn't usually come home
I've to cook a spread. He deserves a good meal
He's gone to Cambodia
He won't be back this weekend
What? Again?
Now, I don't mean to say this
But long term separation is no good for a couple
We're not kids. There's no need for us to stick together 24/7
At the very least, you need to see each other
We video call each other every other day
It's nothing like seeing each other physically
There's nobody to tuck you in when you go to bed
What's the point of getting married?
I understand your concerns, Mum
I've faith in Mu
No point keeping him by my side if he meant to fool around
You're taking it easy
Mu is only away for a few months
If I had no faith in him, I wouldn't have let him go
There should be mutual respect and understanding in a marriage
I don't doubt his fidelity
But you must know that...
men tend to be greedy at times
They've their own food,
but they still eye other people's,
and covet someone else's
Not every man is like that
OK, you're on your own
I'm washing my hands of you
Is that your ball, girl?
Can I take a look at the picture?
I know the uncle in the picture
Can I take a look?
Can I take a look at this picture?
I might know someone in the picture
Can I take a look?
Please?
Please?
Thank you
Who is he?
Papa
Subtitles: S Lin, Mediacorp TV
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Can Driving Cause Lower Back Pain? Correct Sitting Posture In Car - Duration: 2:29.
- Hey, I'm Dr. Gregg Gerstin with Align Wellness Center,
and I wanted to take just a minute to go over with you
a quick tip on how to do some things
if you've had problems with lower back pain,
or numbness and tingling in your legs,
or problems with sciatica.
Today, we're at my car,
and I wanna talk to you about how to get in
so that you don't aggravate your lower back,
and, if you live in Chicago like we do,
most people have somewhere
between a 30 to 45-minute commute,
so, the way that you sit in your car
is really gonna help or dictate
if your lower back gets aggravated
or feels better for you.
So, let's come on in,
and the first thing that I wanna do
is show you the best way to get into your car.
Now, this is how your grandma typically does it.
The way I like for people to get into their car,
and come on with me, Annie,
is to have a seat and put your tush all the way in.
Then, you bring one leg in and the other.
Once you're all the way in the car,
I want you to scoot your tush back.
One of the biggest problems that people have with sitting,
whether it's in their car or at their desk,
is that when we sit, there's something at our lower back
causing our butt to scoot forward,
and what you may notice is that it arches my lower back
and it pushes my head forward.
A key that we're gonna look for you
to do is to sit all the way back,
and if your car has a mechanical lumbar support,
you wanna make sure that it's all the way forward.
If it doesn't have a lumbar support,
or, if it doesn't wind up when you're sitting in,
put your head all the way back against your headrest.
You may need to add a lumbar support
so that you can get a good curve in your lower back
and you could be safer while you drive.
We'll talk about that in another video
when we talk about head injuries or car accidents
and where your head should be placed.
Now, this was just a quick tip
that I wanted to share with you.
Oh, let's go over how we get out of the car.
Same way we got in.
One leg out, second leg out,
and then, we put our feet down and we stand up.
So, I just wanted to give you
a quick tip on how to use your car
and how your car can help manage and control
your lower back pain rather than making it worse.
If you liked this video and the information on it,
please, give it a thumbs up and like it,
and if you know someone who needs help
or may have a long commute that this would be helpful
for them to make the adjustments for,
can you share this with them?
Once again, I'm Dr. Gregg Gerstin
with Align Wellness Center, and thank you
for letting me be a part of your health.
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How can Progressives & Conservatives get on better? - Ze'ev Maghen - Duration: 16:00.
Hi.
So, my ninth grade biology class basically sucked.
You would think it might be possible to interest a bunch of hormone-racked adolescents in a
subject like – I don't know – the human body?
No.
I only remember two things from that class.
One was that we dared Aaron Mittleman to swallow a pithed frog and his breath smelled like
formaldehyde for a week, and the other was this obsolete formula, coined by one Ernst
Haeckel, that had been debunked like a hundred years earlier but was still being taught as
if it were cutting edge science: "Ontogenesis recapitulates philogenesis."
Translated into the language of normal human beings, this means that the stages in the
growth of a single embryo resemble the stages in the evolution of that embryo's species
over millions of years, such that for instance at a certain point during gestation a human
foetus develops what look very much like gills around the neck, and that's because, says
Haeckel, according to Darwin our ancestors of eons and eons ago were… fish.
Haeckel's theory is wrong, but it's pretty, so rather than discard it I thought we might
make use of it today for an alternate purpose, namely, to try and find a way out of the seemingly
intractable conflict between progressivism, on the one side, and conservatism, on the
other – a conflict that is currently, with no exaggeration whatsoever, ripping our world
apart, whether we are talking about Trump supporters versus Trump antagonists, the Western
versus the Muslim world, the European Union versus Brexit, or…
Orthodox Jews versus liberal or secular Jews.
Are we really condemned to live forever on the gory battlefield between these two extremes,
to suffer endlessly the miserable effects of this obstinate dichotomy between "forward-looking"
and "backward-looking" ideologies?
Do we really have to choose between one camp and the other?
Well, in an attempt to answer that question, let me proffer for your consideration a slightly
altered version of Haeckel's pseudo-scientific formula, to wit: that the progress of a species
in macrocosm is parallel to the lifecycle of its particular members in microcosm, or
in other words, in the case of homo-sapiens, that humankind as a whole moves forward in
history in a manner analogous to the growth of the individual human being over his or
her lifetime.
Now in this sense, just as each one of us goes through, let's say, three main stages
during the process of maturation – childhood, adolescence and adulthood – so too does
civilization at large.
Anyway let's accept the validity of this comparison for the sake of argument.
On this model, mankind may be said to have spent the majority of its historic career
in a state of childhood, a prolonged epoch of innocence, security, mystery and fantasy,
and also of regulation, supervision and subordination.
For millennia we accepted a great deal on faith, and we were content to be guided by
the time honored codes of our predecessors.
The rise of modernity – commencing, let's say, with the French philosopher Rene Descartes
in the 17th century and culminating with Bob Dylan in the 1960s – constituted humanity's
teenage rebellion, in the course of which the uncompromising rationalism and ruthless
passion for justice of the nouveau adolescent went about slaughtering sacred cows, exposing
baseless fairy tales, eradicating logically indefensible customs, and in general throwing
off the chains of the past.
Notions of authority were cast to the ground in the fierce struggle for independence, and
the need for law and tutelage and precedent and decorum – in short, almost everything
parents try to instill during childhood – was disdained by youth's proverbial conceit.
I remember myself.
My dad was this big, important doctor, and my family was always being invited to these
formal dinner parties at the society of pediatric osteopathic hematological whatever-the-hell.
My mother would send the thirteen year old version of me to my room to get ready for
the party, and this was the moment I had been waiting for: my golden opportunity to show
up my parents for the irrational, superficial, old fashioned fools I had recently discovered
them to be.
I lost no time in putting on a pair of jeans that were so ripped in so many places that
there was easily more leg than dungaree (and back then, I hasten to add, those holes were
the products of genuine, arduous wear and tear – we didn't buy the pants already "distressed"
or "destroyed" like you lazy, pathetic throwbacks!).
I topped that off with a violently stained Grateful Dead T-Shirt that I hadn't washed
for a year, and proceeded down the hall to make my grand entrance: "I'm ready for the
party!"
My Mom would essentially faint dead away and my Dad would start in with how "your attire
is completely inappropriate for the occasion" and "the clothes make the man" and more of
the same – and that, of course, was my cue: "You know, I really feel sorry for you, Dad!
You hold on to all of these antiquated ideas that have no logical basis to speak of.
It's sad.
I mean, give me one good reason why it should matter what a person wears?
Are you saying you should judge a book by its cover, Dad?!
If you wear a suit and tie does that make you a better human being?
Seriously, give me one good reason why I should change my clothes.
Come on, just one!
You can't, can you!"
That's the indomitable, relentless, merciless logic of the teenager talking, and my parents
were mortified and used to pretend I was someone else's kid.
Anyway, this is what modernism, with the best of motivations and intentions, did to humankind's
hallowed traditions: it ripped them up by the roots and tossed them out of the garden,
because they could boast no satisfactory explanation, because they were deemed unscientific, irrational,
or even immoral and unjust.
Both of these phases – childhood and youth – are, of course, essential to growth, but
there is a third and final stage in human development: adulthood.
What characterizes this phase?
Well, for one, adults begin to figure out that rationalism is not the be all and end
all, and that, in fact, a whole slew of the things that make life worth living in the
first place are specifically and fiercely irrational: like, oh I don't know, love.
Adults therefore tend to moderate the iconoclastic enthusiasm of their teenage period, and they
start to look back with increasing fondness on the warmth and wonder of their tender years
(a perception which grows exponentially stronger with the advent of parenthood, let me tell
ya…).
A new appreciation dawns for all that was simple and ingenuous, for precedent and etiquette,
for magic and awe.
Suddenly the silly, romantic, inscrutable customs of our parents and grandparents regain
a lot of their charm.
Not everything, we discover, has to make logical sense to be valuable.
For instance, while strict reason might militate for full-fledged egalitarianism, you gentlemen
just try using that line on a young lady you've taken out on a first date in order to justify
"going dutch" – in other words asking her to pay for half – and let me know how that
works out for ya.
At the same time, however, that the adult revives respect for many of the mores of childhood,
she or he is justifiably unwilling to forfeit the all-important liberty and enlightenment
that was acquired during the interim phase, during the teenage years.
And so mature members of our species eventually come around to the realization of realizations:
that in order to create the full human being, in order, as it were, to fulfill our teleological
destiny and forge a true grown up, a finessed amalgamation of teenage and childhood values
is what's required.
Adulthood, in other words, is an exercise in ambiguity, a constant, agonized effort
to balance the demands of one's immediate past with the demands of one's distant past.
In other words, check it out: true progress entails more than a modicum of regress.
Let me repeat that: true progress requires more than a modicum of regress.
And so it is with humanity in the present era: we have come to the realization, or at
least we should come to the realization, that the unrestrained faculty of reason let loose
by modernity on our faiths, on our families and on our mores – with all the undeniable
improvements that it brought in its wake – has also wreaked inordinate havoc on these precious
institutions in many ways, and that the rationalist radicalism that came on the heels of the Renaissance
– necessary and productive though it unquestionably was – must now be reined in, must be tempered
and seasoned through admixture with the norms and narratives of classical times.
This, then, is humanity's current imperative: to arrange and maintain the stormy marriage
between modernity, on the one hand, and tradition on the other – to combine the adolescent
with the child in order to produce… the adult.
Are we doing this?
Some of us are.
But most of the Western world is kind of stuck, stuck in the teenage phase.
A couple of years ago there was this big brouhaha at an American university – which will remain
nameless – because the professor of a not surprisingly popular course on human sexuality
decided to invite a pair of "professionals" to strip down to their birthday suits and
demonstrate various coital positions on the stage in front of the entire class.
A major hue and cry ensued in the media, and the president of the university, a professor
himself of course (and a Jew, I might add), subsequently granted interviews to several
major networks in which he evinced his dismay, in so many words, at the primitive, backwards,
reactionary, unenlightened attitude of the university's critics.
"After all," he explained, condescendingly, "it's just the human body.
Why should we be ashamed of it?
What rational reason is there for not exposing our students to something so natural?"
(sorry, condescension is for some inexplicable reason associated in my American mind with
a British accent).
And I was watching this, and I was like, "Alright, professor – strip!
Go ahead, take it all off, right there in front of the camera, let it all hang out:
you can leave your hat on!"
The guy is a teenager.
This professor, this president of a major university, this cream of our intellectual
crop, is employing the raw, right angle, untempered logic…of a thirteen year old.
That's pretty sad.
No less sad than those who are, at the other extreme, stuck in humanity's childhood and,
for instance, are all scared and repressed and ignorant about their bodies and their
sexuality.
So let's not be knee jerk conservatives.
And let's not be knee jerk progressives.
Let's engage in the highly challenging but no less highly rewarding task of combining
aspects of the two tendencies, of allowing the thesis of tradition and the antithesis
of modernity to fight it out inside us in a never ending battle: because pace Fukuyama,
history is not at an end, and there will always be more new things that we will have to balance
with the old things.
What are the proper proportions of this balance?
Each one of us has to figure that out for themselves, obviously.
But if our analogy between the way individuals grow and the way humanity as a whole progresses
is useful at all, then it should forewarn us against stagnating in the past, on the
one hand, but it should also make us aware, on the other hand, that every genuine move
forward entails a certain amount of doubling back.
If we were all to adopt this principle, it would help moderate extreme positions, and
bring us close enough to actually engage in fruitful dialogue – as opposed to what we
have now, both in the general and in the Jewish world, which is polarization so severe that
there is virtually nothing to say and nobody to listen on the other side if you said it.
So let's be conservative progressives and progressive conservatives, instead of making
our lives easy – and wrecking the world – by remaining blindly and obliviously loyal
to one of these two camps.
In a word: let's grow up.
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Arsene Wenger's response when asked if Arsenal can win the Premier League this year - Duration: 3:03.
Arsene Wenger says he will be back in management at the start of 2019 – but he does not know where yet
The 69-year-old, who ended his 22-year reign at Arsenal at the end of last season, is looking forward to returning to the game
Asked when he would be back in management, the Frenchman told Sky Sports News: "At the beginning of the year
" Real Madrid are currently seeking a new boss and Wenger is one of most fancied names, according to bookmakers
However, he was unable to shed any light about his likely destination, adding: "It will seem odd to go somewhere else, but I can't tell you (where) because I don't know where I'll be
I'll be somewhere – but I don't know where. "I have had a good rest and watched football a lot
I have many good memories, so I miss them." Wenger is pleased with Arsenal's progress this season – the Gunners have impressed after losing their first two Premier League games under Unai Emery
He said: "When Arsenal win I am happy. I felt I worked very hard and I think I left it (the club) in good shape
"After that, I'm a supporter like anyone else – I want them to win football games
' "As a manager you have an influence, not only on the careers of players, the style of play and results, but on the structure and impact you give to the club and overall that is very important – that the club can always continue at a very good level
" The Gunners are currently four points off top spot in the Premier League and, asked by talkSPORT if they could win it, Wenger replied "Why not? "When you look at last season at home we won 15, drew two and lost two – it's away we were not good enough
"But overall the quality's there. They have a chance – but at the moment we have some other teams who look very strong as well
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- Now last year,
the absolute king of SEO, Neil Patel,
him and I became friends.
He also became a client of mine at viewership.com
and we started to manage his YouTube channel.
We helped him get from 15,000 subscribers
to over 180,000 subscribers.
Where he was basically giving away free content
on how to do, you guessed it, SEO.
Now among many perks that came out of working with Neil
and being able to see
how insanely smart he is at doing business,
I got to see how he does SEO.
And quite frankly I got to see how creating video
and search engine optimization, SEO, work.
They really work together
and I use this exact process to grow my other website,
sexyconfidence.com, to over
500,000 unique visitors per month.
And I did that within six months.
So in this video right now,
I'm gonna show you the three ways
that video can actually help you with your SEO.
So keep watching.
(bright music)
Hey there, I'm LoDolce from viewership.com
where I help you exponentially grow your viewership
so that you can build your business.
And this video is all about
how it is that you can use videos
just like this right now,
to help you improve your search engine optimization.
So here's the three ways that it can do that.
Number one is convert your videos into a written blog post.
Now one thing I've always found
is creating video like this is, quite frankly,
easier than writing.
You know, the writing takes time,
it takes thoughts,
it takes saying something and then deleting it,
whereas video, you can just kind of talk.
You can talk into the camera,
you can teach people things
and then once you have your editor create a perfect video
that you wanna release to the world,
the next thing you wanna make sure you do,
is have your writers turn that video
into a keyword dense article.
Now number two is embedding video
onto any of your blog posts
is actually going to increase your SEO
because people are going to stay on that website for longer.
One of the key metrics that Google looks for
when they are deciding
which articles are going to rank
for number one or number two on search results
for a given keyword,
is they wanna see if someone clicks on a link,
are they then gonna stay on that page for a long time?
So if you release a blog post on your website
and you wanna rank for a really competitive term,
you wanna make sure that
when people actually do click onto that website,
people are staying for a long time on that page
because Google will see like,
wow okay so they clicked from that search result,
they went to this page, they stayed on that page,
clearly they must've gotten the information
that they wanted.
The best way to increase that time on page
is to have a video on that page.
Because what happens with video?
Videos take a while to watch.
So by embedding videos onto that blog post,
you're going to drastically improve your ability
to rank for very, very competitive keywords.
And finally, number three is brand awareness.
If people hear about your brand
on YouTube, or LinkedIn, on Facebook, or on SnapChat,
or Instagram, any of these platforms,
and then they go to Google to search for your company,
what's going to happen?
You're company is going to get featured more
and more in Google search results.
So for example, after watching this video right now,
on either LinkedIn or on YouTube
and you went ahead and searched for viewership,
just the word viewership, on Google,
what would happen?
You'll see that I'm currently ranked number two
on Google for that word.
Damn you Google.
But if over time,
enough people end up searching for the word viewership,
then end up clicking through to my website
instead of whatever's number one right now,
probably like the dictionary definition of viewership,
what's gonna happen?
Viewership is going to rank as number one for that word.
So notice that if you're releasing a lot of videos,
you wanna make sure that you're mentioning your brand
in the video themselves
so people end up going to Google, searching for that brand,
and then clicking through to the website.
This is going to drastically
increase your rankings on Google.
So there you have it.
There's the three ways that videos
can actually increase your SEO.
So let me ask for you,
how are you using video
to increase your search engine rankings?
I'd love to hear from you in the comments,
right there below.
Also give this video a like,
that would really help me out a lot.
And if you'd like to hear more topics like this,
it's a little bit outside of what I usually talk about,
please, give me a comment below,
ask me a question,
I'll use it for future videos.
And then finally,
if you wanna read more blogs
and articles about topics just like this,
head on over to viewership.com/blog.
You can be able to see lists of all of our blogs,
you can see how it is that I take a video
and then turn it into an article
so that we can rank very quickly for very competitive terms.
So go ahead, check it out, viewership.com/blog.
Thank you so much for watching.
And I'll speak to you next week, buh-bye.
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Your Eye Color Can Change Based On Your Emotions - Duration: 3:30.
Genetics is actually one of the most exciting branches of science in today's modern world.
The study of genetics permits us to take a profound insight into the world of living
beings by analyzing their physical appearance and closely related family history.
Similarly, genetics permits us to predict the appearance, as well as skills and any
disease of a living thing that has not even been born yet.
The point is that we can study the future with the help of genetics.
Currently, one of the most exciting technologies of this science is dealing with the genetic
complement of a child that has yet to be born.
Here, we are mainly going to focus on eye color change with emotions.
For years and centuries, people connected specific characteristics with eye color without
any sound proof.
For instance, emerald green eyes were once thought of as a sign of wickedness.
For example, if you have green eyes, and when you cry, they appear to be a darker, deeper
green.
Stereotypes for eyes exist since the start of times.
Your eye color actually in no way determines your personality.
The phenomenon has phenotypic effects on your body, but, there may also be cases where the
color of your eyes can shift from their color spectrum and this shift, believe it or not,
has something to do with emotions.
The color of the eyes is restricted to your iris, right outside of your pupil.
If you ever look closely into the eyes of someone, you are going to notice that eye
colors are not homogenous throughout.
They are more like spread out in different gradients throughout this iris.
From far away, they seem like a single color.
Emotions are not the thing that changes your eye colors completely.
If your eyes are blue, your feelings will not turn them into brown.
Eye color genetics is not restricted to one gene pair, but it is connected with three
gene pairs.
So, you will probably or probably not have an underlying trait for another particular
eye color.
Dominance and recessiveness come into play in such scenario.
Emotions which are mostly related to our sympathetic nervous system – these are our conscious
feelings which are stimulated by any event or thought.
Our pupils also tend to dilate or constrict in different conditions.
When we are undergoing an episode of rage, or we are preparing ourselves to fight someone,
our pupils, in fact, tend to dilate.
Similarly to this, when we are in a stressful situation, it causes our pupils to dilate.
There are also other different emotions that constrict or dilate our pupils like tranquility,
fear, as well as surprise and sadness.
Since eye color is not homogenous, dilation or constriction will tend to make our eye
color more prominent or lightens its tone.
For instance, take brown eyes; at the time of dilation, they will become lighter, and
at the time of constriction, they will become darker.
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What Is Phishing And How Can You Avoid It? - Duration: 4:12.
Right now you're probably either
being hacked, or helping hack into
someone else's computer without even
realizing it.
Approximately 44 percent of
Internet consumers were victims of some
type of cybercrime in 2017.
In the near future,
algorithms will find your weakest links,
and hackers will exploit them,
and then use your devices to
prey on other people.
Hackers aren't just kids messing
with the status quo for funzies.
They're cunning individuals,
who oftentimes have mischevious,
somewhat targeted goals.
But you're just a regular person.
There's no reason anybody would hack you,
because you've got nothing they could benefit
from. Right?
Wrong.
Hackers these days,
and in the future,
aren't just preying on the rich
and powerful.
You still have a bank account
or a Social Security number.
And if you're not being safe online,
you will be targeted by the algorithms
hackers are using to find vulnerabilities.
And getting hacked could be as simple as opening
a link on a corrupted email.
With just that click,
a hacker can redirect your computer
to a site that downloads malware,
which can give that hacker complete
access to your computer,
without you even realizing it.
From there,
they can steal any information they want.
Like your company's list of clients to sell
on the black market for instance.
Hackers with bigger plans can
use your computer to launch similar
attacks on others.
That repeats exponentially,
and pretty quickly a hacker can
have his or her tentacles all over
a large network of computers,
and use that to launch an even larger
hacking attack.
These digital assaults can cause websites
to crash and go offline so
that nobody can access them.
That could be a banking web site,
the Federal Government's Affordable Housing website,
or any other website you can think
of. And you helped make that happen,
because you weren't protecting yourself
online.
So, how do you avoid this?
Corrupted links oftentimes will have spelling
errors like,
Netfix.com,
missing the L.
Or Amazom.com
with an M instead of an N.
These are supposed to be difficult to spot
with a quick glance,
in order to get you to click on them.
Things that are hyperlinked are even more precarious,
but they can be reviewed by hovering your
mouse above the link.
Overall, the best way to protect yourself
in these circumstances is actually
just to open up a new tab
and go to the website yourself.
That way, you know you won't be redirected
to any suspicious sites.
Using antivirus software like
Norton, Kaspersky,
or McAfee can also help you stay
safe - or at the very least,
alert you if your system ever gets breached.
And if you can't afford those paid programs,
there are some great free options,
like Avast free antivirus,
or Bitdefender antivirus free
edition. Fortifying your computers security
doesn't need to come at a cost.
But the information you might lose if
you don't will.
Above all, don't store any sensitive
content on your computer.
Bank account information,
credit card numbers,
Social Security digits,
none of it. Cybersecurity experts
suggest that the best way to handle
information like this is to take a picture
of it, and store that photo in a secure
physical drawer somewhere.
That way you can always have access
to it, and you won't be compromised
if your computer ever gets hacked.
Of course all these rules apply
to your phone as well,
as our pocket sized computers are also
susceptible to hacking.
The internet contains a lot of love
and fun times,
and at best,
cute cat videos.
But just like the real world,
there's dangers we're all susceptible to.
Luckily, we can prevent the vast majority
of them by hanging onto our street smarts
and being vigilant to both our real
and our digital surroundings.
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